cheated on wife. got herpes. wtf do i do?

[Spectre]

gsxr; Well if you truly love her you need to give her the option of not contracting it. I think you need to say it sorta like that, I messed up and this is what happened. I love you enough that I want to give you the option of not contracting it. Express it no uncertain terms that you want to keep your marriage. Leave her the options, don't force them on her. Shit I hope that made some kind of sense...

Even though you messed up bro, I admire your willingness to man up to them.. Good luck

 

[firstenrgy]

you gotta come clean with her, tell her the truth, it will be definitely tought but you must do it, she deserves to know the truth, you betrayed her trust, you disrespected her, now u must bite the bullet and deal with the consequences, there is NO way u cant tell her about the Herpes....i have a cousin whose cheating husband got herpes and didnt tell her, the way she found out was bc she got it!!! AND she had to have a C section for their baby bc she could have passed it to the baby as she was broken out...sad and shitty.....but theres no way around it this time buddy....

Bro, sorry to hear but the above advice is good advice. Herpes is viral and viral shedding (you can spread it) can occur BEFORE symptoms arise. Tell her. Wearing a condom wil not protect you from herpes so if you want to tell a little fib the you think might ease the blow, say you were wearing a condom.
One other thing... Who is his scoundrel woman who had sex with you without telling you she had genital herpes? I would tune her up. That's a shitty thing to do.
firstenrgy

 

[tripleV]

I did have sex with her the day after this encounter. I did not have any symptoms of the herpes yet and had no idea that I had anything. I have not had sex with her since. I hope I haven't already given it to her.

I am going to tell her about the herpes. She needs to know what I've got. I just can't decide what way to tell her. I know a few women have said to be 100% honest, but I would really like to leave banging the sleezy ho out of the "i got herpes" story.

I just want to tell her that I have herpes in the gentlest, least likely to fuck up our marriage sort of way. I don't want to lose my wife and I want her to know I have this virus. Any ideas on what to say?

she may already have it , and now you really have to tell her as she must get checked out already....as for trying to come up with another story that doesnt sound so bad, there isnt any, why do you want to fuck up again by lying to her about what really happened....tell her the truth, let her make her own decisions....

 

[Munkeee de Sade]

I have to agree tell her and let her make her own mind up. Maybe she won't leave you. Granted she will be very pissed off at you for a while and the trust in your marrage is gone. In time you could get the trust back. Don't make up a lie tell her the truth and show her how sorry you are. Express to her how you feel about the situation. Maybe everything will work out for the best.

 

[Dr.M]

you gotta come clean with her, tell her the truth, it will be definitely tought but you must do it, she deserves to know the truth, you betrayed her trust, you disrespected her, now u must bite the bullet and deal with the consequences, there is NO way u cant tell her about the Herpes....i have a cousin whose cheating husband got herpes and didnt tell her, the way she found out was bc she got it!!! AND she had to have a C section for their baby bc she could have passed it to the baby as she was broken out...sad and shitty.....but theres no way around it this time buddy....

I agree, I think this will be a test of love and forgiveness for you both. I think the only option you have is to sit down with her and just tell her that you fucked up, its up to her what she wants to do and there isn't a way around that. Probably the longer it takes you to come clean will make her feel like your even more distant from her, instead of you just plain admitting you let your little head do the thinking for you one night and you fucked up.

Not much else one can say, but I hope things work out for the best. Sometimes a screw up can affect the rest of your life, so its one of those things you have to do your best to avoid.

 

[Draw_You]

gsxr,

Well, how did things go? I otally agree with the advie that Triple V gave you. She's one smart person. Hopefully your wife will stick with you, despite what you did. Hopefully for you she cares about your marriage more than you did. Let us know if it all worked out

 

[Zerxes]

gsxr,

Well, how did things go? I otally agree with the advie that Triple V gave you. She's one smart person. Hopefully your wife will stick with you, despite what you did. Hopefully for you she cares about your marriage more than you did. Let us know if it all worked out

Well let's face it, that aint gonna happen(wifey stickin'). If you found out your signifigant other got the Klap(especially Herpes), would you ever want to touch them again..at least in the near furure? Would you ever want to put your mouth on that person again? I doubt it. This aint going to turn out rosey for this dude no matter how he handles it.

 

[SirMack]

Wow, this really helps keep me faithful. Hearing this sotry has eliminated most of my thoughts on cheating. Ouch bro, I hope things work out for you.

Let us know what happens. You guys don't have any kids together, do you?

 

[guards]

if it was me, I would approach her with something along the lines of "We have to talk, I think you may have given me something. I have never been with anyone else, is there something you want to tell me?" After that, you guys will spend ions trying to figure out who gave it to who...and life will go on.


And yes, I'm speaking from experience (although not with herpes)

 

[Andre9]

Ok, cheating on your wife was not a good idea. But I mean, you really sound like you're never gonna do this again. You love your wife for sure. I can't believe that she's gonna leave you after 8 years for that one mistake. Oh, she's gonna be pissed like it's nobody's business, but I believe we should build our relationships on honesty. If you choose that path, i.e. tell her the truth and tell her how you feel about that situation, be prepared for a helluva reaction. If you think you will have 5 outbreaks a year, you may have no other choice but to tell her the truth.


Andre