Is this f**ked up or is it just me?

[Thandie]

So I did ask the other half where the bag was and he said it was in the basement in plain sight and they didn't want to tell me to save me from being embarrassed.

I told him that that's bullshit because I already searched the basement Christmas day while he was asleep and dropped the topic.

I'm not sure which one I'm more angry with right now - it really has less to do about a bag and has everything to do with knowing that not only do I come last in my relationship I can trust anyone either and that's really f**ked up.

It's very clear he's willing to make you look crazy in order to protect her. It started as an issue of a lost bag, but I'm afraid you'll get more then you bargained for. You'll know who you're really living with/married to as a result of this.
I wouldn't trust either one of them at this point. You're correct for feeling that way.

 

[BNG]

Vel in a lot of ways I really feel for you. I know this is an integrity issue and you've been hurt by it. I can also see it isn't over.

As has been said he's willing to deceive you in order to protect her. He has yet to cut the apron strings. You are going to have to do some soul searching and decide if you want to be immersed in this. You've only described a small tip of an iceberg.

 

[billfred]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

She does it all the time.
This Christmas was the first time she did it right in front of us.
(gave her other son and his girlfriend things that we bought for her)
I tried to talk to him about it but he always makes up excuses for her.

If I go forward with this I have to decided wether not I'm ready to end a relationship over it. (hence my bouncing this around with people that don't know either of us as a couple)

Velv... you really drilled down to the conclusion of this right there. It will be very difficult for a man to call his Mom to the carpet for something like this.

He wants to ignore it and hope it never happens again or agree with you his Mom is bad and then ignore it but he does not absolutely ever want to bring it to a boiling point.

Tread lightly.. she will die some day and it will be a mute issue.

 

[AztecWarrior]

I think that's messed up. To take it and not ask you. On the other hand, if you question the mother it might cause a figth with you know...the half.

 

[jestro]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

Velv... you really drilled down to the conclusion of this right there. It will be very difficult for a man to call his Mom to the carpet for something like this.

He wants to ignore it and hope it never happens again or agree with you his Mom is bad and then ignore it but he does not absolutely ever want to bring it to a boiling point.

Tread lightly.. she will die some day and it will be a mute issue.

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[billfred]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

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Lol

yeah but maybe I was referring to her husband being a mute or something.

 

[Johnny Cakes]

put ICYHOT in her Depends.

















j/k

 

[gotmilk]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

I don't know what to think.

and now you will become paranoid if anything else goes missing or if you remember past missing items.

ughhh

 

[gotmilk]

I told him that that's bullshit because I already searched the basement Christmas day while he was asleep and dropped the topic.

That's funny.

I have a big house, lots of stuff...and I can tell you exactly where everything is. LMAO at someone trying to tell you it was right in front of your eyes.

 

[Sub-Zero]

if an annoying mom is reason enough to dump him...then he prob doesnt have enough redeeming qualities to stay with him even if his mom was awsome... IMO.

in a close knit family, he cant be choosing you over his mom...but that doesnt mean hes choosing her over you...think of all the shit she must talk about you, how spoiled you are, how you dont even need that all those bags, you have so many of them, shes prolly even called you a slut a few times...and he has to deal with defending you to her on the daily

EDIT: i wrote that before i saw the thing about him lying about finding it in the basement.

id play goodcop badcop and turn them against eachother by taking them aside and saying they ratted eachother out. use some sas and trickery. get to the bottom of it, or make one of them be like "fuck that asshole i told them not to tell" type deal. depending on which one of them is lying (mom to son, or son to you) then id probly kick2thacurb