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i agree with this...except that 13 is a bit too big to be getting spanked or slapped...i cannot really say much on the subject because my kids are still small, i do not know how i will react when they are in their teens..i do know that if you do not dissapline them as small children in the proper (old fashoined way) then they will become harder to manage as they grow...my oldest is 7 and i rarely slap him....he knows the boundaries not that i am saying he is a saint but he knows when enough is enough..we didnt do time outs or any of that it was always a "spanking" with him...too many kids are getting away with more and more because their parents are into this whole non spanking stuff...there was no problems back in the day when children were getting punished i think it worked just fine the way they handled it.victoria978 said:
lol @ spanking being the first option for discipline. that's for people who are too lazy to discipline properly. spanking is quick and easy, sure. but it's not effective and it has long term effects that are not good. should never be your first or only option. only to be used in certain circumstances and when other methods are not working or not feasible. believe me, I have spanked but only with my hand and never hard enough to hurt, just enough to get attention and say HEY I MEAN BUSINESS.
it's our job to guide our children into the desired behavior. spanking certainly doesnt do that. it teaches nothing other than hitting is a way to solve problems IMO.
it's our job to guide our children into the desired behavior. spanking certainly doesnt do that. it teaches nothing other than hitting is a way to solve problems IMO.
i did not mean go beating the kid with a belt!!! yes a small slap on the butt to let them know that i mean what i said...my son is now 7 i have tried every thing with hiim...time out chair, elimination process, bedtime early, you name it i have tried it.....my daughter on the other hand i do not need to spank at all....Smurfy said:
there are other ways to teach a child to behave but not always do they work...yes spankings do teach the child wrong behavior in some instances....my son does not raise his hands to any one and he was spanked plenty of times. my daughter on the other hand who was rarely ever spanked raises her hand and hits both her brothers all the time.....
we did try the whole other route..it failed to work with him, so we went to the next level......and that is where we stayed...he is 7 and does not recieve any spankings any more.......and i must say it did work for him...should all kids get spanked???? imo it all depends...if you put them in time out and they get up and walk off do what?? try again? no i doubt it...i was not one to dick around with my son let him get the satisfaction knowing he is playing some game where in the end he is most likely to win?....i tried all the methods and they failed then i began using spankings...Smurfy said:
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realy.i thought it was showing them if you do something wrong there will be a consaqance that they wont like.my son is 7 he never hits another kid in school or anny thing like that.Smurfy said:
he never gets out of line with me in poblic or at home.
beleive it or not but fear is the only thing that works in keeping kids from doing the wrong thing.if there was nothing to be afraid of.then they would do what ever they wanted to do.if you put them in a time out,take toys or tv,even spank them its all just a form of givving them something to fear if they do wrong.as a parent you have to diside what youre kid needs for disaplen.for some kids time out works,and for some it takes a spanking.my kids allways lissen when i talk so they never get spanked,but they lissen cuz they know the will if they dont.dosent matter if i am there or not.they know what will happen if they do something wrong.
will they get older and try to test the bondres yes of course,will they try to rebell.probably.but they will soon find out they will be banging there heads against a brick wall.the bigest problem thease days is parents just give up.there kids rebell and they just give up trying to disaplen them.
"It is better to be feared than loved."
-name the movie.
Look, Im not trying to argue about the fact that yes some kids in some situations need to be spanked. I agree with that. I have spanked my son who is also 7. Moreso when he was younger and very very rarely now. But what Im talking about are people whose ONLY recourse is a spanking. a)because its the first thing that comes to mind (habit) b) it's the easiest thing to do immediately and c) they truly dont know any other methods.
PARENTING IS A FUCKING HARD JOB. no one is disputing that fact. none of us are experts. we fucking make it up as we go along basically. we make mistakes. lord knows I have handled many situations with my son in the wrong manner. some people tell me Im too harsh with him. some times Im too harsh, sometimes not harsh enough. a lot of it has to do with the amount of energy I have at the time to deal with it.
-name the movie.
Look, Im not trying to argue about the fact that yes some kids in some situations need to be spanked. I agree with that. I have spanked my son who is also 7. Moreso when he was younger and very very rarely now. But what Im talking about are people whose ONLY recourse is a spanking. a)because its the first thing that comes to mind (habit) b) it's the easiest thing to do immediately and c) they truly dont know any other methods.
PARENTING IS A FUCKING HARD JOB. no one is disputing that fact. none of us are experts. we fucking make it up as we go along basically. we make mistakes. lord knows I have handled many situations with my son in the wrong manner. some people tell me Im too harsh with him. some times Im too harsh, sometimes not harsh enough. a lot of it has to do with the amount of energy I have at the time to deal with it.
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