WTF? Men....please unglaze your eyes!!!

[tripleblonde]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

 

[onebigab]

I'm sorry what were you saying.

 

[tripleblonde]

I'm sorry what were you saying.

lol....had that one coming in

5,4,3,2,1....

 

[Dial_tone]

it's the "i bet she gives great head" haze.

 

[WODIN]

uhmmm what?

 

[Paulo]

maybe you should interpret this to mean that you are agregiously boring to talk to.

 

[jh1]

I get this glazed over look after I a done licking the kitty...

 

[Moderate_THIS]

Not into facial glazing, maybe Poy can help you out with this one.

 

[tripleblonde]

Once again, I find myself in too good a mood to take advantage of the opportunity you left out in the open. damn.

aww fuckit,

maybe you should interpret this to mean that you are agregiously boring to talk to.

i love how you always preface it with, "i'm in too good a mood to take advantage" BUT.....lol

eh...maybe so, we're all boring at times, but regardless, imo this is a male thing.....regardless of the quality of the conversation, guys just do it w/out thinking

 

[BrandonXJ]

What, women can tell when we do that? Shit.. that's not good.

 

[Paulo]

i love how you always preface it with, "i'm in too good a mood to take advantage" BUT.....lol

eh...maybe so, we're all boring at times, but regardless, imo this is a male thing.....regardless of the quality of the conversation, guys just do it w/out thinking

yeah, notice my not so sneaky edit.

In all seriousness, here's my synopsis...

Two possible reasons:

One, you're boring the hell out of him because you aren't talking about sex, sports, and/or sportsex.

Two. You're just plain boring the hell out of him, but he sits there anyways pretending to listen in hopes of future action.


So, in conclusion, I agree with you. wtf??

 

[tripleblonde]

One, you're boring the hell out of him because you aren't talking about sex, sports, and/or sportsex.

Two. You're just plain boring the hell out of him, but he sits there anyways pretending to listen in hopes of future action.

sounds about right to me

 

[Robert Jan]

Just test them. in the same tone as the rest of your words, ask a silly question or say something completely out there. if he says hm hm or yes or yeah you confront him and say
I just sayd ....

 

[bdog527]

well if it's not that then you'd be bitching about us staring at your tits so i guess we can't do anything right huh?

post 'em up btw.

 

[B0ARDIN087]

maybe you should interpret this to mean that you are agregiously boring to talk to.

 

[TheProject]

Do you have a squeaky voice?

 

[bran987]

do you talk about yourself incessantly

 

[FISHTALES]

"girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention"

 

[daveyboy]

it's the "i bet she gives great head" haze.

Lol!!! That is sooooo damn true. Nice one DT.

 

[velvett]

When someone does that to me I just stop talking mid sentence and leave.

 

[Imnotdutch]

When someone does that to me I just stop talking mid sentence and leave.

Please tell me you dont really do that!!

 

[velvett]

Please tell me you dont really do that!!

If they didn't notice I stopped talking -absolutely.

If you don't want to listen don't pretend to be talking with me.

A few minutes later I get a, "what were you saying?"




By the way - this goes for men and women

 

[Sub-Zero]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

i hate when i do that...like my teacher or a friend will be explaining someone and i will be concentrating as hard as i can, and as soon as they are done im like...uhh and i laugh and make them explain again

 

[rpol]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

Since when do girls pay attention.

 

[Raptorex]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

I apologize for all males but we learn that skill at a young age when our mothers are constantly pestering us to pick up our toys...

 

[gonelifting]

They "glaze over" BEFORE they have sex with you? There`s a problem.

I predict those won`t get laid.

 

[Girlie80]

maybe if we throw in the word "sex" or maybe some sports lingo after a few seconds of talking , guys would come to for at least a few seconds to hear what you want them to hear

 

[Mr. dB]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

Perhaps if you didn't drone on and on about meaningless or peripheral crapola, and just got to the point, people would pay more attention.

 

[TC2]

When someone does that to me I just stop talking mid sentence and leave.

I think with you they are more mesmerized, rather than glazed.

 

[Frackal19]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

oh jeez...only a 20th century american woman would believe that all men finding her dull is the fault of all men rather than her convo skills.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

This could be in part that guys are more visual; in the presence of an attractive female, we focus visually moreso than verbally, at least at first. Girls are the opposite, more verbal attentative. This is also why they can talk and talk and also why they like poetry. This is also why Playboy sells a helluva lot better than Playgirl. They could fall in love with a guys words before his body.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=310470&highlight=women

 

[fistfullofsteel]

maybe if we throw in the word "sex" or maybe some sports lingo after a few seconds of talking , guys would come to for at least a few seconds to hear what you want them to hear

actually, that would be nice

 

[Taps]

There is actually a biological reason men do this.

