why do woman believe we lose respect if

[rnch]

some of you peeps would be right at home back in 1949.

 

[Eringobraugh]

Hmmm...16, 21, 28, 30, 45....what's the difference?? (just curious of your mindset behind this)

Not necessarily a static age, just a woman that doesnt care one way or another whether she gets married and isnt in that mind set. They are past their party years if theyve matured and are adults and usually dont do it anyhow or go out very often, but if they want to have sex then they should go for it. I have many galfriends who dont go out often at all but have just wanted to have sex. Its a maturity thing and most of the women I know dont become really mature until around thirty. A girl in her early twenties sleeping around most guys view as disgusting, just the nature of society. I know women that have an occasional fling like that and I have no less respect for them at all but they are usually very intelligent mature women that I know and would strangle me if I didnt say that. It really is an individual case by case thing anyhow, there are no rules.

Personally the years of having sex with someone without knowing them have long since past. Its something for me to share with a woman that I care about alot.

 

[hamstershaver]

Cause that is what socitey has conditioned us to believe. If the guy is that narrow minded he is not someone I want to be with in the long term anyways. I am not big on game playing IE oh if I wait tell the 3rd date or whatever he will respect me more. BULLSHIT! If I am with someone and it is the first, 2nd or whatever date and I want to fuck them I am going to fuck them. If they don't respect me in the morning that is there lose not mine.

 

[IvanOffelitch]

Question, how many women have you slept with on the 1st or 2nd date who are still around today? (not current flings)

The consensus is that men typically are out for sex. (which more often than not is true...more power to them) Bottom line is anyone, male/female can have sex at any given time with someone. Women want to feel respect and reassurance that you see more to her than just a piece of meat. If you dont see her with any other aspect....then you probably should lower your standards to that of "easy-mode". (so you can get laid on the first date of course ) If you're really into a chic, wouldn't you want her to see you respect her for more than a lay? You know, enough to show that your interest in her is more than what's behind the panties? Say 2nd date, third date, god forbid 4th date?

Of course, if you're dating a prude like me....could be endless amount of time before you get the keys to the kingdom. For me, sex is sex. What makes it better or worse is the connection/chemistry I have with a guy. The more he knows about me (and I him) the better it will be. I'm not doing the walk of shame the next morning b/c I wake up next to a dude that I could barely tell you his last name. That's retarded. (IMO) For what? Another notch under my belt? Pass. Whether a man admits it or not, when there is a girl he is REALLY into, be it subconciously or not, his respect factor grows immensely for her projecting confidence and substance to sustain a first date, 2nd date, what have you, without droppin' her drawers and making whoopie.


Now, for those out there (male/female) who actually have done the hippidy dippidy on the first or second date and now you're living in happily ever after blissful marriage for your 10th year....kudos to you. I'm not saying it CANT/WONT happen....you're obviously the exception to my (above) rule.


Let the flaming begin....

"You must spread some Karma around before giving it to habitualhealth again."

Good post.

Yeah, I'm "old-fashioned."

 

[SoKlueles]

oh stfu

 

[habitualhealth]

How many guys put HH on ignore, because of this thread?

Aww, that sucks guess you'll miss this then won't ya? Darn.



.....just think of all the other HH posts/threads you're gonna miss out on. What a shame.

 

[satchboogie]

Cause that is what socitey has conditioned us to believe. If the guy is that narrow minded he is not someone I want to be with in the long term anyways. I am not big on game playing IE oh if I wait tell the 3rd date or whatever he will respect me more. BULLSHIT! If I am with someone and it is the first, 2nd or whatever date and I want to fuck them I am going to fuck them. If they don't respect me in the morning that is there lose not mine.

thats exactly the type of girl i wanna marry!!!

she dont give a fuck what anybody thinks of her and will most likely be very good under pressure.. not some pussy as ho who cant deal with life's hard battles.

karma to you babe!!

 

[velvett]

Law of diminishing returns...

If a woman "plays the control game" and tries to blow off his advances for too long -- eventually he'll get discontent, feel dejected, not "feelin' the love" and start gravitatin' towards women who DO find him attractive and want to touch him.

Man will only take so much, before this high-school kissy-kissy, let's play 20 questions interogation job interview every date so i can get "comfortable" with you -- gets old.

Personally - Doesn't bother me. If you don't want to put out - fine. But don't yell at me if i'm also "job interviewing" 40 other women at the same time. If you've got me on "probation" -- no reason for me not to keep lookin' during that time.

Funny -- women will open up their legs in a heartbeat for other women. But for men, it requires a 28-point checklist. Why the different rules for essentially the same physical activity??

You're funny.
And right.

 

[habitualhealth]

Personally the years of having sex with someone without knowing them have long since past. Its something for me to share with a woman that I care about alot.

Interesting point, but can you really care alot about a person if you know nothing about them? And how much can you REALLY know about someone after a first date?
(assuming you haven't been interrogating each other prior to the date)

 

[satchboogie]

Law of diminishing returns...

If a woman "plays the control game" and tries to blow off his advances for too long -- eventually he'll get discontent, feel dejected, not "feelin' the love" and start gravitatin' towards women who DO find him attractive and want to touch him.

Man will only take so much, before this high-school kissy-kissy, let's play 20 questions interogation job interview every date so i can get "comfortable" with you -- gets old.

Personally - Doesn't bother me. If you don't want to put out - fine. But don't yell at me if i'm also "job interviewing" 40 other women at the same time. If you've got me on "probation" -- no reason for me not to keep lookin' during that time.

Funny -- women will open up their legs in a heartbeat for other women. But for men, it requires a 28-point checklist. Why the different rules for essentially the same physical activity??

word!!!!!!!