Dammit Spatts!

[Thaibox]

You got me in trouble.

My girl was down on herself because she doesn't think she was very strong last time we lifted. She started thinking the "maybe girls just can't" type bullshit, so I told her about you. I popped on here and showed her your stats and some pics. I told her what a baddass I thought you were, and how far you have come, etc.

In my eyes, I was showing her an example of someone who shattered all stereotypical bullshit in order to make my girl feel more optimistic about her potential. I thought I was doing good.

However, in her eyes(maybe I was drooling or something) she just saw me going on and on about some hardbody brunette. She didn't react exactly as I'd hoped. In the last couple days she's brought it up a couple times in a "well I'm sorry I'm not as good as that internet girl" way. You women are simply impossible ......sigh....

Its all your fault

 

[Zander1983]

Thaibox, you have taught us all a valuable lesson. I run my girl through two workouts each week (she just wants to keep on top of her looks, most importantly to her) and will remember never to use such a tactic if I happens to cross my mind.

You tried, and your intentions were good, but sometimes it is simply impossible to win and you're just not right, no matter how right you really are

 

[spatts]

LMFAO !!!!

Tell her to come talk to me...we can get her numbers where she wants them.

...besides, the "SPATTSTER" would finish off that bad back of yours.

 

[spatts]

Women are so strong. If they spent as much time working together as they do competing with eachother, they'd get a lot more done.

 

[Mike_Rojas]

Recently my wife and I were looking through some pictures, and we got to one with me hugging some blonde chick. My wife nearly jumped through the ceiling... then she looked again and realized it was her. She just had her hair done and didn't recognize herself

 

[Thaibox]

Wow, if I could only get you two together... ....uh training.

She's actually very strong. Her very first time deadlifting ever, she was pulling 135 without much effort, it was insane. She just won't accept the fact that she's strong, and she won't acknowledge when she has done well. I'd like to make my way out toward you and the other baddasses in your area just to meet you and them someday. Maybe you can show her whats up sometime. That would be outstanding.

I'll buy you a Guinness for it

 

[Thaibox]

Recently my wife and I were looking through some pictures, and we got to one with me hugging some blonde chick. My wife nearly jumped through the ceiling... then she looked again and realized it was her. She just had her hair done and didn't recognize herself

LOL

 

[spatts]

135 is a GREAT first time deadlift! It's not cool to be weak about what you have already succeeded at. It cheapens the concept of progress. Feeling weak about what you need to work on is ok...as long as you're working to overcome it.

It's like when you compliment a woman and they say, "Oh, I didn't have time to do anything with myself today! My hair's just a mess, and all my good clothes were in the wash. Blah, blah blah..." when they could've just said, "Thank you." Always putting themselves down. Then they have to do the same to another woman to feel better.

Damn estrogen.

 

[Thaibox]

Damn estrogen.

That pretty much sums it up

 

[ffknight84]

Recently my wife and I were looking through some pictures, and we got to one with me hugging some blonde chick. My wife nearly jumped through the ceiling... then she looked again and realized it was her. She just had her hair done and didn't recognize herself

ROFL

that was good for a few laughs.

 

[The Red Dragon]

The jealous girlfriend story

It's like when you compliment a woman and they say, "Oh, I didn't have time to do anything with myself today! My hair's just a mess, and all my good clothes were in the wash. Blah, blah blah..."

In my experience, when girls do this it's false modesty

LOL that's actually funny mike.

 

[spatts]

In my experience, when girls do this it's false modesty

Yeah, I call that insecurity.

 

[sk*]

My gf gets jelous over everything. I never even say anything positive to her about any girls, lol. She even gets jelous if someone looks at me or anything remotely similar, I just learn to not let it bother me.

-sk

 

[spatts]

You know, the one time I was rather posessive with a guy (and this was a LONG time ago, I was very young) he left me for another girl. This girl was always upbeat, always smiling, and always having lots of fun. She was a good student too, not fun like ditzy, but genuinely an enjoyable person to be around. I wouldn't have considered her better looking, and she was rather heavy-set too. She had something I didn't at the time...character. I learned alot from that experience. It doesn't matter how good you look, what you're wearing, etc..., if you are a jealous, contemptuous, insecure BIATCH, you're going to find yourself alone. She had the best smile, and it would shine no matter what she was doing or who she was with...I will always remember that about her.

 

[sk*]

I actually like it ithat my girlfriend gets jelous, it shows she cares. Usually the people that don't give a damn are the ones that will leave first, but obsessive can get a bit annoying ...

-sk

 

[spatts]

That hasn't been my experience at all. My experience has been that jealous/posessive = insecure, and insecure = high-maintenance problem. You can show you care and not be jealous at the same time. My husband doesn't oogle over me, and half the time when he sees another hot chic, it's because I pointed her out to him. He thinks that's funny, and he finds that sexier than if I had looked down my nose at her.

