Anyone date someone with an Ex wife/husband and kids

[seaking420]

I've been seeing this woman for a little while, she's awesome and we have a great time together. The thing that worries me is that she has 2 kids.....one is 15 and the other is 12. I never dated anyone that has an ex-husband and kids. So im not sure how to handle them and what would be in store for me if/when I meet them and our relationship goes to that level. For those who have experienced this how difficult is it or can it be fun as well. I have a 3 year old too.

 

[mustang_00]

use your best judgment and follow your gut!? at least you two have the whole parent thing in common. better to have one thing like that instead of being completely out of your element. Have you met the ex or has she told you anything about him that would lead you to believe drama is in store for the future

 

[Bikini Mod]

I understand your hesitation but here is what I gleaned from dating like a madwoman after my split.

There is NO NEED for you to fret over the kids. If the lady loves you then she will love your child. If you love the lady then you should be able to love her kids like your own. If her ex is an abusive ass that gets off on making her life hell then you have every right to walk away. If you decide to stay though, think hard. Don't start out with a faint-hearted commitment then run when the ex just doesn't seem to die.

There are many men on the board who have gone to hell and back because they fell in love with a woman whose ex is the lowest form of scum. From what I understand, they toughed it out and really made a difference in the life of their lady and the lives of the kids.

NO ONE WOULD FAULT YOU THOUGH FOR WALKING AWAY FROM A DIFFICULT SITUATION. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY TOO.

If I am not incorrect though, aren't you just getting through a difficult divorce yourself? In that case, take it slow and take it easy. Take your time to get to know and reinvent YOU before you choose anything serious to get into. You owe yourself time to heal.

 

[HAYEZ]

dont meet the kids..wait a few years...by then the 1 will be out of the house...kids are a great way to put stress on a new relationship..especially teenagers with there mouthin off

 

[miplank]

It takes a real man to go into a relationship where the woman already has a couple kids and an ex-husband. My step-father who I consider my Dad, came into my life when I was 8 years old, and my brother was 12. He raised us like his own, gave us opportunities we never had, and was a REAL FATHER.

Looking back on it, I'm not sure I would have what it takes to take in someone else's children and raise and love them like they were my own. He truely is a Good Man.

 

[stephen4327]

run...now

 

[binö]

damn how old is this broad?

 

[puddlemonkey]

What are you worried about? She's got a 12 and 15 year old, its all down hill from there, kids will be gone soon. You got a 3 year old, she should be more worried about you. You're damaged goods!

 

[seaking420]

I understand your hesitation but here is what I gleaned from dating like a madwoman after my split.

There is NO NEED for you to fret over the kids. If the lady loves you then she will love your child. If you love the lady then you should be able to love her kids like your own. If her ex is an abusive ass that gets off on making her life hell then you have every right to walk away. If you decide to stay though, think hard. Don't start out with a faint-hearted commitment then run when the ex just doesn't seem to die.

There are many men on the board who have gone to hell and back because they fell in love with a woman whose ex is the lowest form of scum. From what I understand, they toughed it out and really made a difference in the life of their lady and the lives of the kids.

NO ONE WOULD FAULT YOU THOUGH FOR WALKING AWAY FROM A DIFFICULT SITUATION. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY TOO.

If I am not incorrect though, aren't you just getting through a difficult divorce yourself? In that case, take it slow and take it easy. Take your time to get to know and reinvent YOU before you choose anything serious to get into. You owe yourself time to heal.

I am going through a divorce right now....have thought about taking it slow, still do. But I was curious about what other peoples experiences have been

 

[seaking420]

What are you worried about? She's got a 12 and 15 year old, its all down hill from there, kids will be gone soon. You got a 3 year old, she should be more worried about you. You're damaged goods!

lol i guess you have a point