Wife or Girl Friend

[Raptorex]

I'll take Door #2 for $100 Bob.

[*]If you are torn apart by two people that you love, then that obviously means that we as humans are capable of having two or more lovers at the same time!
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[solidspine]

remember something...

everything may seem rosy with the girlfriend- but she's not the one doing your laundry or making you dinner or helping to pay the bills, etc. Her sole job as a girlfriend is to listen to you complain about your terrible marriage, and to be the sexy, pretty thing you wish you were married to.

both of those things are easy for her, because she has an agenda. Your wifes agenda, on the other hand, is keeping your family safe and taken care of, and nomatter how much you may think having a gf isn't affecting your marriage... it is. and now she has to deal with that, even on a subtle level. Even if it means you just have a lack of sex drive or interest in what she has to say or how she feels- she's going to know it and react to it.

all your gf has to do is listen to you when you complain about your wife reacting.

it's easy to paint this picture of your future with your girlfriend, always being happy to see you home, the two of you screwing like rabbits then frolicking outside somewhere... but when its her turn to clean up after you or she's running up your credit card or going through your emails trying to find out what your up to, you're going to realize the evil that you know is often better than the evil that you don't.

Gospel, thank you, well taken

 

[blueta2]

Nice post Stiletto, probably the best I have ever read from you...spot on IMO.

HOWEVER, what is his solution?

Man dude I was just typing this also........good post Stilleto!
She is so right. The GF then becomes the "wife". My ex left me for his g/f and then came begging for me back when he realized she was a horrible person. I of course refused to take him back......but ya see, he didn't think b4 he made the move!

 

[Raptorex]

Man dude I was just typing this also........good post Stilleto!
She is so right. The GF then becomes the "wife". My ex left me for his g/f and then came begging for me back when he realized she was a horrible person. I of course refused to take him back......but ya see, he didn't think b4 he made the move!

again, since he is NOT IN LOVE with his wife, what should he do?

 

[Hard-Bitten]

Laughing my fucking ass off...

LMAO!! (=

 

[jh1]

remember something...

everything may seem rosy with the girlfriend- but she's not the one doing your laundry or making you dinner or helping to pay the bills, etc. Her sole job as a girlfriend is to listen to you complain about your terrible marriage, and to be the sexy, pretty thing you wish you were married to.

both of those things are easy for her, because she has an agenda. Your wifes agenda, on the other hand, is keeping your family safe and taken care of, and nomatter how much you may think having a gf isn't affecting your marriage... it is. and now she has to deal with that, even on a subtle level. Even if it means you just have a lack of sex drive or interest in what she has to say or how she feels- she's going to know it and react to it.

all your gf has to do is listen to you when you complain about your wife reacting.

it's easy to paint this picture of your future with your girlfriend, always being happy to see you home, the two of you screwing like rabbits then frolicking outside somewhere... but when its her turn to clean up after you or she's running up your credit card or going through your emails trying to find out what your up to, you're going to realize the evil that you know is often better than the evil that you don't.

Truest shit you'll ever read.

Grass is always greener on the other side..

Not so... just seems that way.

Reality sets in, eventually, in all relations.


I've been on the receiving side of this bullshit. Honestly, I think it's really low of you to pursue your ex-g/f like that when you are married.

If you really are that unhappy - you should't have just dipped your toes in the water to see how it is then use that as the excuse to leave by comparing how it feels to your marriage. Of course it's going to feel amazing...

If you're so unhappy in marriage you should prove it to yourself by leaving your spose on your own, and having no one to lean on. Then after it's all over pick up your life and move on.

 

[blueta2]

again, since he is NOT IN LOVE with his wife, what should he do?

simple....and I already said it....Walk away from both for a while and assess the situation. Time alone really clears the head!

 

[stilleto]

Nice post Stiletto, probably the best I have ever read from you...spot on IMO.

HOWEVER, what is his solution?

thanks.
the guilt, the lying, the decieving... that's going to eat him up inside AND be the ruin of his marriage. I'm not talking about the moral aspect of it- that's something everyone feels differently about.

If he had been thinking about ending his marriage before the gf came along... well then might as well do that now. but if he was only having marriage troubles and trying to get through it, then being with the GF is only going to make them MUCH worse. like throwing a torch into the wood pile.

 

[blueta2]

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Grass is always greener on the other side..

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Or as I like to say "water your own grass and it will get greener"

 

[Subzeero]

I'll take Door #2 for $100 Bob.

is this bob guy dead yet? everytime i see him on TV, i convince myself that he is somehow linked to a serum in his ass.