Advice: Dad has cancer

[Eringobraugh]

My sympathy goes out for your situation. Testicular cancer is a very malignant cancer and very hard to contain. Once its spread rather than curing the focus of treatment is rather life extension and comfort of life. You cant just convince them to give radiation therapy if what sounds like multiple small tumors, thats not what they use it for. Testicular cancer is very very hard to beat once its spread, prepare yourself and focus on comfort of life for him, be realistic.

 

[benny1970]

As others have said, I would:
1. Make sure you have at least one more opinion from other treatment facility if possible...
and more importantly
2. Spend as much quality time with him as you can right now. My Dad is my best friend, I talk to him every single day (and I live 500 miles away). It bothers me to know that I'll have to say goodbye to him someday.
Take care.

 

[tinytank]

sorry to hear about it, i lost my mum 10 years ago when i was 8 years old, she was the world to me, i never spoke to my dad, so i felt alone when she passed away due to bowl cancer, .. i only found out tht she was going to die, when i told her, when she gets out of bed, i will make her this and tht, and we can go on holiday, then she broke down in tears and told me and my brothers tht she was going to die....i couldnt belive it , and just lay down for like an hour next to her, just my mind spinning, ...while she was crying, and trying to comfort me ...and about 1 month later i woke up with on a saturday, and my whole family were in my front room, just stareing at me... and i was only 8, but i knew what was wronge.. and i just stood there crying..i did not need any1 to tell me she had died, i knew......

sorry getting carried away, just to say if it happend now i would have made it easyer on my mum, and tryed to understand it abit more,i cryed way to much infront of her, which now makes me feel bad about putting tht on her.just spend time with ur dad, and enjoy ur time 2gether

if u need saport pm me 2

 

[Jade19]

sorry to hear about it, i lost my mum 10 years ago when i was 8 years old, she was the world to me, i never spoke to my dad, so i felt alone when she passed away due to bowl cancer, .. i only found out tht she was going to die, when i told her, when she gets out of bed, i will make her this and tht, and we can go on holiday, then she broke down in tears and told me and my brothers tht she was going to die....i couldnt belive it , and just lay down for like an hour next to her, just my mind spinning, ...while she was crying, and trying to comfort me ...and about 1 month later i woke up with on a saturday, and my whole family were in my front room, just stareing at me... and i was only 8, but i knew what was wronge.. and i just stood there crying..i did not need any1 to tell me she had died, i knew......

sorry getting carried away, just to say if it happend now i would have made it easyer on my mum, and tryed to understand it abit more,i cryed way to much infront of her, which now makes me feel bad about putting tht on her.just spend time with ur dad, and enjoy ur time 2gether

if u need saport pm me 2

Thank you, your post gave me goosebumps. I cry but not in front of him unless he starts first. I wrote a poem about/to him and read it to him he started crying really hard, every time i read it, it makes me cry. Are you over your loss/ how long did it take to be at peace.............

 

[celica]

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[thewinkshow]

sorry to hear that mate, go to www.vernoncoleman.com
hes a bit of revolutionary doctor, hes been a GP, and wrote many books
he doesnt conform and belives chemo is useless, he belives the key is to boost the immune system to alloy it to fight e.c.t.

let me know what u rekon.

 

[philipusmcr]

hes a bit of revolutionary doctor, hes been a GP, and wrote many books
he doesnt conform and belives chemo is useless

I dont know about this... chemo in the past 10 years has changed so much and has been very effective. The faster the cancer grows, the better and more effective chemo is. If caught in stage I or II most cancers can be treated with a very high survival rate(90%+ depending on type), and III and IIII with moderate results. One thing you must remember when being treated for cancer is that radiation is used for tumors that are too small or too hard to reach for surgical removal. Chemo is used for smaller tumors and to rid the body of the smaller cancer bodies (cells, or multi-cell).

Although I will agree the doctors do go by their plain jane books. What they should do is recommend some antioxidants, especially onces such as ALA and NAC that raise glutathione levels. The reason they probably don't do this is that there are too few controlled studies using these supplements.

Sorry for posting this so much later than the original, but I thought I would throw some info out there since a lot of people think cancer is ALWAYS a death sentence.

 

[thewinkshow]

chemo has repeatly failed, now if half the people who have it survive more than a few years, chemo is considered a success.
chemo doesnt address the problem, it just tries to fight the effect(the cancer)
what really needs to be addressed is the acual problem,which is how did these stray cells become cancerous in this persons body, and how do we boost the immune sytem to fight this cancer and stop it developing again.

example,3 lukeemia patiants had bone marrow which cleared up the illness, only to find all 3 of them developed the disease again, but the amazing bit is they develpoed it in the healthy transplant bone marrow,to me this seems obvious that something isnt right inside that persons body which keeps making stray cells, this is what needs to be studied i feel.

 

[tinytank]

Thank you, your post gave me goosebumps. I cry but not in front of him unless he starts first. I wrote a poem about/to him and read it to him he started crying really hard, every time i read it, it makes me cry. Are you over your loss/ how long did it take to be at peace.............

na not really, cause i still really miss her. i think its becuase i never got to say bye. my dad never let me go to the funeral, so i kinda feel bad, cause i wish i did say bye to her. but there are many days where i dont think of her, so in that way i have moved on so much.but honestly let me know how he gets on and pm when ever you want. but be stronge . and chin up.

p.s, when i knew i was not going to the funeral , i told my gran, to take (a red ribbon that i got off of my mum from birth im told) and to put in on the coffin before they scatter the soil ontop.. and for some reason that makes me feel alot better now that i done that . dont ask me why it just dose.

 

[usc2001]

jade

any cancer in the later stages is bad, but your dad has a histology that is chemo sensitive. radiation ususally is use in conjunction. i know most are speculatinng here on condition/prognosis, but my advice is to stay in the doctors ear...get second opnions....and go to academic medical centers. a lot of educational med centers (med u's) offer cutting edge protocols. the advatage: some work suprisingly well. a lot of them are cut rate or much cheaper since they are exp'al. the cons: a lot dont work adnd there no guarantee.

if its spreading, of course, thats not good. but keep praying and look for positive examples. Lance armstrong was stage 4 (end stage) with brain mets upon diagnosis and he beat cancer and went on tho win that little race in france a few times as well. ;-)

my prayers are with you and your family

usc