Women Aren't Funny...

[nefertiti]

Oh well, can't find it...I guess I'll try and type it out again.

Why women are not funny, according to Nef:

1) Being funny is a learned activity, as well as a talent. But that talent has to be nurtured early on in life. learning what is funny and what isn't means throwing out some duds and risking your joke falling completely flat. Men are known to be bigger risk takers, and humor is a much more integral part of how men bond with other men than it is in that of relationships between women. So they not only have more incentive to take the risks to "learn" what gets people to laugh, but they ahve less fear of the risk.

2) ATW already hit on this point, but it's true. if you accept that one learns to be funny through feedback, you're going to have a lot of women who have guys laughing to humor them or to try and get them into bed, thus they think they are getting genuine positive feedback, but they are not. So even when the dud is getting thrown out there, she's not learning that THAT particular thing was not funny - reinforcing her lame sense of humor.

3) Finally, the worst thing, in my opinion, is women who try to be funny in the same way that men are funny. Hearing a women make jokes about smelly balls is just not really going to be funny. The kind of humor I laugh at the most is the kind I can relate to in some way. I can't relate to Sarah Silverman making jokes about smelly balls. Neither can a guy, because it's coming from the mouth of a pretty female. There's something inherently incongruent about it.


That said...I have laughed at both Stilleto and Smurfy. I think some women are funny...it's just not biologically necessary for us to develop that skill, so less do it.

 

[habitualhealth]

Oh well, can't find it...I guess I'll try and type it out again.

Why women are not funny, according to Nef:

1) Being funny is a learned activity, as well as a talent. But that talent has to be nurtured early on in life. learning what is funny and what isn't means throwing out some duds and risking your joke falling completely flat. Men are known to be bigger risk takers, and humor is a much more integral part of how men bond with other men than it is in that of relationships between women. So they not only have more incentive to take the risks to "learn" what gets people to laugh, but they ahve less fear of the risk.

2) ATW already hit on this point, but it's true. if you accept that one learns to be funny through feedback, you're going to have a lot of women who have guys laughing to humor them or to try and get them into bed, thus they think they are getting genuine positive feedback, but they are not. So even when the dud is getting thrown out there, she's not learning that THAT particular thing was not funny - reinforcing her lame sense of humor.

3) Finally, the worst thing, in my opinion, is women who try to be funny in the same way that men are funny. Hearing a women make jokes about smelly balls is just not really going to be funny. The kind of humor I laugh at the most is the kind I can relate to in some way. I can't relate to Sarah Silverman making jokes about smelly balls. Neither can a guy, because it's coming from the mouth of a pretty female. There's something inherently incongruent about it.


That said...I have laughed at both Stilleto and Smurfy. I think some women are funny...it's just not biologically necessary for us to develop that skill, so less do it.

hmmmm gonna disagree on this one...

what's funny to one person isn't funny to the other so who gets to set the parameters for this said "learned behavior"?

i think it boils down to a level of intellect that people either have or dont...regardless of gender.

it may be true to say more men are funny than women but isn't it typically the sarcastic smelly balls humored guys that people find the funniest? or is that just MY opinion of funny?

i think being funny comes down to experiences in life and how they are either incorporated in your life or not. ability to think outside of the norm walk of life and expectations people have predetermined.

but hey, i'm just a chic...what do i know?

 

[-Ariel-]

Oh well, can't find it...I guess I'll try and type it out again.

Why women are not funny, according to Nef:

1) Being funny is a learned activity, as well as a talent. But that talent has to be nurtured early on in life. learning what is funny and what isn't means throwing out some duds and risking your joke falling completely flat. Men are known to be bigger risk takers, and humor is a much more integral part of how men bond with other men than it is in that of relationships between women. So they not only have more incentive to take the risks to "learn" what gets people to laugh, but they ahve less fear of the risk.

2) ATW already hit on this point, but it's true. if you accept that one learns to be funny through feedback, you're going to have a lot of women who have guys laughing to humor them or to try and get them into bed, thus they think they are getting genuine positive feedback, but they are not. So even when the dud is getting thrown out there, she's not learning that THAT particular thing was not funny - reinforcing her lame sense of humor.

