are you from a dysfunctional family?

[cindylou]

The only thing different about my childhood is being an identical twin.

Being constantly compared to someone else sucked. But I have a great sister/best friend now too. So . ? . ? I dont think anyone has a normal family life. Whatever that means.

 

[puddlemonkey]

The only thing different about my childhood is being an identical twin.

Being constantly compared to someone else sucked. But I have a great sister/best friend now

Wait, there's two of you?


Can someone please come change me, I think I just wet myself.

 

[heatherrae]

I think everyone is from a dysfunctional family, really.

 

[all the whey]

I think everyone is from a dysfunctional family, really.

nws

 

[heatherrae]

nws

Ewwww....that is off the creep-o-meter.

 

[cindylou]

nws

sick! lol did not see the nws

 

[Bikini Mod]

you chose that spermdonor. you had approximately three billion men to choose from and you chose him. everyone is subconsciously recreating their early childhood experiences. we are compelled to do this in an effort " to set things right" you freely admitted that your dad was a terribly abusive parent and it only stands to reason that your mom was in some type of collusion with him. i am not judging you as i have my own story and i will share as freely as you have here. i am merely making an observation. denial and projection are primitive but potent defense mechanism. i firmly believe we all choose our realities. taking 100% responsibility for your circumstances gives you an opportunity to have conscious control. we are talking about responsibility not blame. i no longer blame myself but i am totally responsible for my "circumstances" it is very liberating and it empowers you to help others who are suffering. my troubles are insignificant these days and others take precedent over mine.

I 100% agree that I chose him at the tender age of barely 21. Married him in a ridiculous attempt to leave my parents' home (goodness knows I could have made a better choice and left home for COLLEGE - like my younger sister did, but I wasn't as strong as she was - she also - THANK GOD - didn't get the abuse I did) and busted my ass in a 13 year marriage and accepted the verbal and emotional abuse because that is all I knew. I didn't know any different. But whe he put his hands on me I kicked him out THAT NIGHT. Sadly, the court system allowed him to continue to abuse me with the new domestic terrorism. I had no idea that shit like that wasn't only happening to me but that now abusive men are using the family court system to successfully take children from their mothers using *parental alienation symdrome*. Many people don't know that even with a Final Order of Protection mothers are legally forced to share custody. The men continue to make all sorts of allegations agaisnt the women and finally as the women are now unwilling to share custody, the courts will sometimes take full custody from the mothers and give the children to their abusers....

Trust me when I tell you that I have and am dealing with my abusive past and doing everything in my power to fix *my children's* (and my own) future.

I am married to a wonderful man who dotes on me and treats me very well. Hell, I am shocked at how patient he is putting up with all of the shit that is part and parcel of my life because of my ex...

We are products of our upbringing but that doesn't mean that we are doomed to repeat the cycle. Sadly, when the famiy courts support the abusers, it gets dragged on a bit longer.

I am not the only one this has (is) happening to. The internet is full of cases like that of my family.

 

[layinback]

I hear people say that ; but I dont know. I think I had a good family life pretty much, both parents still married ; I love my dad. But I chose someone who is the complete opposite of him. My dad, white collrd ; repub ; religous ; good with money ; my husband? Labor worker, beer drinking man's man, complete opposite.

Does that only apply if you had a strained relationship w/ the father?

trust me cindy.....more to it than meets the eye! dig a lil deeper......

 

[all the whey]

trust me cindy.....more to it than meets the eye! dig a lil deeper......

True!

I would like to find out what type of a relationship she had with her high school female gym teacher.

 

[layinback]

I 100% agree that I chose him at the tender age of barely 21. Married him in a ridiculous attempt to leave my parents' home (goodness knows I could have made a better choice and left home for COLLEGE - like my younger sister did, but I wasn't as strong as she was - she also - THANK GOD - didn't get the abuse I did) and busted my ass in a 13 year marriage and accepted the verbal and emotional abuse because that is all I knew. I didn't know any different. But whe he put his hands on me I kicked him out THAT NIGHT. Sadly, the court system allowed him to continue to abuse me with the new domestic terrorism. I had no idea that shit like that wasn't only happening to me but that now abusive men are using the family court system to successfully take children from their mothers using *parental alienation symdrome*. Many people don't know that even with a Final Order of Protection mothers are legally forced to share custody. The men continue to make all sorts of allegations agaisnt the women and finally as the women are now unwilling to share custody, the courts will sometimes take full custody from the mothers and give the children to their abusers....

Trust me when I tell you that I have and am dealing with my abusive past and doing everything in my power to fix *my children's* (and my own) future.

I am married to a wonderful man who dotes on me and treats me very well. Hell, I am shocked at how patient he is putting up with all of the shit that is part and parcel of my life because of my ex...

We are products of our upbringing but that doesn't mean that we are doomed to repeat the cycle. Sadly, when the famiy courts support the abusers, it gets dragged on a bit longer.

I am not the only one this has (is) happening to. The internet is full of cases like that of my family.

honey you have been through a lot. i am sure you will continue your journey of self awareness and healing. i sincerely wish you and your family the best life possible. the best thing we can do for our children is to work on ourselves. this is hard for me because i tend to be controlling and control is an illusion. you are painfully honest and i appreciate that