-6 minute convos-

[-Ariel-]

So clearing the speed dating project with my professor today and I'm pretty excited bout this.. the actual event happens in 2 weeks, basically 20 6 minute convos... for those of u who didn't read my previous thread, I am doing a project examining how subconscious cues affect attraction, specifically most people would say one thing, but when the date actually happened what they said did not correlate with what actually attracted them: for example, some women would say intelligence and sincerity, before the date were 2 primary factors in choosing their mate, however during the date, it was actually physical attractiveness of dude, and humor/charm. Point is what we say we are attracted to is usually not the primary thing -in the moment- that turns us on.
This is just the rough idea that I want to convey in my paper, as well as measuring how much time it take for me to determine whether I'm attracted or not.. and what were the key characteristics that sparked an attraction.
Anyway I'm stoked about the upcoming project, and am unsure if she is gonna make me do the same 6 minute intro for every person or not, which would suck...
Anyway my question is if you had 6 minutes to evaluate if you form a connection with someone, or if you are attracted, which usually takes less than 3 minutes, what would u talk about?
What would your first questions be... do you talk about yourself... your job, your hobbies?
Do you talk about past relationships, -whether or not u like rough sex-, j/k...
Does anyone have any stories about dates in which you hit it off immediately, how long did it take for you to know, and did the person fit your preconceived notions of what u were looking for?
I've gotta date tonight, and am excited bout it cause there really seems like alot of possibility, but am now kinda feeling weird cause I will be overthinking this whole thing due to reading all these articles on attraction and not being actually just present on the date...

 

[cindylou]

I would SUCK at this.

I would ask, what do you do for fun? what do you consider a perfect fun weekend?

hobbies?

What do you do for a living?

Do you like your Mom, and do you get along well with your family?

Do you live near your family?

those 4 questions would be a good snapshot of someone?

 

[miplank]

i'd ask if they fuck on the first date....that's all you really wanna know anyways

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

So clearing the speed dating project with my professor today and I'm pretty excited bout this.. the actual event happens in 2 weeks, basically 20 6 minute convos... for those of u who didn't read my previous thread, I am doing a project examining how subconscious cues affect attraction, specifically most people would say one thing, but when the date actually happened what they said did not correlate with what actually attracted them: for example, some women would say intelligence and sincerity, before the date were 2 primary factors in choosing their mate, however during the date, it was actually physical attractiveness of dude, and humor/charm. Point is what we say we are attracted to is usually not the primary thing -in the moment- that turns us on.
This is just the rough idea that I want to convey in my paper, as well as measuring how much time it take for me to determine whether I'm attracted or not.. and what were the key characteristics that sparked an attraction.
Anyway I'm stoked about the upcoming project, and am unsure if she is gonna make me do the same 6 minute intro for every person or not, which would suck...
Anyway my question is if you had 6 minutes to evaluate if you form a connection with someone, or if you are attracted, which usually takes less than 3 minutes, what would u talk about?
What would your first questions be... do you talk about yourself... your job, your hobbies?
Do you talk about past relationships, -whether or not u like rough sex-, j/k...
Does anyone have any stories about dates in which you hit it off immediately, how long did it take for you to know, and did the person fit your preconceived notions of what u were looking for?
I've gotta date tonight, and am excited bout it cause there really seems like alot of possibility, but am now kinda feeling weird cause I will be overthinking this whole thing due to reading all these articles on attraction and not being actually just present on the date...

GODDAMN, that's a lot of typing.

Personally, always ask about them, just make conversation. Some people are better than others at it but, just be yourself. If they like what you have to say they'll be back. If not - their loss.

Yes, you are overthinking it.

Good luck my man.

 

[miplank]

i'd ask if they fuck on the first date....that's all you really wanna know anyways

also...


If she answers yes...then your 2nd question should be "so is this considered the first date"

 

[Razorguns]

Speed BLIND dating.

What's the point? If before you even sit down - you're not attracted to them?

I guess if you're now at an age where physical attractiveness doens't matter mcuh - I guess it would work.

r

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

i'd ask if they fuck on the first date....that's all you really wanna know anyways

Is that how you met your wife?

 

[miplank]

Is that how you met your wife?

honestly?


pretty much...





and yes, we fucked on the first date.

 

[shogun7]

'You must spread around karma before giving it to Ariel again'

Damn you karma system!

