who 'wants' a friend? and what if a girl starts being wayy more friendly?

[danielson]

whats the reason? someone i know, and was fairly friendly has become very much more friendly towards me in the last 2-3 weeks running up to exams and after

she got a lot more friendly....knocking on my door to ask how i am, inviting me out to bars with her (but with other friends there) and also generating more playful contact and its been fairly frequent.... pinch of my back or punch of my arm, even slapping my ass with a book before my first exam (i reciprocate). she also helped me out a HELL of a lot with my exam, and would lend me stuff way longer than she needed to when she and her revision buds needed it. she also has confided in me (and me in her) but it maybe because i am a 'new friend'

thing is its not 'huggy' type contact so im not sure she likes me in that way i always thought she was gorgeous but thats true of a lot of girls so i was never really that bothered. now im getting to know her better and im really falling for her, but dont wanna let myself go down that road if she doesnt think the same

she's single but has said she is interested in this guy, he seems interested in her and while they 'may' not get together this year he maybe living near her next year. meaning its a definate poss.


soooooo

why does someone become much more friendly like that, and make such an effort. the more i think about it the more i feel it isnt romantic (because of the other guy) even if stuff she does is suggestive of it (she seemed eager to use me for a body (and have me semi nekkid when others were availible).....

am i ignoring the obvious and the invites are for a reason? or is there an alterior motive? she is soooo hot but i dont wanna throw away what could be a cool friendship, but her hot-ness will always be there. she has a close male friend i 'could' ask but he;s the type who would tell her and everyone else just for a laugh

i only get to spend time with her for another 1/2week to a week max before we break for summer....do i drop hints now? and if so what.....or do i just let it play out and see how it goes. and do i try and seize the moment before this other guy decides to? she wants a guy....this is my concern and what i really want answered. this other guy could ask for me if i pushed him but he may tell her all and screw me

hot damn, every girl i;ve fallen for has ended up being some psycho bat out of hell, thisis the first good one! and she should have fucking figured it by now given she catches me stealing glances at her all the fucking time!

 

[biteme]

whats the reason? someone i know, and was fairly friendly has become very much more friendly towards me in the last 2-3 weeks running up to exams and after

she got a lot more friendly....knocking on my door to ask how i am, inviting me out to bars with her (but with other friends there) and also generating more playful contact and its been fairly frequent.... pinch of my back or punch of my arm, even slapping my ass with a book before my first exam (i reciprocate). she also helped me out a HELL of a lot with my exam, and would lend me stuff way longer than she needed to when she and her revision buds needed it. she also has confided in me (and me in her) but it maybe because i am a 'new friend'

thing is its not 'huggy' type contact so im not sure she likes me in that way i always thought she was gorgeous but thats true of a lot of girls so i was never really that bothered. now im getting to know her better and im really falling for her, but dont wanna let myself go down that road if she doesnt think the same

she's single but has said she is interested in this guy, he seems interested in her and while they 'may' not get together this year he maybe living near her next year. meaning its a definate poss.


soooooo

why does someone become much more friendly like that, and make such an effort. the more i think about it the more i feel it isnt romantic (because of the other guy) even if stuff she does is suggestive of it (she seemed eager to use me for a body (and have me semi nekkid when others were availible).....

am i ignoring the obvious and the invites are for a reason? or is there an alterior motive? she is soooo hot but i dont wanna throw away what could be a cool friendship, but her hot-ness will always be there. she has a close male friend i 'could' ask but he;s the type who would tell her and everyone else just for a laugh

i only get to spend time with her for another 1/2week to a week max before we break for summer....do i drop hints now? and if so what.....or do i just let it play out and see how it goes. and do i try and seize the moment before this other guy decides to? she wants a guy....this is my concern and what i really want answered. this other guy could ask for me if i pushed him but he may tell her all and screw me

hot damn, every girl i;ve fallen for has ended up being some psycho bat out of hell, thisis the first good one! and she should have fucking figured it by now given she catches me stealing glances at her all the fucking time!

In my 38 years of living, I have deduced this about women. They like to fuck with men just to see if they can get your attention solely for their egos. They can be very selfish and inconsiderate creatures. Once again, I'm not talking about all of them. I say go for it. You will always wonder what would have happened if you don't. Many times in the past I would wait forever to ask a girl out waiting for the obvious signs that she was interested in me, when they were there all the time.

 

[danielson]

ok its long! i tried shortening it but i couldnt!

the bold stuff is what really perplexes me though.....i have no-one who i can tell about this without it (probably) getting back to her

 

[Mandinka2]

ur either a crush or a weapon 2 use against her object of interest. That ladder theory is pretty true I think ull find.

 

[flex123]

You don't have a chance, you already entered the "friend" stage and that usually means you blew your chance of fucking her.

 

[danielson]

ur either a crush or a weapon 2 use against her object of interest. That ladder theory is pretty true I think ull find.

she genuinly wouldnt do the latter and also because he doesnt know any of this

all i;ve got is a crushim just afraid of letting it be more


flex123 i;d normally agree about the 'friend zone' but she tends to go out with friends as opposed to new aquaintainces....she's been friendly with this guy for a few years....

 

[Mandinka2]

she genuinly wouldnt do the latter and also because he doesnt know any of this

all i;ve got is a crushim just afraid of letting it be more


flex123 i;d normally agree about the 'friend zone' but she tends to go out with friends as opposed to new aquaintainces....she's been friendly with this guy for a few years....

My friend , she may not be doin it intentionally or at least she doesnt want to think about it 2 much , but i think uve got the same problem as i do , u associate positive values on ur objects of affection even though it may not be justified. I hope im wrong.

 

[danielson]

its possible....but its just i hardly ever see this guy, the same is true of her (they had to go to the same classes for about 14weeks but dont now)....she may have tried to make us jealous but it just seems unlikely from a logistical sense. thats the main reason i doubt it

i just read the ladder site.....very true. so if i wanna find out or pursue it and maybe fail andget awkward, i either ask her, get a friend to probe presenting it as curiousity on my part...im just afraid then if she does like me she might think im horrified with her.

or wait and let it progress naturally....leaving the door open for this other guy. hence my problem

 

[Anarchist]

In my 38 years of living, I have deduced this about women. They like to fuck with men just to see if they can get your attention solely for their egos. They can be very selfish and inconsiderate creatures. Once again, I'm not talking about all of them. I say go for it. You will always wonder what would have happened if you don't. Many times in the past I would wait forever to ask a girl out waiting for the obvious signs that she was interested in me, when they were there all the time.

yea, go for it. im saying shes only fucking with you htough.

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

She's probably preggo with some ugly, jobless guy's kid.

If she likes you, and I mean really likes you, just tell her not to do anything you and she'd regret in the future over the summer.

If she's serious about you at all, she'll listen. If she is semi-seriously interested, she'll ponder it too much, and that will keep her from doing anything regrettable. If she isn't truly interested, she'll get an abortion when she feels like she's run out of options.

Man, my lady would smack me for saying these things. Of course, that would lead to rough anal....