Would you let your Mother or Mother in Law live with you???

[ortiz34]

The biggest benefit that I ever had was my MIL stayed with us after my second child was born. The biggest problem that I ever had was that she stayed 3 years past her welcome and I moved three states away to get away from her.

olol

 

[ceo]

you and your fiance should sit her down and talk to her together. Make sure you are both on the same page about everything and give the woman some options.

 

[musclemom]

Um, you're fucked. Seriously. Let your girl handle it, tell her it would be best if her mom found new living arrangements at her earliest convenience. Her mom ain't exactly an old lady (considering that I'm 45 myself), she should certainly be able to manage to find appropriate accommodations. Other than that, keep your head down and your mouth shut.

See, I've lived with my husband in my mother's home, then we lived in his mother's house, and then he and I and my mother purchased a place together.

The only one that had reasonable equity was the final situation. Can you live with parents/in laws? Yes. But only if you find a place you can all agree on and buy it together and everyone's on the deed and mortgage and you've got agreements put into place ... oh, and insurance, that's where I dropped the ball.

Or they're just so old that they have no choice, they need you, then they keep their opinions to themselves.

 

[shirlene29]

my dads been anglin to move into our place since we bought it...lol
it'd make me insane

 

[cindylou]

I know I posted in this drunk..but I'd never let my mom live on the streets and I fully plan on taking care of my parents as long as I can in my old age.

 

[nangiggles]

I have been in a very similar situation and I know it's hard, in my case it was my sister living with us and she was incredibly messy (would open a can and leave it right next to the garbage can instead of throwing it away)and irresponsible (I came home TWICE to find she left without closing the gate and my 2 great danes and pug were running all over the neighborhood.....) you just have to calmly sit down and tell them how it is, what wrong and what you want changed, if it doesnt happen then you have a follow up meetings saying that things havent changed, with my sister I told her she was causing a strain in my relationship with my husband because she kept fucking up and he'd get upset and I'd try to cover for her.... this is a conversation to be had mostly between the parties that are related (fiance and her mom) you dont want to be the bad guy because she isnt your relative