Wife or Girl Friend

[milo hobgoblin]

it's easy to paint this picture of your future with your girlfriend, always being happy to see you home, the two of you screwing like rabbits then frolicking outside somewhere...

Its hard to imagine anything else when your wife wont give it up..


and need I remind ANYONE that a sex life is a hell of a lot more important than her doing the laundry or "cleaning up after me"

If I wanted someone to clean up after me.. Id hire a fucking maid..not get married.

Seems like many married women cant figure out how to do both.

 

[Raptorex]

Good points ladies, I believe you are both absolutely correct.

Unfortunately, God gave men two heads and we only have enough blood to run one head at a time. the head that is smaller usually gets the blood cause its easier for the blood to move down then up...(old saying)

 

[stilleto]

Its hard to imagine anything else when your wife wont give it up..


and need I remind ANYONE that a sex life is a hell of a lot more important than her doing the laundry or "cleaning up after me"

If I wanted someone to clean up after me.. Id hire a fucking maid..not get married.

Seems like many married women cant figure out how to do both.

good sex is a VERY important thing, but its hard for some wives to feel into it when all they feel is resentment. Its EASY for a gf to want it- that's all she has to do/be.
that's all i'm saying.
and although good sex is important, there's lot of other things that need to be there in conjuction.

 

[blueta2]

Its hard to imagine anything else when your wife wont give it up..


and need I remind ANYONE that a sex life is a hell of a lot more important than her doing the laundry or "cleaning up after me"

If I wanted someone to clean up after me.. Id hire a fucking maid..not get married.

Seems like many married women cant figure out how to do both.

honestly, if you think Sex is everything then you'll never stay married to one woman. You'll always need one on the side.

 

[solidspine]

If you are torn apart by two people that you love, then that obviously means that we as humans are capable of having two or more lovers at the same time!

I don’t know about the first part of this post but this is spot on.

but if he was only having marriage troubles and trying to get through it,

We are not having any marital problems, other then one of us is a cheat.

 

[musclemom]

I had an affair for four years with the man I'm currently married to. I'm the first one to tell anyone, while the relationship is close to perfect, the affair was a MAJOR mistake. I should have walked out on my first husband long before I did, end of discussion (the nice thing about being young is that you get to make dumb mistakes). My current husband and and I are very, very happy together, but we're a rare exception; usually marriages that spring out of adulterous relationships fail.

If you love your wife, then focus on that relationship. If you DON'T love your wife, then let it go, get out, she deserves her freedom, too. Why should she be wasting her time with a guy who isn't in love with her?

 

[blueta2]

(the nice thing about being young is that you get to make dumb mistakes).

amen....and learn from them (hopefully)

 

[solidspine]

the nice thing about being young is that you get to make dumb mistakes).

I guess I should be happy I’m only 57.












On a different subject I have been sober 98 days, as of today.

 

[stilleto]

We are not having any marital problems, other then one of us is a cheat.

that's what I thought.

so listen... Here's some fact...
1. one of the two- either your marriage, or your fling, is going to have to end. The longer it takes, the uglier its probably going to be, unless you and the gf happen to mutually agree to call it off, AND you both stick to your guns, which rarely happens. Otherwise, its not going to be pretty.... either your wife will find out, or your gf will be PISSED and you'll be constantly worried that she'll TELL your wife (even if you think she's the sweetest most innocent thing in the world NOW.. try breaking her heart and seeing how she is), OR your gf will break YOUR heart.

2. The lying, cheating, and deceit will eat away at you. You'll be worried all the time.

3. the worry, the lack of attention you're bound to show your wife, even if it's just because your mind is elsewhere, or the fact that you're going to be on the computer way more or your cell phone or out of the house way more- its going to affect your marriage. Your wife will either get suspicious, or insecure. She will.

and you know what? even if she doesn't, even if she continues to be the great, confident woman you're married to and happy with, then #2 will be even worse.

 

[solidspine]

that's what I thought.

so listen... Here's some fact...
1. one of the two- either your marriage, or your fling, is going to have to end. The longer it takes, the uglier its probably going to be, unless you and the gf happen to mutually agree to call it off, AND you both stick to your guns, which rarely happens. Otherwise, its not going to be pretty.... either your wife will find out, or your gf will be PISSED and you'll be constantly worried that she'll TELL your wife (even if you think she's the sweetest most innocent thing in the world NOW.. try breaking her heart and seeing how she is), OR your gf will break YOUR heart.

2. The lying, cheating, and deceit will eat away at you. You'll be worried all the time.

3. the worry, the lack of attention you're bound to show your wife, even if it's just because your mind is elsewhere, or the fact that you're going to be on the computer way more or your cell phone or out of the house way more- its going to affect your marriage. Your wife will either get suspicious, or insecure. She will.

and you know what? even if she doesn't, even if she continues to be the great, confident woman you're married to and happy with, then #2 will be even worse.
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I think I need to find the guts to just say good bye to the girl friend, and I need to do that in the next 24 hours.