I see, so what you're saying is that it doesn't matter if she's married. Which isn't a reflection on her at this point, but a complete reflection on you. It's my sincerest hope that one day you get to experience the other side of that.
I don't chase married women but if I happen to be stuck at a bar having drinks and a good looking girl is flirting and acting cute and gigli, I would'nt stop her because I happen to notice she has a wedding ring on