Trust me when I tell you that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. We are not all of us just a series of random chemical "happenstances".... The universe and all that is in it is energy (or more simply put - MAGIC)....
All of us are presented with tragedies and opportunities. What we do with the tragedies as well as the opportunities is PURELY UP TO US.
As a woman who had "settled" in the past, my best advice to you is: CARPE DIEM.....
Is it scary? HELL YES. But at least if you decide to sieze an opportunity, you will NEVER have to live with regret; the question of, "What if?"
Think with your heart AND your mind....
And finally remember, that there is no such thing as a situation that can not be rectified one way or another.