WTF? Men....please unglaze your eyes!!!

[Flah]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

 

[Testosterone boy]

By the age of 21 we figured out that we never got laid by chatterboxes.

 

[bran987]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

WOohoo!!! Now we have an excuse to lay down on the floor and take a nap and say it's how we are biologically wired to LISTEN BEST

 

[PoonRaider]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

Its easier for men to pay attention when you keep eye contact with them. If you dont, we'll sail off to another universe while the faint drone of your voice echos in the back of our minds. Its basically ADD. Attention deficit disorder. Sometimes I lack the ability to pay attention to chicks especially, SINCE THEY TALK SO GODDAMN MUCH, no offense. Lol. I dunno man, after a while it gets boring hearing the same old crap. Tell me once and make it as short as possible. Unless im macking/banging you, then I kind of have to pay attention. Other than that though. . . constantly listening to something that really doesn't intrest me that much is just plain boring. I don't mind having intellectual conversations with women, and I can do chit-chat, but just not for too long.

Sometimes, women just want to talk. They don't want to have a conversation, they just want you to listen to them. After about 30 min-1 hour, I tend to lose endurance, and thats when I space out and day dream. I don't mind having a conversation, but why not on a topic that intrests me, rather than some chick's boyfriend who gave you a dirty look etc.

 

[Robert Jan]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

So true. Very reconignisable

 

[Longhorn85]

It's physically impossible to stifle a yawn without glazing the eyes. If you don't, they begin to water.

 

[chewyxrage]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

so true.......look into patterning............ i believe it may have been bran who linked to a good site about it