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As Clint Eastwood said, "Deserves got nothin' to do with it, (BLAM!)"
Put on your big girl panties and set him free. There's nothing wrong with you except the fact you're trying to make something out of nothing.
what would you do when a relationship isn't enough?
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As Clint Eastwood said, "Deserves got nothin' to do with it, (BLAM!)"
Put on your big girl panties and set him free. There's nothing wrong with you except the fact you're trying to make something out of nothing.
*ebony*
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lol, yea. just having my drunk pity thinking marathon after yet another super sweet and thoughtful thing he did for me. i wish he hadnt, but i'd be lying..kinda.
Im gonna go buy some big panties. no joke.
^^^This.
If you marry a man just because you're afraid of being alone, I guarantee you the "right" guy WILL come along, sooner or later, usually at just about the worst time possible (oh, say about a year after you've just settled on your new house and the kids are settling into their new school) and then you've got a whole world of shit on your hands.
Let love grow out of a great mutual friendship and it will take root and flourish forever.
why not just start abusing him until he lashes out and starts being a dickhead so you can finally love him?
What's to roll your eyes over? If you're marrying someone and in your heart you're thinking you're "settling" (for whatever reason), or (like Ebony said at the top) "he loves me more than I love him" then sooner or later the "real thing" will come along. Your heart just won't be completely in the relationship.
She's not talking dating, she's talking long term.
the "right guy" coming along when you have kids down the road, sounds like an attempt at rationalizing lack of devotion, integrity, and loyalty.
also "then you have a world of shit on your hands" implies that its nature to go for the exciting new thing, and ruin your family life. hopefully not everyone thinks this way.
the grass is always greener. the "right" guy is easy to find when you know you can't/don't have to be with him in the long run
Believe what you will, I can only speak from my personal experience and observations of others.
Walking down the aisle with even nagging concerns about your s/o is an enormous mistake. You think that little worry is the barest ripple in a pond. After the stressors of life begin to crowd in, that ripple turns into a full blown tsunami.
My first marriage was a very ugly mistake, the only good that came out of it was my son (who now, at age 26, will have nothing to do with his father).