At any rate, just wanted to help boost your esteem tonight broseph. You'll do fine, just be yourself and foster some interesting conversation. Let us know how it sails.

 

[cindylou]

honestly?


pretty much...





and yes, we fucked on the first date.

is that when she got knocked up???




Im playin

 

[miplank]

is that when she got knocked up???




Im playin

haha..no..she didn't get knocked up til about a year later. (i think)...


Honestly..at that time i partied about 6 nights a week. and was always rockin' a buzz. So with the lowered inhibitions i'd say pretty much anything. and that particular night, I just cut to the chase...more or less joking, talk about a surprise when it worked. LOL!

 

[-Ariel-]

I would SUCK at this.

I would ask, what do you do for fun? what do you consider a perfect fun weekend?

hobbies?

What do you do for a living?

Do you like your Mom, and do you get along well with your family?

Do you live near your family?

those 4 questions would be a good snapshot of someone?

because

I its weird right, like I'm gonna try and come up with convo ideas this weekend, as I have 2 weeks to prepare, I have a date tonight in like 3 hours so maybe that can be practice, the thing is... I"m gonna try and notice something about them, that I preferably dig, and bring it out in convo... the question is can I do this 20 times with the same enthusiasm, over and over, probably not... thats why I'm gonna do an 8ball, of coke right before and get all hyped up... j/k
thanx cindy

 

[-Ariel-]

Speed BLIND dating.

What's the point? If before you even sit down - you're not attracted to them?

I guess if you're now at an age where physical attractiveness doens't matter mcuh - I guess it would work.

r

dude do you think I would put myself in a position where I'm surrounded by ugly?
First of all, of all the things that I find attractive, ugly is not one of them, I'm paying quite a bit of money to do this thing, not cheap, and I found it through a friend who met his current girlfiriend through the meeting... Moreover, they are all professional for the most part and it is not like a meeting of myspace 20 year olds, which don't get me wrong... is yeah, well it is what it is.

My main point is I got some good references from a friend and he told me that there are some very fine chics that he saw at the service... they do not allow me to take pics, but I will get contact numbers and email addresses for the chics that are receptive to me, or that I'm attracted to.

The main thing I noticed in these studies was that physical attractiveness is much more key than we give credit for most people, and that I'm much more shallow than I thought.

Moreover, I'm going on a first date tonight with a chic I met on some bullshit website I was going to use for karma bookie, and she is very hawt... we connect on an academic level because she is a junior at USF, and pre med, and since I'm going to med school in June, we kinda have something to talk about, but after reading all that shit, on subconscious cues, and 3 hours to go for meeting, so I"m paranoid... but looking forward to this, and hope it works out so I can do the experiment without really looking... ya know?

 

[Razorguns]

Pleae post this link to this speed ATTRACTIVE dating service. I've never it.

r

 

[-Ariel-]

Pleae post this link to this speed ATTRACTIVE dating service. I've never it.

r

Here's a pic from the gallery... they look allright to me, but then again you may have higher standards...

 

[chris302001]

Hmmmm, they look awful young...Leave 10 seconds at the end to ask for their ID's! j/k

 

[-Ariel-]

Hmmmm, they look awful young...Leave 10 seconds at the end to ask for their ID's! j/k

21-34 age demograph bracket..
I know how is that for myspace crowd, I just sorted through the gallery... but yeah, I'm more excited about one hour and 40 minutes from now... date with hindi hawtie organic chemistry is what I hope to have with her... we will see...
read so many articles on technology/economics and attraction/subconscious that I'm kinda mentally drained and hope coffee picks me up mentally along with nootropics so I can spit some kinda game... I'm not 23 anymore, so yeah...
but yeah, they do look young... and probably looking for the upper age bracket in this category, I can't really talk about mtv shit I don't watch...

 

[walliwalibus]

Hmmmm, they look awful young...Leave 10 seconds at the end to ask for their ID's! j/k

No sheot, WTF dude.... Then again, I am kinda old.

 

[-Ariel-]

sorry, they do look to young here is another...

 

[Razorguns]

You may wnna check. The pics on the pamphlets and videos are not the type of women u see in person. But do report back w/pics.

r

 

[shogun7]

21-34 age demograph bracket..
I know how is that for myspace crowd, I just sorted through the gallery... but yeah, I'm more excited about one hour and 40 minutes from now... date with hindi hawtie organic chemistry is what I hope to have with her... we will see...

That hindi was smokin'! I request more pics!