Why do girls dig guys that are out of shape????

[GaryWary]

Girls like nice guys. Nice guys don't always train with weights. My girlfriend likes me with muscle but also likes a smooth belly?

 

[The_Eviscerator]

Some girls don't want a guy that is prettier then them. I call it the Narcissus syndrome. They believe that we are more into our own looks that theirs. They feel intimidated by your devotion to working out and they know if they don't hit the gym you may fire their ass.

A lot of women go for the skinny smoking pretty boy who goes to bars and drinks and looks like a joe average. They know they have no pressure with a guy like that.

 

[GaryWary]

Some girls don't want a guy that is prettier then them. I call it the Narcissus syndrome. They believe that we are more into our own looks that theirs. They feel intimidated by your devotion to working out and they know if they don't hit the gym you may fire their ass.

A lot of women go for the skinny smoking pretty boy who goes to bars and drinks and looks like a joe average. They know they have no pressure with a guy like that.

That maybe true of a minority. I believe that girls require less visual stimuli, but require more mental/emotional stimuli. Therefore, girls are only motivated by looks to a limited degree. This 'look' may or may not include muscles. Skinny/average is not usually seens as a reason for rejection. I believe that girls are far more interested in personality, sense of humour, etc. My girlfriend loves my muscles, but didn't mind when my belly approached 36inches this xmas (got it down to 35 already.. and still dieting...). She even liked it.

Men like porn more than women, therefore it stands to reason that we are more visually stimulated and more likely to choose a girlfriend wholly on looks. Women are more discerning and most likely to have a lower benchmark for looks, and a higher one for personality. No amount of muslces can make up for an unsuitable personality. Most women don't see men as just a body and a penis. Men often do see women as just tits, fanny and arse.

 

[Pamela]

It is all in how you put your game down on a honey! Women are very unsure of themselves, so they really dont want a guy that looks better than them. But the remedy for this is to tell them how nice they look. How good they smell and all the rest of the BS. And this my friends will get you the P*ssy, plus you got to know how to use the D*ck!!!! Plain and Simple!

It's all a game.

 

[Bigsatan13]

Listen to all of this sniveling! Look it's plane and simple. If a chick wants some Back Street Boy lookalike, she is probably looking for someone she can and will control, she will be the dominate one in the relationship and if this not what you want you're better off without someone like that. Now I know plenty of girls who like their men big and in shape. The want to feel like a woman and be protected and taken care of like a good woman should. In turn she is willing to take care of her man and herself and may be a little subservient. But bottom line you as a man have to be able to take care of business and take care of her. If you're an asshole it doesn't matter how you look you'll always be lonely.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Read my post on the "older women" thread... You could be GORGEOUS, MONEY, GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR and still.... I wouldn't want ya.... It takes so much more than external appearances to capture my heart..... though I will confess that the last man who did (and who holds it still) was the MOST GORGEOUS man to ever walk the face of the earth - BIG, STRONG, TALL, DARK, AND HANDSOME.... hehehheee

 

[Raina]

And to twist it a little.....why does my man give me nothing but shit for eating clean and working out?? He is a complete asshole about me lifting. I told him if he doesn't knock this off soon I'm leaving and he can go find some girl who isn't so awful as to want a tighter body. I'm positive that there are men out there who'd love a girl who worked out.

 

[Raina]

So you escaped the nonsense then Nicole?? It sucks. He seems to think that me going to the gym is a lot like me saying I'm going to work in a brothel. I won't even argue with him about it because 1) I do what I want to and 2) it's too stupid to even waste my time trying to defend.

Things have soured SO much since I've gotten more healthy. I think it's ironic that when I was starving myself all the time he didn't get upset with me but when I go lift he does. We'll see if he'll knock it off or if I'm going to be single soon. What a petty thing to throw the last 2 years over. Selfish jealous jackass.

 

[sheez_ripped]

Well....

i'm a muscle chic...and i married a bodybuilder....and yeah...he looks damn fine....but sometimes....it is so annoying when he takes longer to get ready to go out than I DO!! By the time he dehairs, tans, oils up, gets his club pump on....flexes in the mirror...and looks at himself a million times while he dresses....geez...i just roll my eyes...lol! but i luv him and would never trade that bod for a soft, flabby guy.....no luv handles for me....i like his tight ass....huge shoulders.....ect....

but u guys r right about this as well....we never know whos getting looked at when we go out...but then we both get hit on by both sexes....it just kills him when the gurls are after me instead of him!!

but remember....u gotta enjoy these bods while ya have them....cause u won't have them forever.....when looks fade, ya want someone u enjoy hanging with too! like bikinimom said...looks aren't everything.....not for the long term anyway!

 

[velvett]

Mirror time.

That's all.

I can't date a guy that spends more time infront of the mirror and in the shower than I do. I mean really - we would never do anything but primp and debate about who gets to primp first.






Seriously though, good people come in all different shapes, sizes and colors, so one should really judge the person until they know that person.