Can I ask you ladies a question?

[SAF]

I posted this in the "Clubs, Bars, and Circuit Parties" forum, but frorider6 suggested to post this here since there is much more traffic, Anyway, here goes...

I have been tossing and turning about this dilemma for years and I wanted to get some first-hand advice from you club-dwelling ladies.

I used to go to clubs in New York City all the time, Factory, Twilo, the Tunnel, you name it, so I've seen all walks of young life from bony chicks to juice-head idiots, but lately I've taken a break from it. Recently, I've been wondering about how we really look in the eyes of other people as opposed to the way we see ourselves in the mirror.

For example, when I see a chick who obviously starves herself in an attempt not gain weight (Anorexia), and as a result destroys her overall look in the process, I get chills up and down my spine. It is not very attractive. The point is that you see this chick in one light, but she sees herself in another; she actually thinks she looks good.

So, my analogy now shifts over to the male aspect. I know a lot of guys on this board use anabolic steriods, and I'll admit that I am one of them. So I'm wondering if girls view guys that are obviously on steriods as people who are obsessed with their bodies in the same manner as guys view anorexic chicks that are obsessed with their bodies.

The reason I'm asking is because whenever I go out, I have a feeling that I scare girls with my build. Not that I'm overly massive, I'm only 5"5', 170, 26 years old, single , but none of my shirts fit me right and it's obvious to people that look at me that my build is not natural. I mean, I'm not a freak, and I dont want to be one either.

When I look at myself in the mirror, I'm happy with the way I look, but that's *me* and my opinion. I dont think that I am extreme in any way, or perhaps I am? I dont know, but you girls can judge for yourself, I've included a pic that you can see below.

So, I was just wondering at what point does it become too extreme on a guys build which back-fires on them and actually makes them look unattractive? That's all I'd like to know. Because if it comes down to it, I'll go back to being a puny 140lb dork

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later,

SAF

 

[bikinigirl]

honestly, i have nothing against people who want to juice since that's their choice, but i have to admit when i see a giant muscley guy in a wife beater or something... i think egomaniac. i'm not saying that's fair, but just an athletic muscletone is attractive to me...

i'm talking purely on a physical level, because if i love someone's personality that changes EVERYTHING.

ok i'm rambling, i'm gonna go eat my soup now.

 

[SAF]

Thanks for the reply bikinigirl, I'm happy that you even bothered to read that long post!

But do you think I look extreme? How would you classify me?

catch ya later,

SAF

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have ZERO ISSUES with a guy that is HYUGE....as long as he IS NOT AN ASSHOLE. The interior HAS GOT to match the exterior.

Conversely if a guy is not physically "all that", as long as he has built something, has a sense of humor and treats me with kindness and respect it is all good.

 

[Kryp2o]

It's probably b/c of the myth with men and attractive women. Most men are afraid to approach attractive women b/c they think they wont be good enough or they think that in women's minds the man won't be an attractive match or attractive enough for them and will get dumped in a heart beat. It's just a classic case of role reversal in your situation.

That's why you wind up seeing some slob with the women or vice-versa the man with an less than attractive women because they were the ones who were not afraid to approach the attractive person per say. Follow what I'm saying?

 

[SAF]

That's very interesting that you mention role reversal, Kryp2o. My best friends girl friend actually thinks the same thing, but I have a hard time believing this. Are you saying that there are hot chicks and guys out there that have a hard time finding the right person simply because thay are intimidating in one way or another to other people? Damn, it's always the extremists that suffer. God damn this world

later,

SAF

 

[buksoon]

SAF, I may get flamed for this by a million women telling me: "Hey honey, speak for yourself!", but...

I really don't think women are as "visual" as men. For instance: the rumor about Playgirl Magazine is that its biggest readership is gay males, rather than women.

Yeah, women notice a nice body and have "types" we prefer (some like big and meaty, some wiry and angular, some compact), but I don't think women care as much as you guys do.

Or maybe it's just me....

 

[§äñît¥ Pôí§ðñ]

i dojnt have a problem with big guys, they are usually eitheer pretty da,m cool to talk about, or just jackasses
i see nothing wrong wit striving to have much more than a bteter than average physique, in fact i quite respect males and females who bust their asses to look great

 

[Sexual Mustard II]

I wish bikinmom was single

 

[Honeynut]

Many people are intimidated by an extreme physique; they wonder, if you're that conscious of your own body, how forgiving are you going to be of their flaws? It's unfortunate.