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artrius
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habitualhealth said:More power to you too. "Walk of shame" is something I personally came up with (i tend to create my own guide to communication) after seeing dozens of friends both male AND female bitch and complain because either:
A. They woke up and wanted to chew their own arm off because "i cant believe i slept with him/her"
B. i hear the "i KNEW that's all they were after"
C. "i should've waited to get to know them more"
Most people have either been there or know someone who has.
In my world, it's about morals. I am a self respecting lady regardless of who's bed I lie down in or wake up in. That certainly won't change. But I know how I (<~~ME personally) view random sex. That's what I hold on to. Morals, beliefs, respect, a more than standard for life. As well, I am a mother of a little girl who one day will be in my shoes.....or standing next to the guy who is trying to bed her on the first date. I can not possibly see myself telling her at 15 or 16 (hell, 12 & 13 these days) "oh honey, it's ok to sleep with whomever you want just as long the respect you have for yourself when you lie down with him...you have when you wake...regardless if he respects you or not....he's just a guy...oh, so don't you worry." Hell, effin, no. I feel (<~~~ME, dang why do I feel I have to reiterate that everytime i post on the boards these days...lol) a woman who is confident, secure, self respecting, and intuitive can make the judgement call on when the right time is to get it on in the relationship. Let's face it, until we (women) are butt ergly, smell funny, have funky a$$ breath, etc....a man is not going to turn down sex.
Fact is, our reputation it typically defined by our character.
If a guy/girl doesn't call back because you DONT sleep with him...what do conclude from it? I agree with the "who gives a flying f**k what anyone thinks of me" idea....but truth be told in MY world....I do care to an extent. I think we all do. For instance, some people were insecure about posting up their pics on EF because they didn't want anyone to say they were ugly or what have you.....why? Because they care that others think. I may not care what anyone on EF thinks (although, i love you all)....in my own personal world....the world that plays a role in my daughter's life....u better believe i do.
I respect everyone's opinion on this for sure. And it's good to get insight on how other people view the subject.
Well its interesting to see someone with moral values these days speak out about them. Good for you for that.
Your reputation is defined by your actions... that's what people end up judging you by. Sometimes they prejudge you, and that impression is oftentimes hard to overcome, but your actions are what is key to gaining respect.
The only other thing I really have to say is that not all men are out for sex... it may sound unbelievable, but its true, I think I know a guy who knows a guy.....
