abortion: need help please

[markshark]

im almost positive a girl ive been with is pregnant...i wont know til later. thing is im not ready to be a dad...im 23 and dont know what im doing with my life. shes my age and is already stressed taking care of a 3 year old. i always use protection with her but the condom broke a few weeks ago so im really in a fucked up situation..if i find shes pregnant im going to try talking her into an abortion but of course it will be her decision. what are your guys' opinions on this? am i a bad person for this? i know if we kept it both of are lives would probably get much worse. please help.

 

[ZKaudio]

tell her you plan on having children with her some day, but that right now, the time is not right and it will severely inhibit both your lives. blah blah it will also inhibit the child's development with neither of you making as much as you someday could... the child will not have the same opportunities. As for abortion, it will ultimately be up to her, so don't let her play the revenge card. Regardless of what happens to your relationship, you are setup for 180k in expenses to raise a child to 18yrs old (i believe that's the number nowadays)... have fun.

 

[CO B-man]

Its a decision you will never forget. I had a girlfriend get pregnant and all the way up to the day before I wanted her to have one. Then I tried to convince her to keep it to no availl. I found out a week later that was her 5th one and then I decided this type of a decision was way to easy for her so I dumped her!

Sorry to hear your in that situation!

 

[Gymgurl]

im almost positive a girl ive been with is pregnant...i wont know til later. thing is im not ready to be a dad...im 23 and dont know what im doing with my life. shes my age and is already stressed taking care of a 3 year old. i always use protection with her but the condom broke a few weeks ago so im really in a fucked up situation..if i find shes pregnant im going to try talking her into an abortion but of course it will be her decision. what are your guys' opinions on this? am i a bad person for this? i know if we kept it both of are lives would probably get much worse. please help.

I will not debate this issue of the board...but I will talk to you in a pm if you want....

 

[Delinquent]

If a kid isn't in your immediate plans, flush the fetus

 

[digimon7068]

That's a toughy dude. . .it's a simple medical procedure. . .that involves killing a person. . .Dr Kevorkian went to jail for the same shit. . .ours is a very contradictory society.

I have 3 kids and wanted more so I couldn't possibly give you any objective advice. Think about it long and hard but, at the end of the day, it's not really your decision anyway.

Good luck, bro.

 

[chewyxrage]

Don't feel guilty about trying to convince her. Your in this, too.


Also get that woman on birth control if you stay with her. Condoms sucks.

 

[feisty11975]

If a kid isn't in your immediate plans, flush the fetus

Ever heard of Adoption?

 

[mkazzbmf]

I wouldnt let her if it was me....My ex wife wanted to 9 years ago and I stopped her......that life she wanted to flush is now my 9 year old who I would kill you all for if I had to.


Kaz

 

[hotzie]

been there bro and she had the abortion , shit still haunts me to this day.