Any Commitment Phobics Out There?

[tripleblonde]

Anybody else afraid of committment or tend to not have very long relationships?

I usually get teased by my friends as being the "man" in relationships, because I always end up cutting them off before anything gets started....

I've never had a long relationship in my entire life and I know this is my own fault, but it doesn't bother me at all.....just seems to bother everyone else around me.....I can't help it if I don't like to be tied down!

Anyone else a bit of a commitment phobic?

 

[velvett]

No, not really.

I think it's more about finding the right person.

If I'm happy I'm 100% loyal and in it until it's over.


...ask me this ten years ago and I would have cringed at the thought...

 

[BIC]

im like that....its a safe gaurd you can never get hurt if you never fall in love....sad but true.............

 

[Bikini Mod]

I'm extremely faithful by nature, but I can't make it to the second date. Hell, I can't even seem to make it to date one anymore. Guys either bore me, annoy me or the ones that are sweethearts - I am not attracted to, so we remain purely friends.

The truth is that my last two boyfriends hurt me really badly and I generally get taken advantage of so I choose to stay alone.

 

[tripleblonde]

interesting comments guys/girls.....i think for me, part of it is being young, part of it is a fear of getting hurt, and a lot of it is the fact that i just downright get bored easily so i don't like to lead guys on into thinking i'm in this for the long haul....

yet oddly enough, i have had the same friends for FOREVER and would do anything for them....not afraid of that committment

 

[Bikini Mod]

interesting comments guys/girls.....i think for me, part of it is being young, part of it is a fear of getting hurt, and a lot of it is the fact that i just downright get bored easily so i don't like to lead guys on into thinking i'm in this for the long haul....QUOTE]


Same for me (except the part about being young)




I just don't believe that there is anyone out there who will truly ever love me for me. I don't even ask for love... just basic human kindness. I can't seem to get that either so I just stay alone.

 

[saint808]

Same for me (except the part about being young)




I just don't believe that there is anyone out there who will truly ever love me for me. I don't even ask for love... just basic human kindness. I can't seem to get that either so I just stay alone.

that may be the most depressing thing i have ever read.

 

[velvett]

I just don't believe that there is anyone out there who will truly ever love me for me. I don't even ask for love... just basic human kindness. I can't seem to get that either so I just stay alone.

That won't be forever.

Hang tight a little longer.

 

[Bikini Mod]

that may be the most depressing thing i have ever read.

Believe it or not, with the exception of the stress I have had over the last few days (they have been BAD) 99% of people who meet me say they can't understand why I am so happy... how it is that I could always be laughing and smiling.

The answer is simple. It is because my pain is very private.

My smile is for everyone.

My pain is for me alone.

 

[tripleblonde]

Same for me (except the part about being young)




I just don't believe that there is anyone out there who will truly ever love me for me. I don't even ask for love... just basic human kindness. I can't seem to get that either so I just stay alone.

i'm sorry you feel that way.....i wouldn't give up just yet....honestly....sounds cheesy, but you never know what life has in store for you and "yours" might just be around the corner

 

[Bikini Mod]

i'm sorry you feel that way.....i wouldn't give up just yet....honestly....sounds cheesy, but you never know what life has in store for you and "yours" might just be around the corner

Thank you for your sentiments.

But for me it is a little more complicated and I don't care to share. Let's just say that for any guy to be in my life he would have to be one in a million. He isn't out there so I will settle for a nice fling from time to time, but I can't even seem to find anyone that I want that with...

It really is ok. I have family who truly love me so I am with that.

 

[tripleblonde]

Thank you for your sentiments.

But for me it is a little more complicated and I don't care to share. Let's just say that for any guy to be in my life he would have to be one in a million. He isn't out there so I will settle for a nice fling from time to time, but I can't even seem to find anyone that I want that with...

It really is ok. I have family who truly love me so I am with that.

ditto on the fam....my family rocks my socks....seriously....don't know what I do w/out them

 

[Bikini Mod]

ditto on the fam....my family rocks my socks....seriously....don't know what I do w/out them

My family has stuck by me and supported me through some really hard times (and that is no exaggeration) and we are still in the thick of it. Even though certain problems will work themselves out others will only get worse and they will be there for me no matter how bad it gets. I can say that without any doubt.