3) Finally, the worst thing, in my opinion, is women who try to be funny in the same way that men are funny. Hearing a women make jokes about smelly balls is just not really going to be funny. The kind of humor I laugh at the most is the kind I can relate to in some way. I can't relate to Sarah Silverman making jokes about smelly balls. Neither can a guy, because it's coming from the mouth of a pretty female. There's something inherently incongruent about it.


That said...I have laughed at both Stilleto and Smurfy. I think some women are funny...it's just not biologically necessary for us to develop that skill, so less do it.

Thing is, witty or being able to pair two disparate ideas in a way that the absurdity you can relate too or make you laugh, immediately lets me know that she's affable with peeps, likes to interact, open minded to a certain degree, and has a more encompassing ability to recognize patterns or relationships that are usually not perceived. Wit, Cleverness, a balanced tongue that can cut and heal, this to me is so fucking sexy.
I think when we are saying funny here we are like associating it with more like the gross shit that we all do or whatever. Its more like a reductionist object based thing. Its more like a male thing perhaps, cause this type of humor is more like based on showing how facts or logic doesn't match up. Its more geared to showing how weak some shit is or nonfunctional. Its based more on function. This is what I attribute to funny, pointing out shit that just doesn't or relations that don't make any sense through the idea that the shit is logically incoherent.
This is a huge generalization, but it seems to me that, women relate more with the underlying dynamic in how peeps relate. Their humor is gonna be geared more toward like interrelation and interpretation. This would incline more of a wit type clever humor. More subtle.
Funny is more overt than, while wit is more subtle. Funny is not seductive, or alluring to most dudes. Silverman is hawt, but yeah I wouldn't wanna be with her and wondering what the fuck she is concocting about my shit.
Its just not feminine to be funny is we kinda use this logic or understanding of funny.
Hey, the thread got me started on this shit... couldn't help myself.

 

[nefertiti]

it may be true to say more men are funny than women but isn't it typically the sarcastic smelly balls humored guys that people find the funniest? or is that just MY opinion of funny?

Generally yes - but my point is that THAT kind of humor coming from a woman seems off. To me and to a lot of people. Call it a double standard.

Ariel, agreed with most of your post...

 

[habitualhealth]

Generally yes - but my point is that THAT kind of humor coming from a woman seems off. To me and to a lot of people. Call it a double standard.

Ariel, agreed with most of your post...

oh yea yea agreed...well again for me what defines funny is clever quick wit. not the sarah silverman 24/7 obscenities, not a chic who's sitting around telling knock knock jokes or the chic who giggles after someone says something funny and then repeats it in her own terms. that's lame.

 

[Smurfy]

i believe nefertittis on to something here (as usual). plus, she has laughed at my stuff. which makes her brilliant IMO

 

[-Ariel-]

Generally yes - but my point is that THAT kind of humor coming from a woman seems off. To me and to a lot of people. Call it a double standard.

Ariel, agreed with most of your post...

thanx nef, but yeah I think you and HH are on the same page...
It all depends on what you mean by 'funny'
Yeah my shit is kinda of an abstract stretch...
I think Sketch and me are on the same page though. LOL

 

[nefertiti]

oh yea yea agreed...well again for me what defines funny is clever quick wit. not the sarah silverman 24/7 obscenities, not a chic who's sitting around telling knock knock jokes or the chic who giggles after someone says something funny and then repeats it in her own terms. that's lame.

Wit is an entire different category...when I think funny, I think the person that has you in gut busting laughter. Clever wit - that's a symptom of intelligence, and not gender specific. It just doesn't translate to standup very well because it is part of interaction with another person.

Hell, I explained myself so much better the last time I wrote that out. Maybe i should have titled it - why most women are not funny to men.

 

[gotmilk]

the sarcastic smelly balls humored guys that people find the funniest?

There's nothing funny about smelly balls

 

[habitualhealth]

Wit is an entire different category...when I think funny, I think the person that has you in gut busting laughter. Clever wit - that's a symptom of intelligence, and not gender specific. It just doesn't translate to standup very well because it is part of interaction with another person.

Hell, I explained myself so much better the last time I wrote that out. Maybe i should have titled it - why most women are not funny to men.

lol, no it makes sense.

i spend more time laughing at myself vs seeing if people are laughing me anyway. ha