Committed relationships and marriage are pretty cool concepts that make sense and

[Bikini Mod]

Oh dear lord I can't even imagine. The horror

Lemme give you an example:

Couple of grown-ups are out doing grown-up stuff. One dude calls his gf and says, "I'm bringing some peeps over to say hello and have a beer on their way home." Crew shows up AFTER 10PM. GF has a 4 year old who isn't asleep yet and insists on meeting "mommy's friends".

I shit you not.

I nearly passed out when the little girl opened the door. I had NO CLUE there was a child present.

Needless to say even though neither my husband nor I have had children that are that young for over ten years we will NEVER socialize with either of those people again.

Shit, even if our children (youngest is 12 1/2) lived with us there is NO WAY IN HELL I WOULD WELCOME A "SHORT VISIT" FROM A FRIEND THAT HAPPENS TO BE RIDING THROUGH THE NEIGHBORHOOD AFTER TEN FUCKING PM.

I literally felt like a skeeve sitting there for 15 minutes.

 

[digimon7068]

you got all offended over my "michael who?" thread, right??

i ain't touchin' this one. . .'cept to say, that ain't been my experience with the institution. . .i'm comin' up on 17 years. . .best of my life. . .more than i expected. . .more than i deserve

familiar with the term "synergy"?

 

[KillahBee]

you got all offended over my "michael who?" thread, right??

i ain't touchin' this one. . .'cept to say, that ain't been my experience with the institution. . .i'm comin' up on 17 years. . .best of my life. . .more than i expected. . .more than i deserve

familiar with the term "synergy"?

DUDE WE GET IT. Great, that's one example, and not one I've seen in person (I trust you bro, but I know waaay too many people who have convinced themselves they are in a healthy relationship when in reality they are messes).

I'm certainly not saying it's impossible, but a few extreme examples will never persuade me on this topic. I go by what I experience and what I've experienced most of my life is clear evidence that marriages don't work in the long term. Especially not if you define happiness outside of "compromising so that I eat shit half the time and smile the other half".

 

[Sub-Zero]

you got all offended over my "michael who?" thread, right??

i ain't touchin' this one. . .'cept to say, that ain't been my experience with the institution. . .i'm comin' up on 17 years. . .best of my life. . .more than i expected. . .more than i deserve

familiar with the term "synergy"?

i thought u were thinking of leavign her and was tempted to cheat a few times.

or maybe u just Pm naked pics of urself to EF ladies to turn your wife on?

 

[Smurfy]

lol I love KB's rant threads.

 

[Strongbow]

Marriage and relationships work better for "MEN" who keep their BALLS. Once you give her your balls you are doomed to BITCHDOM. Too many pansy ass men in the world.

 

[digimon7068]

i thought u were thinking of leavign her and was tempted to cheat a few times.

or maybe u just Pm naked pics of urself to EF ladies to turn your wife on?

huh? leaving?? no way, dude. . .my life is waaaayyy too good. . .no way in hell that there is anyway to make it better in the partner department. everyone is tempted from time-to-time. . .but i have never acted on it. . .truth be told, i've only been tempted once in 17 years. . .by someone that reminds me, in every important way, of the wife i already have. . .the chances of that happeneing again seem a bit slim. . .but even if it does, at this rate, i'll be 61 years old the next time it happens.

and i never said anything about leaving. . .if that's what you read into it, you're thinking too much. . .i'm not that deep. . .there's nothing bewteen the lines.

oh. . .and there's no naked pictures of me anywhere. . .i'm just a normal d00d. . .nothing down there to be crowing about. . .it ain't broken or anything. . .but it sure as hell ain't huge

i haven't pm'd a pic to anyone that i haven't eventually posted up in a thread or used as my ava.

 

[digimon7068]

DUDE WE GET IT. Great, that's one example, and not one I've seen in person (I trust you bro, but I know waaay too many people who have convinced themselves they are in a healthy relationship when in reality they are messes).

I'm certainly not saying it's impossible, but a few extreme examples will never persuade me on this topic. I go by what I experience and what I've experienced most of my life is clear evidence that marriages don't work in the long term. Especially not if you define happiness outside of "compromising so that I eat shit half the time and smile the other half".

unfortunately. . .what you're saying is absolutely true. . .and i don't have to look very far for a textbook example. . .i have two brothers, i am the oldest, we were all raised pretty much exactly the same, my youngest brother married a girl a lot like my wife. . .he's a happy idiot just like me. . .my middle brother married. . .well. . .an asshole. it's very strange, the three of us have virtually identical values when it comes to the important stuff in life, and my middle brother probably has, and has had, a lot more going for him than my younger brother and i yet, somehow, he found someone so completely different. . .and i know there are a lot of times when he's just not happy, and she is the sole reason. . .he has three beautiful (although not particularly well-behaved) kids, a great job (makes about $250,000 per year), lives in a nice neighborhood, has a kick ass house. . .his life should be perfect, but it's not. . .ponderous, man.

 

[Bikini Mod]

KB, there are many peeps who get into and stay in relationships for all the wrong reasons and for whatever reasons, they stay. I've seen many people who got married (sometimes 2nd/3rd time) and stayed married HAPPILY. Do they have ups and downs? WITHOUT QUESTION, but to characterize the unions as miserable is not the truth.

There is no couple that goes through lifes ups and downs without periods of utter misery <--- loss of income, loss of health, inability to have children or inability to parent properly are just SOME of the ways that life can fuck with otherwise happy peeps and that is where THE WORK BEGINS.

Dunno why a man would marry an out and out c*nt, ie miserable female that lives to degrade and humiliate, cheat on, lazy, worthless skin wrapped around a warm moist hole. I mean, why would a guy do that to himself? I suppose the same question could be put to lovely women who are tremendous human beings attaching themselves to abusive amounting-to-negative pieces of shit and stay with those dregs of society when there are so many ways to just up and leave.

I am the poster child for making the ultimate mistake when it came to choosing a "man" to sire my only children, a man to whom I will be tied FOREVER, whether I like it or not, I can never EVER leave him. My only reason is because I was too fucking young to have clue one about my value or what a healthy relationship was like. We are talking family, friends, co-workers, I had NO CLUE who was abusive and who was not because I was only living the only thing that I had known for my entire life. Once I figured it out and got a clue it was too late. I have spent the last decade trying to rectify that situation and live a HAPPY life, but until my children are safe and with me how happy can I really be?

^^^And yet my husband stays with me anyway.

I fucked up first go round and did it right second time but I often wonder if my husband didn't fuck HIS life up by tying his life to mine, willingly.

ok... I will shut the fuck up now.

 

[KillahBee]

all I know is I have a party to go to followed by the wedding followed by a night of complete debauchery and my hair is ON FUCKING POINT. Wow. Vagina slaying ON POINT, peeps.