why do woman believe we lose respect if

[HiDnGoD]

Personally I think 4th date is prime fucking time. I don't consider myself to a great catch so if she fucks me on the first date i'm thinking who else is she fucking? The exception is people you meet online and have been chat/flirting with for months beforehand. I expect sex within the first hour of meeting then.

Zactly. I've noticed more women over 35ish who go out & pick a guy up, just to get thier ashes hauled. They have a lot going on in their lives & need to get some, but don't want all the drama of a relationship. Some get strange guys, & some have friends with benefits. I think it's great that they feel the freedom to do that & not feel the shame that can go with casual sex (primarily in people of my generation I think).
Actually, my daughters friend does that. She goes to College & works full time, & when she needs it, she just goes out & gets it.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Law of diminishing returns...

If a woman "plays the control game" and tries to blow off his advances for too long -- eventually he'll get discontent, feel dejected, not "feelin' the love" and start gravitatin' towards women who DO find him attractive and want to touch him.

Man will only take so much, before this high-school kissy-kissy, let's play 20 questions interogation job interview every date so i can get "comfortable" with you -- gets old.

Personally - Doesn't bother me. If you don't want to put out - fine. But don't yell at me if i'm also "job interviewing" 40 other women at the same time. If you've got me on "probation" -- no reason for me not to keep lookin' during that time.

Funny -- women will open up their legs in a heartbeat for other women. But for men, it requires a 28-point checklist. Why the different rules for essentially the same physical activity??

And she'll come to realize her blunder after that guy slips away, and then go out and fuck the first guy she thinks is cute.

 

[Snypr]

Law of diminishing returns...

If a woman "plays the control game" and tries to blow off his advances for too long -- eventually he'll get discontent, feel dejected, not "feelin' the love" and start gravitatin' towards women who DO find him attractive and want to touch him.

Man will only take so much, before this high-school kissy-kissy, let's play 20 questions interogation job interview every date so i can get "comfortable" with you -- gets old.

Personally - Doesn't bother me. If you don't want to put out - fine. But don't yell at me if i'm also "job interviewing" 40 other women at the same time. If you've got me on "probation" -- no reason for me not to keep lookin' during that time.

Funny -- women will open up their legs in a heartbeat for other women. But for men, it requires a 28-point checklist. Why the different rules for essentially the same physical activity??

It's like you're inside my head.

 

[foreigngirl]

I would wanna sleep with a woman on a first date. Then if we did, she would be in the G.F. list & not the marriage one. It would take her longer to get to the marriage list.

thats how we see it. The very reason why a girl wouldnt give it up right away

 

[Bikini Mod]

I was 34 y/o before I had my first one night stand. Does that mean that I will make it to heaven any faster? No. What that means is that there was a relationship or two in my pre-marriage life that should have been shot on the first night and called a one-night stand instead of turning it into something more in order to feel like I had to "maintain my integrity".

I dont like casual sex. It is not my preference as the sex is AT BEST *yawn* and AT WORST.... HORRIBLE!

If I sleep with a man within the first few hours of meeting him (1 st date) it is because I want some ass and NEVER want to see him again. Rarely does this happen as I would rather just stay home and play with myself. I ALWAYS get off this way and NEVER have to be faced with the uncomfortable feeling of "God - I hope he knows to get out... or shit, now I have to stay because I can't leave right now!"

When I have waited FOR A KISS (not talking even sex here) - IT WAS MAGIC and THE SEX WAS MINDBLOWING!

Why would I rob myself and that man of such pleasure?

Otherwise - there is no second date. Time is my most precious commodity. I wont waste mine and respect others by not wasting theirs either.

 

[vinylgroover]

Sex is one of the few natural pleasures we have left in society and something that should be enjoyed regardless of morals or values and certainly not used by society as some sort of moral crutch with which to pass judgement.

If we are to be puritans about the whole thing, then sex should really only be used for reproduction.

To me, i don't really get off on a one nighter.........sex is always infinitely better when feelings and a conection are involved which usually means getting to know a person.........as the feeling grows, so to does the sex get better.

 

[Jade19]

LMAO

If I was Plat, I'd put that in my sig.

In fact, I might go Plat just so I can.

many people in general guys and girls were raised to believe that sex is special and not something to hand out to evry mf-er that wants to tap it.

its nasty........plus girls dont wanna be played for sex

 

[Bikini Mod]

Sex is a gift to be shared between two mutually consenting adults.

 

[Raptorex]

Thank you Dr. Philtress for this long drawn out blah blah

Question, how many women have you slept with on the 1st or 2nd date who are still around today? (not current flings)

The consensus is that men typically are out for sex. (which more often than not is true...more power to them) Bottom line is anyone, male/female can have sex at any given time with someone. Women want to feel respect and reassurance that you see more to her than just a piece of meat. If you dont see her with any other aspect....then you probably should lower your standards to that of "easy-mode". (so you can get laid on the first date of course ) If you're really into a chic, wouldn't you want her to see you respect her for more than a lay? You know, enough to show that your interest in her is more than what's behind the panties? Say 2nd date, third date, god forbid 4th date?

Of course, if you're dating a prude like me....could be endless amount of time before you get the keys to the kingdom. For me, sex is sex. What makes it better or worse is the connection/chemistry I have with a guy. The more he knows about me (and I him) the better it will be. I'm not doing the walk of shame the next morning b/c I wake up next to a dude that I could barely tell you his last name. That's retarded. (IMO) For what? Another notch under my belt? Pass. Whether a man admits it or not, when there is a girl he is REALLY into, be it subconciously or not, his respect factor grows immensely for her projecting confidence and substance to sustain a first date, 2nd date, what have you, without droppin' her drawers and making whoopie.


Now, for those out there (male/female) who actually have done the hippidy dippidy on the first or second date and now you're living in happily ever after blissful marriage for your 10th year....kudos to you. I'm not saying it CANT/WONT happen....you're obviously the exception to my (above) rule.


Let the flaming begin....

 

[awittyusername]

Thank you Dr. Philtress for this long drawn out blah blah

lol

Whats up with these chicks??? Do they think they have gold between their legs??? Lighten up ladies