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7 years down the drain

stevexpress

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Well, this isn't an ex update, but ended 7 year marriage, divorce is a bitch lost everything but my fucking truck and clothes, WTF. Life is grand but at least i have one less headache..
 
Sad situation, but I understand completely what your saying. I just went through a similar situation.
 
WODIN said:
You know why divorce is so Expensive?
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;) Because It's Worth It ;)
 
Losing everything is actually better than you think.. you have nothing to tie you to her.. I went through the same thing and shortly afterwards realized it was the best thing to ever happen to me...
 
Milo Hobgoblin said:
Losing everything is actually better than you think.. you have nothing to tie you to her.. I went through the same thing and shortly afterwards realized it was the best thing to ever happen to me...
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Same here. And mine was 7 years as well, must have been that itch thing. It fucked me up for awhile, it's a pretty major life change. But it was the best thing, for sure. It'll just take you awhile to realize it.
Do you have kids Steve?
 
stevexpress said:
Well, this isn't an ex update, but ended 7 year marriage, divorce is a bitch lost everything but my fucking truck and clothes, WTF. Life is grand but at least i have one less headache..
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You also have your self respect, sanity and peace of mind.
 
jestros said:
Same here. And mine was 7 years as well, must have been that itch thing. It fucked me up for awhile, it's a pretty major life change. But it was the best thing, for sure. It'll just take you awhile to realize it.
Do you have kids Steve?
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no
 
Why is it the women always get everything? I thought everything was supposed to be split between the two?

Also, if she got the house does that mean she's stuck with the mortgage now too?
 
Carl Carlson said:
Why is it the women always get everything? I thought everything was supposed to be split between the two?

Also, if she got the house does that mean she's stuck with the mortgage now too?
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thank god it was paid for or ya i'd be paying it
 
Carl Carlson said:
Why is it the women always get everything? I thought everything was supposed to be split between the two?

Also, if she got the house does that mean she's stuck with the mortgage now too?
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because women basically have the world by the shorthairs these days.... it's a shitty time to be a man.
 
sad to say I appreciate this thread more than you can know.
 
Carl Carlson said:
Why is it the women always get everything? I thought everything was supposed to be split between the two?

Also, if she got the house does that mean she's stuck with the mortgage now too?
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I got the house (didn't want it though) but the mortgage came with it.... along with all the other bills. He left with a clean slate, but the only thing that mattered to me was that He Left.
 
do you wish you had never gotten married? (this question is addressed to all divorced people in this thread)
 
bran987 said:
do you wish you had never gotten married? (this question is addressed to all divorced people in this thread)
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Not really... Its something that had its benefits.. without those 11 years I wouldn't have the two most precious gifts in my life. At least he was good for something :heart:
 
but what goes wrong though? its just so sad. two people who really love each other, get married and then 5 years down the road they cant stand each other anymore?
 
geminitwins said:
but what goes wrong though? its just so sad. two people who really love each other, get married and then 5 years down the road they cant stand each other anymore?
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I don't understand it myself.

When I get married ... I will do everything I can to make it work.

I am very willfull. There are always two sides to every story. I believe that a lot of problems stem from /are a result of communication problems.
 
I think it mostly has to do w/ the money..
When you have so many bills and not enough money to pay for it then the stress starts to build and love takes a back seat!!!
 
geminitwins said:
but what goes wrong though? its just so sad. two people who really love each other, get married and then 5 years down the road they cant stand each other anymore?
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Alot of things happen, trust me eleven years ago I would have never thought i'd be where I am today..

We both grew... we grew stronger, grew up emotionally and Sadly grew apart.

The last 4 or so years of my marriage was spent working on making it work. We had our differences but never even seperated one time in the eleven years. There were a few particulars that instead of getting better as the years went by... they got worse. I refuse to play games, split up get back together type things, In the years together we never had one break up, and always said if it was bad enough to break us apart then it was something really bad and not something that could be fixed, neither of us would leave for petty bullshit things.