It all goes back to the cavemen days. Back then, things were fairly harsh. The males were hunters/warriors, and the women pretty much just existed to have children and prepare food. The men only paid attention to other men and not so much the women, simply as a matter of survival. "Holy shit, look out for that sabertooth tiger!" carries a lot more weight than "Help me clean up the cave." You see this a lot in younger male children. Mom will tell her kid to do something and he just ignores her...biologically, this is normal for him. Eventually, through social conditioning, males get better at paying attention.

This isn't just a humans-only trait -- lots of other species do the same thing (and likely thier females get just as pissed off.)

 

[JT Iron]

well if it's not that then you'd be bitching about us staring at your tits so i guess we can't do anything right huh?

post 'em up btw.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

There is actually a biological reason men do this.

It all goes back to the cavemen days. Back then, things were fairly harsh. The males were hunters/warriors, and the women pretty much just existed to have children and prepare food. The men only paid attention to other men and not so much the women, simply as a matter of survival. "Holy shit, look out for that sabertooth tiger!" carries a lot more weight than "Help me clean up the cave." You see this a lot in younger male children. Mom will tell her kid to do something and he just ignores her...biologically, this is normal for him. Eventually, through social conditioning, males get better at paying attention.

This isn't just a humans-only trait -- lots of other species do the same thing (and likely thier females get just as pissed off.)

i'm going to memorize this and use it!!!!

 

[Razorguns]

it's from centuries of dealing with women just going onnn and onnnn and ooooonnnnnn....

besides, a quiet thinkin' guy is a harmless guy.

and yeah, i do it all the time in clubs. i'm a master at it. hehe.

 

[tripleblonde]

eh...maybe it is just my conversation, but then again w/girls, the convo is very lively...back and forth banter, telling stories, etc....which I see guys do (with each other) and when they want to impress a girl, but not always between a guy and a girl....but let's me give an example:

i handle advertising for our college paper so I deal(dealt----we put out our last paper this tuesday) with my editor a lot....he is a fraternity boy, popular w/the ladies, etc..."classic glazer"....basically, as mentioned in some of your replies if the words sex or we're getting sued are not in the conversation, it does not matter if I am making the next i have a dream speech....he's glazed out and usually w/in minutes.....

yet...the asst editor who I also work w/who is female, does not.....regardless of the level of the conversation....

it's not just him, guys do it all the time and honestly, I think it's amazing how they can, it's almost like they slip into this sub-dimensional world where they can appear interested and you can never really prove they aren't but their really 10,000 miles away....like i said, don't know how they do it and i'm beginning to think it is an art form.....but interesting replies to read

 

[BUKKAKE]

I Can Glaze Your Face

 

[from zero]

When someone does that to me I just stop talking mid sentence and leave.

LOL, that's awesome.

 

[Flah]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

 

[Testosterone boy]

By the age of 21 we figured out that we never got laid by chatterboxes.

 

[bran987]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

WOohoo!!! Now we have an excuse to lay down on the floor and take a nap and say it's how we are biologically wired to LISTEN BEST

 

[PoonRaider]

i don't know how you do it, but men have this uncanny ability to glaze over during conversation, not listen to a word you say,and still get away w/acting like they were listening......my editor at my college paper does this like a champ....you can never prove it, but i could swear he was sleeping with his eyes open while he talks to me....and i just had a customer at the testing center do it, i tried to explain how to operate the computer and it wasn't 5 seconds and he was in "glazed" mode...

girls on the other hand pay tend to pay attention

Its easier for men to pay attention when you keep eye contact with them. If you dont, we'll sail off to another universe while the faint drone of your voice echos in the back of our minds. Its basically ADD. Attention deficit disorder. Sometimes I lack the ability to pay attention to chicks especially, SINCE THEY TALK SO GODDAMN MUCH, no offense. Lol. I dunno man, after a while it gets boring hearing the same old crap. Tell me once and make it as short as possible. Unless im macking/banging you, then I kind of have to pay attention. Other than that though. . . constantly listening to something that really doesn't intrest me that much is just plain boring. I don't mind having intellectual conversations with women, and I can do chit-chat, but just not for too long.

Sometimes, women just want to talk. They don't want to have a conversation, they just want you to listen to them. After about 30 min-1 hour, I tend to lose endurance, and thats when I space out and day dream. I don't mind having a conversation, but why not on a topic that intrests me, rather than some chick's boyfriend who gave you a dirty look etc.

 

[Robert Jan]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

So true. Very reconignisable

 

[Longhorn85]

It's physically impossible to stifle a yawn without glazing the eyes. If you don't, they begin to water.

 

[chewyxrage]

Alright, here's the reason for the "glazed" look.

Here's a quote from Deborah Tannen's article, "Sex, Lies, and Conversation":

"But often when women tell men, "You aren't listening," and the man protest, "I am," the men are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of conversation. The misalignment came clear when I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends. I found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other's faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. They were obviously attuned to each other, often mirroring each other's movements. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren't listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: Whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap." But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying."

Cue NBC's "The More You Know" theme.

so true.......look into patterning............ i believe it may have been bran who linked to a good site about it