Women: would you marry a guy without a diamond ring?

[velvett]

LOL at this whole thread.

Seriously.

I think I might have to go back to my pool boy idea and just tell the judgmental idiots that I'm widowed.

Some of these guys are just too much of a pain in the ass to even waste your time with - I really who needs em?
















...now I just need a pool...

or a hot tub boy - can you hire someone to clean a hot tub???
hmmm

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Yea, until she divorces you. Those memories are not worth my portfolio.

Honey.. if you're already planning the divorce before you put the ring on her finger you shouldn't be asking her to marry you.

 

[Lumberg]

Yea, until she divorces you. Those memories are not worth my portfolio.



Commitment & promises is what a marriage licence is for.

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[Gemini_Man]

Honey.. if you're already planning the divorce before you put the ring on her finger you shouldn't be asking her to marry you.

I agree that's not the right attitude but you can't ignore the divorce rate. Hardly enough reason for me to take things to that level. Which includes spending thousands on a "symbol".

 

[AristotleBC]

Diamonds are such a scam. They have no inherent value, are not traded as a commodity, etc.

The prices are kept high by a cartel, and are made profitable by using African kids to mine them for a dollar a week or something.

Russia has an assload of diamonds, but the cartel pays off the Russian government to limit the supply. They even paid off the USSR government.

A diamond is forever.

So is knowing that the ring you gave your girl was probably pulled from the Earth by a one armed African kid who had his other arm sliced off in a territorial war involving Ivory Coast and Liberian guerillas.

So is the fact that a handful of people have become insanely rich off of trading these things around the dead and malformed kids who mine them.

And on top of that, one or two technologicqal breakthroughs will drop the price of your $10K ring to about $11.79, when diamonds become the market equivalent of graphite.

But it's special. You love her.

Buy her a car instead.

No shit

 

[AristotleBC]

LOL, obviously you don't understand that most women LOVE fairytale bullshit!




And although you may not believe it, there is nothing more romantic than dropping to one knee, slipping a beautiful ring on her finger, and proposing to love and cherish her for the rest of your life. Memories bor, it's what life is made of. Might as well make the important ones worth remembering, even if it does cost some money.

Marriage is about commitment and promises, thats what the ring signifies to a woman.

Drop down and give her an IOU.

 

[Forge]

Slip a fake "beautiful" ring on her finger then...I mean it's about "commitment and promises" right??? Not how much you spent right??

Well, I guess you should spend whatever you feel the "symbol" is worth. When I bought my ex's ring I could have used that money in a dozen different more productive ways, but none of them would have made her as happy as buying that ring did. Of course you could buy a fake ring cheap but tell her it's a diamond and start the marriage on a big fat lie, but that's a moral issue. Personally I told my ex exactly what her ring cost me, I wanted her to know what she meant to me and how valuable that rock on her finger actually was. I was proud of what I had done for her.

Heh, makes me wonder how the ring is doing now, I hope she hasn't pawned it for money...

 

[Gymgurl]

If someone loved me and couldn't afford a ring I would marry him....expecting that once we had some money I would get a ring. The ring in a symbol of eternity....HELLO

 

[Smurfy]

If someone loved me and couldn't afford a ring I would marry him....expecting that once we had some money I would get a ring. The ring in a symbol of eternity....HELLO

Why is a RING a symbol of eternity? And what does the woman give to the man to symbolize her lover for him?

And what about if the man CAN afford a ring?

 

[ringperm]

I just want to chime in and say that the Scandinavian counties have no traditions regarding engagement rings. When the guy proposes, he do uses a ring, but this ring is a plain golden ring, and will later serve as the wedding band/ring whatever.

Let's reverse this question a bit. Would this tradition be as celebrated among the female gender, if they where "required" to reciprocate this gesture with a ring of their own, of equal value?
Somehow I think not.

Why should it even be necessary to prove your love with an exceedingly expensive ring? Isn't the time spent together up to that point proof enough? If the girl of my dreams, where to dump me, because my lack of interest in this ring issue. And by that accusing me of not loving her. I guess she wouldn't be the girl I was dreaming of after all.
If the issue of a ring is enough to destroy a relationship, than the foundation for this relationship would not be a strong enough to build a life upon anyway.

To me it gives the impression of a reverse penis envy complex. My ring is bigger than yours, and my man is richer than yours, kind of behavior.
I guess it's a cultural thing, but I still have problems seeing the logic behind this.