What is the psychology behind remaining childless?

[Y_lifter]

Good for you.. Smart move... and don't worry what everyone else is doing or what they think...

There are more married childless couples out there than you would think.

We wanted 2 kids, due to circumstances we only have 1 and are done.

I thank GOD "who ever", every day I don't have to deal with that Sibling rivalry that everyone says make a real family...

 

[ziffle]

I'm with you. I have never wanted kids, even when I was a young girl still playing with dolls. I've had people think they were entitled to ask why I chose not to and then inform me I'm selfish and abnormal because I didn't fit their narrow vision of the way things should be. Just as many more would inform me in their most condescending manner that I would change my mind when I got older. Well guess what? I never did change my mind and chose to have a tubal ligation at a fairly early age, a decision that I have never regretted. F*&^ everybody else. It's your decision and no one else's. I think it's much more selfish to stick with the status quo and go ahead and do something that's not right for you just because everyone is doing it rather than make an informed, rational decision to follow your own thoughts and feelings. Any idiot can spawn offspring, not everybody can be a decent parent. I also decided if I ended up with an SO that had to have kids, then they would not be the right person for me and we would have to go our separate ways if it came to that. Many people have bowed to the pressure and had children when they really would have rather not. Sometimes it works out fine, they decide they love being a parent and love the child more than life itself. However, other times the only thing that comes out of their decision is resentment and bitterness in taking a step they were ill equipped to make. Your choice.

 

[Studly Hungwell]

Polarpixie, I feel like being decisive right now will shape our future for the better. I don't want to be wishy washy now and decisive later. That will be a disservice to my future wife. I certainly know I do not want to adopt. Vas are reversable, but they only gureentee(sp?) an increase in sperm count. A vas, according to doctor is pretty much perminant.

Just from my unscientific wild as guess thoery, it appears the people who should refrain from having kids due to social standing and intelligence are having the most kids while the upper crust of society are having only two kids, if any. I don't consider myself high and mighty by any means. Just an observation off the subject.

I have marched to the beat of a different drummer all my life and I see some of you do the same. It will freak some out, but hell, it sure does strengthen our resolve!

 

[Studly Hungwell]

It is WAY harder to get laid if you are a daddy.

I don't know. Seem kids would make you look "safe"

 

[Lady Viking]

I don´t want kids either. I like kids as long as they´re not mine
I might change my mind later but that´s what I feel right now.

 

[Warik]

I don't really see the point of life without children. The real point of life is unknown, but at least with kids you can take a guess that the meaning of your life is to care for someone and propagate yourself throughout eternity through your kids and grandkids. Without kids, wtf is the point of being here?

-Warik

 

[-SD-]

Selfishness.

 

[Studly Hungwell]

The whole point of living is being productive in a positive sence. I know that the best way for me to better society is not bring another unwanted child in this world.

Funny that someone thinks its selfish not to have kids. Most people I sak around say "Oh, don't YOU want someone to look after YOU when YOU get old???"

I support, but feel sorry for most compelled to have kids. You may do a great job, but eventually your kids are going to team up with some real shirtbirds raised by dumb fucks that have no idea; leaving all you hard earned parenting skills in the shitter.

Most of the people who say kids are the greatest things have not had their offspring reach teenage years. By then they learn to hate you.

 

[MP5]

Thank god some others that relate!!!! I have zero desire to have kids. I am 30 and i have though of getting a vasectomy just so i won't accidentally have kids. I love my lifestyle and i see the lifestyle of my siblings and friends who have kids and there is NO WAY i want to live that way. I enjoy doing as i please, traveling, taking off the fall to hunt etc. And, having children makes you a slave to your job. Me, i lose my job, big deal, i get a new one. My brother loses his job, he is fucked, 3 kids and a wife that does not work, no thanks. The thing that pisses me off is everyone with kids thinks since you don't want kids, you must hate theirs. I don't hate children, i just hate the lifestyle that having children and a family brings. I think people with more than 2 kids are selfish, they don't care about the population problem in the world, they got what they wanted so fuck everyone else. 40 years ago that was OK, today with a lack of resources, jobs, etc, it is not an intelligent decision.