Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[superqt4u2nv]

It takes a woman with a pretty low self esteem if she thought that a man paying for dinner means that he has bought her sexual favors for the night.

I think yeah missed my point. I was saying that what is the diffrence between the two? Nothing, both are silly expectations people are putting on the other person.

Self esteem shoud not be routed in a man willing into to drop two bills on a dinner. If him spending money on you makes you feel special you might want think about that for a minute. Kind words thoughts etc should make you feel special not $$$.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

I am going to be in NYC the 24-26th lets go on a date

Well, dating and payments. This is a no win for me. I never let any woman pay for anything. But, hey..

 

[heatherrae]

I think yeah missed my point. I was saying that what is the diffrence between the two? Nothing, both are silly expectations people are putting on the other person.

Self esteem shoud not be routed in a man willing into to drop two bills on a dinner. If him spending money on you makes you feel special you might want think about that for a minute. Kind words thoughts etc should make you feel special not $$$.

Had you read on the thread a bit you would know that isn't exactly my point.

It isn't about how much a man spends. It is about someone asking you out and then treating you more special than just a beer buddy by splitting the tab. The one who invites should pick up the tab. It can be something as little as an ice cream cone and a walk.

If you think it is about cash outlay, then you missed the point.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Well, dating and payments. This is a no win for me. I never let any woman pay for anything. But, hey..

Yeah but your old and old fashioned

 

[AAP]

It takes a woman with a pretty low self esteem if she thought that a man paying for dinner means that he has bought her sexual favors for the night.

Personally I prefer my dates to have low self esteem. It saves me a LOT of effort and manipulation down the road when in comes time to get them ensconced in a codependent relationship favoring me.

 

[heatherrae]

Personally I prefer my dates to have low self esteem. It saves me a LOT of effort and manipulation down the road when in comes time to get them ensconced in a codependent relationship favoring me.

I'm so completely enamoured with you....LOL.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Had you read on the thread a bit you would know that isn't exactly my point.

It isn't about how much a man spends. It is about someone asking you out and then treating you more special than just a beer buddy by splitting the tab. The one who invites should pick up the tab. It can be something as little as an ice cream cone and a walk.

If you think it is about cash outlay, then you missed the point.

Pardon me I work 12 hour days and train 2-3 hours a day no time to go through 17 pages of, me me me spattered with a bit of actual topic.

Again you feel special because he is picking up the tab that is what your saying. I am saying I don't need that to happen to feel special.

 

[foreigngirl]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

It takes a woman with a pretty low self esteem if she thought that a man paying for dinner means that he has bought her sexual favors for the night.

really? Now me and Blueta are women with low self esteem, cuz we both feel the way QT does? Pretty crooked view if you ask me.

 

[heatherrae]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

really? Now me and Blueta are women with low self esteem, cuz we both feel the way QT does? Pretty crooked view if you ask me.

No, I very seriously doubt that you or blueta feel obligated to have a sex with a man because someone bought you dinner. You must have misread the post.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

No, I very seriously doubt that you or blueta feel obligated to have a sex with a man because someone bought you dinner. You must have misread the post.

Yes she must of cause you are never wrong