Why is it my wife is getting hit on every time I turn my back?

[Werd]

wrong again.....

i get plenty of attention....

where did i mention assault???...i described 2 scenarios, neither of which i mention assault.....just assinine, obnoxious behavior

Spilling a drink on someone or physically cutting them off in a line IS an assault. If someone calls you a motherfucker that is a VERBAL assault. Someone staring too long at your lady is NOT an assault.

Just a little clarification fer ya.

QUOTE=jerkbox]admiring is one thing, gawking and making snide remarks is another...you obviously don't understand the way some men's minds work.....lol[/QUOTE]

I totally understand the male mind - I was a dancer, remember? (Oh wait a minute, YOU are the one that has a problem with that, not me.)

It is your lack of understanding of how YOUR BEHAVIOR in such scenarios might affect a lady that is the problem here. Take a deep breath, step back and think for one second how YOUR NEANDERTHAL behavior might affect your lady, how it might just make her feel that you think that she can not handle herself. The other men who have posted on this thread who do not share your idea that their very hot women can not handle the attention is proof that perhaps your way of thinking is not the only way. (And that came from MEN... not me)

i've complimented many women on their beauty, and complimented man men on having a pretty girl friend......in a respectful, non offensive way. i am not going to sit there while some jackoff makes a comment about my girl's ass within an earshot of me, knowing it's my gf. sorry, doesn't fly.

it would be the same if they sat there calling her ugly......right in front of my face. would it then be ok to confront them??? that sounds more like chivalry to me......or would i still be acting out of selfishness and my own vanity?......hmmmmmm....

YES - absolutely. What difference does it make whether someone is gawking or if some rude asshole calls your girl a straight up whore? How is this disrespectful to YOU? Does she not have a brain and can she not defend herself? You already said that she did.... then let her do it. If you felt the need to do it for her, then that says to me that you obviously feel that she can not handle the job adequately herself.

i don't mind the looking.....it comes with the territory when dating a hot looking woman. it's when certain lines get crossed that it becomes a problem....

god i can only imagine what dealing with you is like......no wonder you have convinced yourself that you are better off alone.....no man with a backbone would be able to stand you.....

Actually it is only the men that are void of a backbone that I have issue with. I don't need a man to save me any more than I would want a man that is incapable of wiping his own ass.

A true man would step back and allow me to feel empowered by proving that I could do it on my own... Which I am doing quite nicely.

I don't NEED a man.

I would very much DESIRE a man. There is a vast difference.

I get all the strength and support that I need from my kids and from my family.

Do you have any idea what it is like to feel badly for calling your friends crying hysterically because you have problems that are so mindboggling that they don't know what to say to comfort you, let alone guide you? I must have whigged out at least 5 people (that I even had the courage to call) about 2 weeks ago when some really nasty shit went down for me. I got DEAD SILENCE from those that were "there" to pick up... or just the only words they could think to say to me, "Don't worry, it'll be ok." when they knew damned well that there is a good chance that IT WONT BE. I don't even post up tons of shit on the boards anymore because I know that it wierds people out that they have run out of things to say to either guide me or make me feel better. But I am supposed to TRY to have a "relationship"?

Until someone truly amazing comes along that accepts all of the complications that come along with me I will be satisfied to struggle on my own.

I am one of the kindest, gentlest souls on the planet. Just because I refuse to "sit there and be pretty" and I am not afraid to step on a few toes to stand up for what I believe in that does not mean that there is something wrong with me.

Unconventional? yes

Provocative? HELL YES

Hater? not a chance.

As I have stated time and time again. I don't hate men. I hate assholes... and those come in BOTH genders. If a man is threatened by me, then that is on him.


PS - a fine good morning to ya.

 

[Werd]

I guess it is all in how you look at it. Guys staring at my girlfriend i take as a compliment as long as they keep it at that. She always made it clear she was taken and just smiled and blew them off. I walked into the place she was working one night and watched some guy walk up to her and start talking, he grabbed her hand and pulled her closer to him and that is when I went up. She was trying to pull away from him and he wouldn't let go. I just went up put my arm around her, looked at him winked and said, "I guess I am taking you both home tonight."
Never seen a guy run away so fast.

LOL I would have paid money to see that!

 

[GoldenDelicious]

werd, your wifes sexuality is helpful to her in her job. its ugly, but better looking people get promoted faster, treated better etc etc. its not worth spoiling that for your ego, and your ego alone.

what you should do is sit her down and question if it has gone too far - and imo, another man calling her 'babe' is too far. personally i would have waited until he went to the bathroom, and had a discussion with him about not doing that again. sure i can be violent and agressive, but honestly, i mean be calm, direct, and inform him that adressing her as 'babe' is disrespectful, demeaning in front of others, offensive to you, and borders on sexual harassment.

i have had attractive girlfriends in the past, and could shoo them away with a long look. maybe what you need to do is to go into your wifes workplace every now and again and make your existence known. if people continue to act innappropriately, well...

 

[Werd]

I understand what you are saying Golden and I concurr to some extent. However, what if an attractive woman does NOT have a man? Then what is she to do?

All I am saying is that if she is being sexually harrassed (and I KNOW that shit happens constantly - nothing more degrading than being treated like a "gurl" in your workplace when you are a capable, competent WOMAN). She really REALLY needs to stand up for herself sans a husband or boyfriend. This will demonstrate that she is every bit the competent, capable WOMAN and not some little gurlie that needs her man to come to her rescue from the evils of the big bad old co-workers...

I ran to my ex just once when some asshole in the gym really REALLY made me feel wierded out. Everybody knew that I was happily married with a whole gaggle of kids and that did NOT stop this sorry bastard. My ex gave me the reaming of my life because I "brought it on myself" because my shorts were too short.

(That is why he is the ex now.)

He was correct in once sense though and I did confess then as well as concede to it now. If that asshole was making me feel uncomfortable I should have walked up to him and told him so MYSELF.

That happened about 6 years ago.

NO ONE HAS EVER BEEN ALLOWED TO MAKE ME FEEL THE TINIEST BIT UNCOMFORTABLE SINCE. Why? BECAUSE I GREW A FUCKING BACKBONE AND TAKE CARE OF MY OWN AFFAIRS.

 

[Smurfy]

tough girl

 

[GoldenDelicious]

rofl!!! i meant to type "turd" not "werd"

soooooooorry

 

[GoldenDelicious]

lol you cant say they dont rhyme

 

[Werd]

lol you cant say they dont rhyme

LOL Admit it. You just want me to show you my tits!

 

[Y_lifter]

If its worth looking at, I'm looking...
Not Starring, just looking

Especially if she is dressed in such a way "Asking" to be looked at.

There's a big difference in checking out a woman, and making a nuisance of yourself

 

[Turd Ferguson]

If its worth looking at, I'm looking...
Not Starring, just looking

Especially if she is dressed in such a way "Asking" to be looked at.

There's a big difference in checking out a woman, and making a nuisance of yourself

Not sure if I posted this or not, but my wife dosen't dress in short skirts or tight shirts. I really don't think it would matter if she had a habit on. It's still a good looking girl going to talk to these male decision makers. And we all know what men are like.

I feel like I have addressed the issue which was the ignoring part, but for me to think that this sort of stuff isn't going to go is a false assumption. I love my wife enough to trust that she may get into situations where she is getting the mack put down, but will handle them appropriately. We vowed to each other that we will always be faithful. And right now I have to have faith. I just don't like getting ignored either.