Why The F*#K Do Guys Hit Woman??

[bicepts101]

(I havent read this entire thread)

I had a best friend (had being past tense of course) whom I grew up with and who had been dating and living with this complete fucking drunken psycho guy. Every time they'd be drinking which was all the time, he'd fucking beat her ass. It got very dramatic and twisted. She even isolated herself from her immediate family whom she was very close with. She would call me in the middle of the night crying after he'd blackened her eye, etc. Id go to her rescue. She even had to "hide" some of her belongings and stash some cash at my house so he wouldnt know so that "one day" she could escape, But that "one day" seemed like it would never come.

Well one night I was at their house with a bunch of others and we had all been drinking. I had nebver really experienced his mood changes or psycho behavior first hand. But toward the end of the night, he decided it was time to choke the life out of her because she wanted to sleep in a room that had airconditioning. Well he just did not like that idea one bit. So, he starts throwing her around in the bedroom and you can hear liek slamming and shit through the walls.

So Im like omg wtf this guy is beating her ass right now - holy fuck, Im getting all fired up mainly because I had been drinking and you know how some people get when intoxicated - well I suddenly thought I could take this guy on (he was bout 6'5 and 250) lol. so Im baning on the door yelling for this fucking guy to "come get me you motherfucking pussy" "come try to take me down you fuckig Nancy" yaddda yadda all so he woiuld stop choking her I seriously thought fromt he sound of things that he was going to kill her.

so the monster takes a break from beating her ass to come address me in the hall. well he grabs mr purse and grabs me by the arm and basically throws me out the back door with no shoes on. he slams me back and I fall into the concrete. fuck was I pisssed. So then Im yelling at him through the bedroom window to coem try again you mother fucker but he was not interested I guess.

well eventually some neighbor called the c0ps, probably due to my yelling at 2am. but this guy's dad was the Mayor of the town and his brother was a cop and other brother a fireman. SO when the cops get called, who shows up? daddy and big brother and no one to arrest this sumbitch.

so they all show up and she's a complete mess. she's all fucked up and he's apologizing etc. So Im like ok perfect this shit is over she;s leaving with me for good and not going back to this psycho.
so Im outside standing there waiting for her to put her shoes and and she comes to the door and is standing there loking at me crying. im like come on girl lets go. and the words that came out of her mouth next still shock me to this day: "I cant leave him"


fuck well then I guess you deserve that shit. bye.

needless to say that pretty much ended our 2osomething year best friendship.

i dont think that was a very noble thing to do...u should have stuck with it....i would never give up on a freind like that....ive never been in that situation before but i know the fear keeps u there....if u had been in her situation before u would have never left cause the scars are always there.

should have called the state police or something...idk...never give up....she could be dead now

 

[fistfullofsteel]

because they are pieces of shit. anybody who hits somebody else, unless they have a good reason is a piece of shit.

 

[Smurfy]

i dont think that was a very noble thing to do...u should have stuck with it....i would never give up on a freind like that....ive never been in that situation before but i know the fear keeps u there....if u had been in her situation before u would have never left cause the scars are always there.

should have called the state police or something...idk...never give up....she could be dead now

I understand wha6t youre saying I really do. This was a long time ago and they did end up breaking up thankfully. She's moved on to bigger and better drama sicne then LOL

I did all I could that night. She was not g0ing to walk out that night. She was not going to press charges. I'm no one's saviour. I'm not her Mommy. Its not for me to SAVE her. The best I could was be a supportive friend when she needed to lean on me. It was up to her to make a change in her life, as a grown adult. I gave her an out that night, but she declined. Only so much I could do. But she knew from that night forward, that she should probably lean more on others than on my, because I saw how desperately fucked in the head she was.

No Ive never been in that situation. I dont think I could ever allow anyone to treat me that way and live to tell about it. It's just not in my nature. I broke my ex's nose once for slapping me in tne mouth.

 

[H_T_]

because they are pieces of shit. anybody who hits somebody else, unless they have a good reason is a piece of shit.

that about sums it all up.

 

[bicepts101]

I understand wha6t youre saying I really do. This was a long time ago and they did end up breaking up thankfully. She's moved on to bigger and better drama sicne then LOL

I did all I could that night. She was not g0ing to walk out that night. She was not going to press charges. I'm no one's saviour. I'm not her Mommy. Its not for me to SAVE her. The best I could was be a supportive friend when she needed to lean on me. It was up to her to make a change in her life, as a grown adult. I gave her an out that night, but she declined. Only so much I could do. But she knew from that night forward, that she should probably lean more on others than on my, because I saw how desperately fucked in the head she was.

No Ive never been in that situation. I dont think I could ever allow anyone to treat me that way and live to tell about it. It's just not in my nature. I broke my ex's nose once for slapping me in tne mouth.

i see ur point but i still stand by my own

 

[Smurfy]

because they are pieces of shit. anybody who hits somebody else, unless they have a good reason is a piece of shit.

come here, I think you need a spanking

 

[musclemom]

i dont think that was a very noble thing to do...u should have stuck with it....i would never give up on a freind like that....ive never been in that situation before but i know the fear keeps u there....if u had been in her situation before u would have never left cause the scars are always there.

should have called the state police or something...idk...never give up....she could be dead now

Bicepts, you're a sweetheart, I know you have a good heart, and I understand where you're coming from, but there's a lesson we all eventually learn in life sooner or later, it's hard to accept, but trust me, the truth:

You can't save someone unless they want to be saved.

This goes for beaten wives, drunks, druggies, gamblers, etc., etc., etc., etc., etc., etc.

 

[H_T_]

Bicepts, you're a sweetheart, I know you have a good heart, and I understand where you're coming from, but there's a lesson we all eventually learn in life sooner or later, it's hard to accept, but trust me, the truth:

You can't save someone unless they want to be saved.

This goes for beaten wives, drunks, druggies, gamblers, etc., etc., etc., etc., etc., etc.

i would whip your ass nightly......

 

[fistfullofsteel]

come here, I think you need a spanking

yes please. i've been a bad, bad, bad boy.

 

[Hiatussin]

I also read a good article and saw a short report on woman vs man domestic abuse. Apparently about 10% of marriage abuse that´s reported is woman against man, but most men who get hit by their wife won´t tell anyone, and they´re afraid (and she says) she will get a divorce and get everything and the kids if he beats her back.

they interviewed some of these guys. they all thought they were completely alone. some of them were big, tall guys