Detaching yourself from everything

[Razorguns]

What if money makes me happy?

you wind up putting up the foreclosure sign.

r

 

[puddlemonkey]

Never!!!

 

[stilleto]

swole, are you just moving? because you'll still have your family- you just won't be living WITH them. It doesn't matter how far... the world is smaller now. You may even become closer.

 

[silverstar1025]

I moved out of state from all my family and friends when I was 20. I was tired of all the same crap I had a on and off boyfriend since high school that I needed to get away from and I just wanted to start fresh. I transferred schools and moved to TX. I had visited down here a couple of times and loved it. It was a pretty scary thing to do, but was the best decision I made in my life. I was homesick the first few months, but the more people I met and more fun I had it went away. I do still get a little sad during the holidays, but as long as I get to see my family from time to time I am ok I am just lucky that I have such a wonderful family here in TX now.

 

[vixensghost]

I agree, family and close friends are only a plane ride away. Phones are awesome too.


I've chased any dream I've ever had. Sometimes those dreams worked out, other times they did not. However,when I'm on my death bed, I'll NEVER be the person saying, " I wish I had done (insert dream/goal)".


BTW- I was born in Danbury, Ct. I still have family there.

 

[heatherrae]

Leaving family, friends, and everything else you've always known and loved to chase a dream. I have a wonderful family; I borderline cry just thinking about moving away from Connecticut. I feel like I owe them so much; especially my mother who raised me on her own. And to my sisters, to act as a wholesome role model. And to my grandmother, whose husband passed away last year, who I loved as a father. I am the only successful grandson she has. There is a lot of pressure on me to succeed according to society's (and my family's) standards. You know, job, wife, house. Sure, I have a great job, but there's more to it. It's one thing after another. One expectation to meet after another. There also comes a time in a man's life where he has to choose between his own happiness and what others expect of him. This time for me is now. Is there a happy medium? No. There has to be a sacrifice.

I look at people who have lost their parents. People who have nobody except themselves, and the motivation to grab this fucking life by the horns and push until their heart stops. In a sick way, I imagine having no parents (God forbid - but hear me out)...having no expectations to meet, nobody to fall back on, no security net. Just me. And my drive, willpower, vision, instinct to survive. It sounds like a lifted burden when all you have to disappoint is yourself.

Lately I think this might be what I have to do. I feel strongly about few things, and my situation doesn't foster those dreams. I feel like everything around me is holding me down and I can't expand the roots until I bust out of this pot.

Who's done it? Tell me your story.

Swole, I know what you are talking about. I had LOTS of people depending on me. I moved out of a rural town in Kentucky around all my family to being totally alone in Miami when I was 19. I can tell you that while having "nothing to lose" may seem liberating from where you are, it has its own set of problems, too. Do what you have to do, but make sure that if you do move, you go see your parents lots. I lost my mom when she was only 58, and I'm happy for the things I did for her in the last few years.

 

[swole]

swole, are you just moving? because you'll still have your family- you just won't be living WITH them. It doesn't matter how far... the world is smaller now. You may even become closer.

I've been out of my parent's house for 2 years already. I live in the next town over. The problem is I'm too close with my family. It's not so much moving, it's more of wanting to be gone and out of everyone's sight so I can do what I need to do.

 

[dps1822]

I am going through the exact same thing. I dont want to disappoint my family by leaving plus I feel like I would be tearing the kids away from their grandparents. But like someone previously said you build a new life for yourself and everything becomes great. I think your own personal happiness is key.

 

[stilleto]

I've been out of my parent's house for 2 years already. I live in the next town over. The problem is I'm too close with my family. It's not so much moving, it's more of wanting to be gone and out of everyone's sight so I can do what I need to do.

there's a happy medium.

I moved out of state from my mother- I'm an only child and felt like I was constantly under her control.
Now I talk to her on the phone quite often, and we email every day, but she hears the info i want to give and that's it.
You can distance yourself without being completely gone.

 

[BlueBird]

"Follow your Bliss"
~Joseph Campbell

Certainly such advice isn't the easiest to implement because of very concrete, worldly obligations, but you are here for an esoteric reason...to fulfill your destiny, and you are the only, select member of that group.