Can the ladies explain this to me?

[javaguru]

my post from the other thread:

"my guess is that that are afraid that something like that could develop into a great relationship and are afraid of commitment, despite what they say. People may talk about wanting to find the right person and settling down but when they get into something that could be the real thing, they run."

I agree, I'm just not wired with that reflex. I just don't understand why someone would be so afraid of getting something everyone seems to be looking for; Especially when it seems hard to find someone with whom you genuinely "connect."

 

[biteme]

Maybe your breath stinks and you're not aware of it? Bad breath and you don't get a 2nd date.

 

[nycgirl]

I agree, I'm just not wired with that reflex. I just don't understand why someone would be so afraid of getting something everyone seems to be looking for; Especially when it seems hard to find someone with whom you genuinely "connect."

See you view it as success (because of what you can offer & bring to the table). . . they view it as a potential failure (because of their emotional issues, insecurities, etc.)

When they rewire themselves, then they will be willing to take that chance.

 

[javaguru]

Maybe your breath stinks and you're not aware of it? Bad breath and you don't get a 2nd date.

I carry altoids at all times...minty fresh!

 

[biteme]

I just show up on my horse and take them away. Women can't resist a man on a horse.

 

[TC2]

No, it happens. I've been there. They aren't ready and would likely end up hurting & fooling you if they forced themselves to be in something they weren't ready for. I did this to someone. I tried, but I wasn't ready for the love he wanted to give me. Yes, it had to do with some drama I experienced. I broke up with him on Valentine's Day. I took myself out of the dating game for awhile and didn't return until I was ready.

Java, if they are running away, its a good thing. They aren't ready to give themselves to you, to love you, and to be completely raw & honest.

You broke up with someone on valentines's day??


that's a pretty fucked up time to do it, did you wait till after he took you out and bought you something?

 

[nycgirl]

You broke up with someone on valentines's day??

that's a pretty fucked up time to do it, did you wait till after he took you out and bought you something?

It was during dinner and I paid half.

I never said it was pretty. Yes, it was harsh. That's why I removed myself from the dating game; took some time to grow and work on things.

 

[TC2]

It was during dinner and I paid half.

I never said it was pretty. Yes, it was harsh. That's why I removed myself from the dating game; took some time to grow and work on things.

you couldnt have waited one day??

Do things ALWAYS have to be dramatic for women?

 

[nycgirl]

you couldnt have waited one day??
Do things ALWAYS have to be dramatic for women?

I waited too long already.

Dude, I wasn't trying to be dramatic. Those that know me, know that's not my game.

No yelling, no tears, it just came out. It wasn't planned. What would one day have done? He was okay, he knew my heart wasn't there.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

You got that heart breaker look to you will send them running at any age.