 

[Dial_tone]

You and my f*ck buddy are the only two women i've ever seen describe themselves as "commitment phobic". I've tried every trick in the book to rein her in but she's not having any of it. She is seriously satisfied to just being a sex partner. Of course she's in a different state so it's probably best anyway. You two should get together and compare notes.

 

[sconoscuito]

what about like having 3-4 girlfriends so if one decides to leave you got 3 more left and so on... plus you're never alone cause as soon as they leave you, you'll find someone else

this way you'll be commited untill your married to that one special girl which you might one day find

 

[tripleblonde]

You and my f*ck buddy are the only two women i've ever seen describe themselves as "commitment phobic". I've tried every trick in the book to rein her in but she's not having any of it. She is seriously satisfied to just being a sex partner. Of course she's in a different state so it's probably best anyway. You two should get together and compare notes.

someone in my family must have been out in the woodpile cuz momma always told me i had a long lost sister.....lol

 

[Taps]

Well, I'm 27 and I've never had a longterm relationship either (like more than a few months anyway). I can honestly say in my whole life I've met just a few women I'd even consider dating once, let alone for an extended period.

Get a pet or a hobby. Focus on yourself. I've never really understood why people need reltionships to be happy anyway.

 

[Raina]

I'm going to agree with Velvett. If I'm really into someone it's hard for anyone else to even catch my interest. The right one walked into my life at a time where I was very bitter and opposed to relationships.

 

[Dial_tone]

An email exchange from a while back:

Me: Hot sex with a commitment-phobic woman. Good Gawd, have I hit the lottery
or what? LOL. My friends would be insanely jealous if any of them knew.


Her: ROFL Yeah baby you're damn lucky I'm a walking female contradiction
huh? Love sex, don't like commitment... but I am completely yours. This
body was made for your lovin and that's precisely what I plan to do with
it Course I think i've got the best of both worlds in you. I have a real
man who isn't afraid of me and wants me for me. That's pretty hard to come
by.
LYL pussy (thats how she signs emails)

 

[BO-DEN]

i just keep friends....

we sleep together, we go out to dinner, movies all the (love) stuff only i dont worry about who eles she dates and she dosnt worry about who eles i date.

i have like 3 girls like that right now..

it really works for me.... im young 22

trying to build my own buisness and buy a house, im working hard and dont have much room for MORE STRESS! ..

the way i figure when im out with my buddys im happy its never stress or arguing or hurt feelings...

why cant i feel like this with my girl friend

well i found out i can... just elliminate commitment totaly

see people want the cake and eat it too

they want a monogamus relationship and no commitment it dont work like that thats why everyone is heart broken

just live in the moment and have fun with women/man your with i say


BO-DEN

 

[tripleblonde]

An email exchange from a while back:

Me: Hot sex with a commitment-phobic woman. Good Gawd, have I hit the lottery
or what? LOL. My friends would be insanely jealous if any of them knew.


Her: ROFL Yeah baby you're damn lucky I'm a walking female contradiction
huh? Love sex, don't like commitment... but I am completely yours. This
body was made for your lovin and that's precisely what I plan to do with
it Course I think i've got the best of both worlds in you. I have a real
man who isn't afraid of me and wants me for me. That's pretty hard to come
by.
LYL pussy (thats how she signs emails)

wow....u's a lucky man dt she may be a free bird, but I'd hang on to that with all I got!

 

[sconoscuito]

so you dont like my plan?

 

[tripleblonde]

so you dont like my plan?

but is that fair to the different people?

 

[sconoscuito]

few quotes

"lifes not fair" some bitch
"what they dont know wont hurt em" smart man

 

[PHATchik]

I've been at both ends of the spectrum. There's been someone that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with, and then there's been ones that I was completely scared to commit to. In fact, until the former, I wouldn't even think about commitment. I think it just depends on the person you are with.