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Did your parents physically discipline you?
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Saintinistic
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Dad had his belt, and still wears that thing too. Nice and thick. Still, I was a little shit at times, and it was always because I would have been more shocked not to be hit round the ass with it cause of the shit I got up to.
Respect that.
When you know you are a nightmare you have to know you deserve shit like that.
Respect that.
When you know you are a nightmare you have to know you deserve shit like that.
Big Rick Rock
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Yes they did... Eventhough I never really cared about being hit since I have a pretty high tolerance for pain. The part that I hated the most is that my father insisted I some how explained myself and justified my actions BEFORE he hit me. That was pretty hard on me since I lived for my father's approval, and not being able to give him a logical explanation for my actions made me feel I was letting him down... Some times I wished he would just fucking hit me already and stop asking me "why" since being a kid you do a lot of stupid shit and your motives are never clear.
I apply that to my little man, since he has is the same way I am. I have watched him take some serious dives and jump right back up like it was nothing... So I know hitting him would be of no consequence.
Instead, I sit him down and ask him to explain his actions, then I question his explanation, then I question his logic, then I question the train of thoughts that led to the logic. Then I question the values that led to the thoughts that led to the logic that led to the action.
Then I tell him what values I EXPECT HIM to be guided by, to formulate his thoughts IF he wants to continue being my "bestes buddy in the whole wide world"... By the time I'm done with him, he is in tears and telling me he is sorry and pleading that I not be mad at him... Then I make him do something to fix whatever he did wrong.
BTW, he just turned 4yrl.
-BRR
I apply that to my little man, since he has is the same way I am. I have watched him take some serious dives and jump right back up like it was nothing... So I know hitting him would be of no consequence.
Instead, I sit him down and ask him to explain his actions, then I question his explanation, then I question his logic, then I question the train of thoughts that led to the logic. Then I question the values that led to the thoughts that led to the logic that led to the action.
Then I tell him what values I EXPECT HIM to be guided by, to formulate his thoughts IF he wants to continue being my "bestes buddy in the whole wide world"... By the time I'm done with him, he is in tears and telling me he is sorry and pleading that I not be mad at him... Then I make him do something to fix whatever he did wrong.
BTW, he just turned 4yrl.
-BRR
stosstruppe
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A good beasting about the backside and back of the legs with a belt, or a slap to the face never done me any harm!
Big Rick Rock
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One thing I will say about my pops... He NEVER hit me when he was mad. My oldman is as heavy handed as I am. He knew if he was pissed when he thru that belt at me, he was breaking skin. So he was pretty methodical about the whole thing. I would do something to piss him off, then he would send me to my room. I would sit there and wait till he wasn't mad anymore, then he would come in, and question me to no end about my actions, and then very calm he would put grill marks on my ass with a belt... But he never hit me in the spur of the momen... For being a kid himself when I was born, he was a good parent to me...
-BRR
-BRR
GoldenDelicious
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yep. thats how i learned to block so taht your enemy hurts themselves more than they hurt you
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heatherrae
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PICK3 said:mine didn't too much
one time when I was a teenanger my dad asked why I did something to which I responded, "cuz I felt like it" ... apparently that was the wrong answer.
Yeah I used to get the crap beat out of me. My mother never knew how much to spank us. She would quit as soon as we started to cry. My older brother and I figured that out. He would immediately start crying and mom would stop. I was indignant and stubborn and would refuse to cry. One time she didn't stop hitting me with a switch until she noticed that my legs were beginning to bleed. I didn't cry one tear and looked her right in the eye. She stopped and I said, "I hope you are happy now." I was a stubborn little bitch and so was she.
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Big Rick Rock said:
You father and I (and it seems you) have a lot in common when it comes to disciplining our kids.
Now that my kids have been to hell and back (and because frankly, they have been too old to be physically disciplined for some time now) there is no need for it.
My oldest is going to get a one way ticket to military school though if she doesnt pull her head out of her ass.
anabolic12
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PICK3 said:mine didn't too much
one time when I was a teenanger my dad asked why I did something to which I responded, "cuz I felt like it" ... apparently that was the wrong answer.
That must be why you turned out like you did. I mean, if that is you in your avatar something went wrong
I barley EVER did anything to get a spanking. I am very opinionated but still had enough respect for my parents that when I disagreed I did it with respect.
UNTIL I turned 17 and was not relying on them to provide for me. Then, I said what I had to say... still respectful though... and they couldn't do a damn thing.