So when that day came that I felt neither of us could do what it took to make it work it was done. I'm not angry or bitter because of it, a bit guarded now and I pick people apart more but all in all I think we are both better people and learned alot from each other. :)
 
Frisky said:
So when that day came that I felt neither of us could do what it took to make it work it was done. I'm not angry or bitter because of it, a bit guarded now and I pick people apart more but all in all I think we are both better people and learned alot from each other. :)
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I'm glad you feel that way Frisky even though I wish things had worked out for your guys. Bitterness is a horrible thing to live with. I remember an occasion when my parents were in the same room together. I could feel the daggers that were coming out of my mothers eyes. Even now that my dad has passed away, she's still bitter.
 
geminitwins said:
I'm glad you feel that way Frisky even though I wish things had worked out for your guys. Bitterness is a horrible thing to live with. I remember an occasion when my parents were in the same room together. I could feel the daggers that were coming out of my mothers eyes. Even now that my dad has passed away, she's still bitter.
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The last 10 months I spent sucking things up would have made some Saints bitter but I refuse to stoop to the level of his childish bitter ways. He was my bestfriend, my lover, my husband for eleven years. And most important of all He's the father of my children... that alone in itself helps me to put things in perspective.

Even apart they need us to remain somewhat of a family. They didn't chose their destination, I sadly chose to re-route their lives... Now I need to make this detour as fulfulling as possible even with their dad and I not married. :)
 
Mr. Black said:
A wise man once said "when you lose, don't lose the lesson"
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:)
 
There is an old viking saying: It is better to be unmarried than poorly married. Better to be in a broken home, than a bitter one.
 
Kroliczek said:
I don't understand it myself.

When I get married ... I will do everything I can to make it work.

I am very willfull. There are always two sides to every story. I believe that a lot of problems stem from /are a result of communication problems.
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Sometimes, even love and communication aren't enough. Sometimes people's lives just go in different directions, even if at one time they were along the same road.


Life's a dance you learn as you go; sometimes you lead, but sometimes you follow.
 
stevexpress said:
thank god it was paid for or ya i'd be paying it
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Yea but if she gets the house, wouldn't she have to pay you half the equity (or whatever your half of the homes worth)? Seems to me you could easily go down the middle on everything aquired during the marriage. Esp since there are no kids.
 
Didn't wanna read everything but I wanted to put in my two pennies.


I'm going through a divorce. I didn't get everything. If I wanted the house I would have had to buy out my soon to be ex husband.

We are selling the house and splitting the profit after ALL the bills are paid. I only took minimal stuff. My living room and bedroom furniture, some dishes...


I left him with most if not all of the wedding gifts, real expensive stuff. I just wanted out....
 
flexygrl said:
Didn't wanna read everything but I wanted to put in my two pennies.


I'm going through a divorce. I didn't get everything. If I wanted the house I would have had to buy out my soon to be ex husband.

We are selling the house and splitting the profit after ALL the bills are paid. I only took minimal stuff. My living room and bedroom furniture, some dishes...


I left him with most if not all of the wedding gifts, real expensive stuff. I just wanted out....
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Keep your chin up! Try to do what you feel is best in your :heart: !!
 
bran987 said:
anyone besides frisk have a response to this?
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yes and no, i learned alot about myself, but the hard feelings that i have for her i wish i didn't. And also if i wouldn't had been alot of stupid shit would never been dne.
 
If you can fall in love, then you can fall out of love.

Prenup is the answer. I know I'll be protecting my ass at all costs if I should ever take the plunge.
 
wutangnomo said:
Prenup is the answer. I know I'll be protecting my ass at all costs if I should ever take the plunge.
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sounds easy now, wait untill your blinded with love...the pre-nup usually gets forgotten :)
 
bran987 said:
do you wish you had never gotten married? (this question is addressed to all divorced people in this thread)
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Honestly no, if I had the chance I'd do it all again even knowing the outcome. To be truthful I enjoyed being married, best 5 years of my life. And even though I'm getting divorced and living single again, I'm much stronger for my time being married, and much more appreciative of things thanks to going through the divorce. Very good learning experience for me.


But then, I was married to one hell of a woman too. :D
 
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