Women: would you marry a guy without a diamond ring?

[Lumberg]

Ok in Italy there is no tradition of an engagement ring.

Next up: Turkey and/or China

 

[courtneybcca]

Sigh.

While I agree with your investment analysis of the value of diamonds, you are missing the whole point of why you buy the ring in the first place Matt. It's not about future values, or long term investments. It's not something you will want to take a look at years later and get upset because it lost value, because it loses value the moment you buy it.

A wedding ring is a symbol of your love for a woman, it's tradition, and the fact is that most women today are groomed to expect the diamond engagement ring and they want that ring. Sure a car might be a better monetary investment, but you have to give the woman what she wants, not what you think is best for her. Fact is most women enjoy showing off their diamond engagement ring, it's bragging rights. My ex hardly ever wore jewelry, but when I bought her an expensive beautiful engagement ring she wore it every chance she got, she showed it proudly to everyone she could. She didn't do that because she liked wearing rings, she didn't do it because it was worth alot, she did it because it was a beautiful symbol of how I felt about her. A car wouldn't have gotten the same reaction.

If I ever get married again and if she wants a diamond ring you can be damn sure she's getting a ring she can be proud of. Because if I'm marrying her then she's worth it.

Wow a guy actually nailed it right on the head!!…. I ring is not about wearing jewelry it is a symbol of your love for your lady…. That being said I also would not want my b-friend to go into crazy dept either to buy me one. If I were very sure about the relationship I would marry someone without a ring. Actually I did marry my high school sweetheart without a ring. But he had given me a promise ring years before that I always wore on my wedding ring finger. I am sure it wasn’t worth much but the thought and the way he gave it to me is what will stick in my mind forever. It was also a sign to other boys that I was taken. So it is also a useful tool to keep other boys away. If I am going into an environment that I don’t want to be bothered, I have a fake flashy engagement ring that I wear to left alone and it usually works.

 

[Smurfy]

yeah, what about just a wedding band>? or is that also a waste of money?

 

[Lumberg]

So it is also a useful tool to keep other boys away. If I am going into an environment that I don’t want to be bothered, I have a fake flashy engagement ring that I wear to left alone and it usually works.

LMAO at the fake engagement ring!

Update:

In Turkey the tradition is the boy's family visits the girl's family with a box of chocolates. The girl makes Turkish coffee. If the coffee sucks she doesn't want the marriage LOL. No ring necessary.

In China the parents are very involved in the decision. In ancient times the man would go to see with girl's family (sans girl) and bring a gift for the family when asking for the girl's hand in marriage. No ring, no gift for the woman.


Smurfy no a wedding band isn't a waste, but a wedding band doesn't cost thousands of dollars either (I think )

 

[Gemini_Man]

Why is it that a man has to bring cash to the table to prove his commitment? And I don't care about "tradition". So much has changed when it comes to relationships, but these traditions where a man has to fork over alot of money just to put a smile on her face still seems to hang around. I'm sure as hell not gonna fund a womans bragging rights. There's nothing romantic about that. It's just more fairytail bullshit.

 

[The Shadow]

..is a ring necessary??

NO...


Is it necessary to get married to "prove" that you have a loving, committed relationship???


NO.


...its being thought worthy in both instances...and being worth the chance, I think

 

[TC2]

ok, Ill bite :LOL

If a man is THAT attached to his bank account and NOT willing to part with his money for something like an engagement ring for the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, then it is probably indicative of a deeper problem or issue in the relationship or a problem within himself.

Frankly, Ive never heard of a man getting THAT torn up or upset about buying a ring. Its supposed to be a happy and touching moment. If I was a man, Id LOVE and be excited about picking out and buying a ring for my soon-to-be wife. Isnt that how it's supposed to be?

Especially if he has the money.

I'm not cheap at all...but I'm VERY ANTI MATERIAL THINGS =LOVE.

The ring was supposed to be a symbol...now its how many carats,what clarity etc,etc.

jewellery is nothing more than something to show off how much money somebody spent on you.

 

[biteme]

If he does not consider you worth a diamond,
Or he cannot afford it,
Too bad. Move on.

Let me guess. You have to be a republican.

 

[biteme]

Diamonds are such a scam. They have no inherent value, are not traded as a commodity, etc.

The prices are kept high by a cartel, and are made profitable by using African kids to mine them for a dollar a week or something.

Russia has an assload of diamonds, but the cartel pays off the Russian government to limit the supply. They even paid off the USSR government.

A diamond is forever.

So is knowing that the ring you gave your girl was probably pulled from the Earth by a one armed African kid who had his other arm sliced off in a territorial war involving Ivory Coast and Liberian guerillas.

So is the fact that a handful of people have become insanely rich off of trading these things around the dead and malformed kids who mine them.

And on top of that, one or two technologicqal breakthroughs will drop the price of your $10K ring to about $11.79, when diamonds become the market equivalent of graphite.

But it's special. You love her.

Buy her a car instead.

THis might be favorite post of yours. Excellent indeed. I knew that, but I would have had to use the search engine to dig up all those facts. lol

 

[Forge]

I'm sure as hell not gonna fund a womans bragging rights. There's nothing romantic about that. It's just more fairytail bullshit.

LOL, obviously you don't understand that most women LOVE fairytale bullshit!




And although you may not believe it, there is nothing more romantic than dropping to one knee, slipping a beautiful ring on her finger, and proposing to love and cherish her for the rest of your life. Memories bor, it's what life is made of. Might as well make the important ones worth remembering, even if it does cost some money.

Marriage is about commitment and promises, thats what the ring signifies to a woman.