Everyone's different though, and different people have different tollerance levels. I like to be alone a lot. I would like to spend more time with my husband, but at LEAST once a day, I want ME TIME. I'm pretty selfish about it, and do my own thing a lot. I'll go shopping, go out to eat, go to a movie, go running, etc. He doesn't take that to mean I don't care. He just knows I'm not very needy. Physically needy maybe...

I digress...

 

[sk*]

That hasn't been my experience at all. My experience has been that jealous/posessive = insecure, and insecure = high-maintenance problem. You can show you care and not be jealous at the same time. My husband doesn't oogle over me, and half the time when he sees another hot chic, it's because I pointed her out to him. He thinks that's funny, and he finds that sexier than if I had looked down my nose at her.

I guess it depends on the person and what they prefer.

From my experience, the girls that were really secure with themselves won't get attached too quickly and usually don't give a damn if we break up or not ... they will just go find another guy or whatever.

I'm kinda happy that my gf is a little shy and not all that secure I guess. I have to admit, it would get annoying if she obsessed over every little thing ... a little bit is kinda cute though, imo.

I think sometimes there is a reason to be jelous, she always tells me that her last boyfriend always looked at every girl that walked by. I know I wouldn't wanna be with a girl that kept checking out other guys every second ...

Also, didn't know you were married. Thought you were in your early 20s?

-sk

 

[sk*]

Everyone's different though, and different people have different tollerance levels. I like to be alone a lot. I would like to spend more time with my husband, but at LEAST once a day, I want ME TIME. I'm pretty selfish about it, and do my own thing a lot. I'll go shopping, go out to eat, go to a movie, go running, etc. He doesn't take that to mean I don't care. He just knows I'm not very needy. Physically needy maybe...

Hmm, I like to have me time too lol. During me time I just work on my programming, work out, or once in a blue moon will watch TV. Everything else I love to do with her.

-sk

 

[spatts]

I didn't mean to put your girl down at all. There's nothing wrong with being shy or clinging to your man, especially if he likes it. It's the "don't look at anyone but me" type of behavior that throws up a flag for me.

I'm late 20's, married 7 years (as of August), one son (3 years old).

 

[sk*]

I didn't mean to put your girl down at all. There's nothing wrong with being shy or clinging to your man, especially if he likes it. It's the "don't look at anyone but me" type of behavior that throws up a flag for me.

I'm late 20's, married 7 years (as of August), one son (3 years old).

I know you didn't mean to put her down lol, I didn't even think of it like that.

I was just putting you down.

























J/K haha, something is wrong with me today lol.

-sk

 

[Liftbig]

i like "me time" sometimes i cant stand to be around anybody.

 

[Tiervexx]

i like "me time" sometimes i cant stand to be around anybody.

me too, but latly all i've been getting is "me time" which is starting to drive me out of my mind!

 

[PCxPete]

ive been home alone alot lately so when the family comes home im used to being on my own and not having to do anything for anyone..

.. i get angry alot.. ahah

 

[slinky]

Women are so strong. If they spent as much time working together as they do competing with eachother, they'd get a lot more done.

Amen, amen, and another hearty AMEN.

AND, has anyone else noticed how the greater majority of women never see themselves as individuals. They're always lumping themself into one huge easily identifiable group. And always trying to emulate or BE someone else. Never themselves.

I also said, "greater majority" since I believe most female athletes don't have this problem. They're already very comfortable with their abilities, limitations, etc.

Generally, women would look MUCH BETTER with the addition of 5-10lbs of LBM. All in all, women have just gotta get it out of their heads that weight training is JUST for appearance sakes. More importantly, it's about empowerment. A physically and mentally strong woman is a damn sexy woman. Period.

Just my .02 cents.

 

[spatts]

Strength comes from the inside out; it's a sexy reflection about the person's character. Add a smile to that, and we're talkin' !!

In other words, I think is sexier than

 

[Thaibox]

In other words, I think is sexier than

Bingo

Lots of good points Spatts. I was with a girl for 2.5 years that was the epitomy of jealous and clingy. At least twice she cut her arms up because I talked with another girl at a party. She faked pregnancy when she thought I was going to brake up with her. She got a huge tattoo on her back of two dragons that represented her and I. Every female anywhere within sight was the enemy to her. I was young and real dumb, so there went almost three years.

 

[gymtime]

You got me in trouble.....

....However, in her eyes(maybe I was drooling or something) she just saw me going on and on about some hardbody brunette. She didn't react exactly as I'd hoped. In the last couple days she's brought it up a couple times in a "well I'm sorry I'm not as good as that internet girl" way. You women are simply impossible ......sigh....

Its all your fault

Rookie mistake.

 

[Lord_Suston]

Man clingy women suck, nothing sexier than a woman who takes control.... mmmmmmm

 

[Exodus]

see i did it the smart way. i just mentioned that there would be a very strong woman at Bfolds training day....... so then my wife got to meet spatts, and she talks about her more than i do.

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