My mom and I never had a good relationship, she was always looking for flaws in me so I had to stay on my game and not give her any reason to ground me for nothing... Sometimes it worked but mostly it didn't.
but, yea... I got my fair share of being slapped striaght across the face because I didn't agree with her and even though I said it with respect, she didn't like that fact that she may be proven wrong.
Still to this day we disagree... We aren't even talking now, which is sad.
I can't ever remember a time when my father ever put his hand on me.
UNTIL I turned 17 and was not relying on them to provide for me. Then, I said what I had to say... still respectful though... and they couldn't do a damn thing.
My mom and I never had a good relationship, she was always looking for flaws in me so I had to stay on my game and not give her any reason to ground me for nothing... Sometimes it worked but mostly it didn't.
but, yea... I got my fair share of being slapped striaght across the face because I didn't agree with her and even though I said it with respect, she didn't like that fact that she may be proven wrong.
Still to this day we disagree... We aren't even talking now, which is sad.
I can't ever remember a time when my father ever put his hand on me.
digimon7068
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Oh yeah. There was a period of time where I'm pretty sure I got my ass whupped once a day whether I needed it or not.
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My parents used to hit first and ask questions later. Granted most of the time we were misbehaving but my older brother was the one making the trouble, however, if we were in close vicinity we got the belt too. A few times when I was older my dad and mom wailed on my when they shouldnt have...
I cant count on one hand how many times I had to spank all four of my kids combined and now they are simply too old.
I cant count on one hand how many times I had to spank all four of my kids combined and now they are simply too old.
radarstoy
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I can remember very few times being spanked when I was a kid. As a parent I take the approach BRR does in logic and reason. Having three kids of my own I have only spanked one twice. I remember to this day..once she was beating up her little brother and the second we were both having a bad day. I told her twice to clean up her room, she told me to f-off I slapped her. We both cried, hugged and cleaned up her room together. I am a believer that there is no reason to physically harm a child, and yes spankings are harm. It shows your lack of control and what does it prove..nothing. IMO for those of you who say it didn't do you any harm, the fact that the memory is still planted in your head is harm enough.
Peace
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Protobuilder
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PICK3 said:mine didn't too much
one time when I was a teenanger my dad asked why I did something to which I responded, "cuz I felt like it" ... apparently that was the wrong answer.
Does he got something against white people? Damned racist.
Yep. Every time my dad spanked me, I'd go into my room and say, "I hate you, I hate you, I hate you" over and over again. I'd always forgive him though until I was 13. He should have stopped at that point. All it took was one pop in the mouth and I turned on him and hated him for the rest of my teenage years.
The worst thing for me was pops would hear the story of what I did wrong when he got home from work, and he would sit there very quietly for sometimes 10 minutes while he made his descision. That was ALMOST the worst part. Then he would dole out the punishment: If it was to be a beating he would very calmly say "Go in my bedroom and wait." He would make me wait for what seemed like forever and then he would com in and slowly remove his suit jacket, hang it up carefully, then remove his belt. By this time I was always in tears and blubbering "I won't do it again!" to which he always replied "I know you won't!" Then he gave me this long lecture about how he loved me and was not going to allow me to grow up to be a smartass little shit and how this hurt him so much to do! THAT was the worst part! Twice he actually put blisters on my legs, but usually the mental anguish was far worse than the actual beating. My mom was a wuss and it never really hurt if she whipped us. We had to learn to fake cry.......
Yep there was a period of time when it seemed like it happened every day....between like 7 and 10 years old. Then one day when I was 12 I gave my dad a look that I could tell really pissed him off! When he told me to go to his room I said "If we're gonna fight lets do it out here so mom can stop you from killing me!" He gave me a long appraising look and said "OK, big man. No TV for 3 months, your stereo and records are now MINE, and you have to ride the bus to school for the rest of the semester (I hated the bus and usually walked to school)!" I preferred the beatings!
Yep there was a period of time when it seemed like it happened every day....between like 7 and 10 years old. Then one day when I was 12 I gave my dad a look that I could tell really pissed him off! When he told me to go to his room I said "If we're gonna fight lets do it out here so mom can stop you from killing me!" He gave me a long appraising look and said "OK, big man. No TV for 3 months, your stereo and records are now MINE, and you have to ride the bus to school for the rest of the semester (I hated the bus and usually walked to school)!" I preferred the beatings!
