Why does being Family oriented make you almighty

[rudeboyja]

It's up to me & 2 of my co-workers to hire somebody. We've narrowed it down to 2 equal canidates & they want to give the nod to the "family oriented" person. I honeslty beleive the most jacked up shit you will see is behind the closed doors of the family with the 2 kids, cat, dog and white picket fence.

I guess my point is why do people assume just because you have a family that you are a good person? Family can be a great thing, I'm just tired of the notion.

 

[Raina]

I don't get why the image someone portrays as their homelife has to do with work. Unless they tell you that they miss a lot of work because the meth lab lights burns the baby often and they spend a lot of time at the hospital.

Who would really want to indicate to a potential employer that their personal life was a sham?

 

[nycgirl]

Its similar to women with children that think they are more complete than women that choose to not have children and/or focus on their careers.

The thing about "family-oriented" co-workers is that when little Johnny has a play or something, staying late is not option at all. Its been my experience that they just want to do their 8hrs and go home, which is fine for some professions. But I've seen women attorney have that attitude and then complain about not being on the partner track.

 

[rudeboyja]

I don't get why the image someone portrays as their homelife has to do with work. Unless they tell you that they miss a lot of work because the meth lab lights burns the baby often and they spend a lot of time at the hospital.

Who would really want to indicate to a potential employer that their personal life was a sham?

i'm talkin about the preception that someone who's a "family man" is somehow a better person. People want to beleive that because someone has a wife and 2 kids that they don't have as much dirty laundry as someone who doesn't, when a lot of times they have plenty more

 

[rudeboyja]

Its similar to women with children that think they are more complete than women that choose to not have children and/or focus on their careers.

The thing about "family-oriented" co-workers is that when little Johnny has a play or something, staying late is not option at all. Its been my experience that they just want to do their 8hrs and go home, which is fine for some professions. But I've seen women attorney have that attitude and then complain about not being on the partner track.

I feel you. We have a couple of single women with no kids where I work. They're attractive. People talk as to why they're not married and have kids. My point is that I can't stand when people throw around the "family oriented" term. Congrats if you found someone you love & props for taking care of your responsibilities, but does that make you better than the next person?

 

[caligirl]

i'm talkin about the preception that someone who's a "family man" is somehow a better person. People want to beleive that because someone has a wife and 2 kids that they don't have as much dirty laundry as someone who doesn't, when a lot of times they have plenty more

Usually employers like to hire "family" people because they are more likely to come to work and stay with one employer for a longer period of time. Having dependants is attractive to employers, think about it... they have to put food on the table for more than just themselves...

 

[SoreArms]

a single person with no children is often more selfish in terms of goals so they're more likely to be hard workers because they want to work their way to the top and are more willing and able to work late, travel, etc...

 

[nycgirl]

I feel you. We have a couple of single women with no kids where I work. They're attractive. People talk as to why they're not married and have kids. My point is that I can't stand when people throw around the "family oriented" term. Congrats if you found someone you love & props for taking care of your responsibilities, but does that make you better than the next person?

I don't think so. Nor, does it make you a better worker.

I guess its assumend that single workers will be out late partying, coming in late, etc, because we don't have responsibilities. I still have to pay rent, utilities, etc.

Yet, I swear, the workers with kids have a damn excuse for everything. And its always the kids.

I believe you and I live in the same area. Don't get me started on the "family-oriented" co-workers that also live outside the beltway vs. the single worker that doesn't have any responsibilities and lives along the metro line. I'll save that rant for another day.

 

[rudeboyja]

a single person with no children is often more selfish in terms of goals so they're more likely to be hard workers because they want to work their way to the top and are more willing and able to work late, travel, etc...

yeah, except for the "family-men" who work 12 hour days so they can avoid their families.