Divorced peeps

[cindylou]

I wasn't married to her, but I lived with my ex-GF for 9 years, and we might as well have been married. Debt intertwined, no kids but several pets co-owned, and all that stuff. She has a condition called borderline personality disorder, and it got to the point where I couldn't take the mental abuse anymore, so I told her I was leaving, and that I'd continue to pay her way for awhile or longer, if she didn't do things to cause me trouble. Honestly it was mixed emotions for me to make that decision, because along with the issues which were so bad, there were good things about her (honesty, good to live with, good cook, etc). But none of that was worth feeling bad about myself all the time, and never quite making the grade with her. And sex had stopped happening too.

The "buyoff" method seems to have worked, although it was in 2006 that I left, and now it's 2013 and I'm still paying all her bills, and she still has my house, and I guess it's just always going to be that way. My wife is OK with it as long as the ex is respectful, but I know it's not politically correct for me to be allowing this to keep up.

Charles

She had borderline personality disorder but you say she was honest and good to live with...that doesn't make sense to me.

 

[kx250rider]

Why exactly ?

That's a good question, and honestly I can't answer it so as it makes any sense to most people. My ex-GF is a good person; never cheated, lied, or did anything willfully wrong. She has no family, and like a fool, I promised her father and her god mother before they died, that I'd see to it that she was OK, and I don't like to go back on promises.. I guess I feel sorry for her in a way, and as long as it doesn't keep me from living my life and paying my bills, I don't mind helping her out. After all, if we HAD been married, I'd be paying alimony more than the "help" I'm giving voluntarily

She had borderline personality disorder but you say she was honest and good to live with...that doesn't make sense to me.

I see BPD as a handicap, and it's not deliberately that way. She indeed is honest, and was good to share a house with; in that she would never do things disrespectful of my space or belongings, and she would never be careless with pets or anything. The BPD issues were more about her needing for others (including me) to be miserable all the time, except for the rare occasions where she wasn't miserable. There's a LOT more to BPD than just that of course, but that's the core of it as it affected our relationship. Not living with her, and not being in a relationship, it's a non-issue.

Charles

 

[wootoom]

shes cheating on you rob

 

[EarthRider]

so nan i'm not going to read all this

are you going to get a divorce?

 

[WoodyO]

so nan i'm not going to read all this

are you going to get a divorce?

No, she had anal sex instead and all is well now.

 

[nangiggles]

I'm still feeling things out, T levels got checked again, he's at 2425 which makes no fucking sense, he's only taking a cc and a half weekly

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[goin on 4T]

He is jerking that thing off every chance he gets!

 

[nangiggles]

He is jerking that thing off every chance he gets!

Nope had an open discussion with him and he said he felt no libido change

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[jnevin]

I'm still feeling things out, T levels got checked again, he's at 2425 which makes no fucking sense, he's only taking a cc and a half weekly

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Assuming the dose is 200mg/ wk, that's a ridiculously high amount to be prescribed.

 

[nangiggles]

Assuming the dose is 200mg/ wk, that's a ridiculously high amount to be prescribed.

150ml weekly of test, his level was 151 pre hrt

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