What Are Your Thoughts On Honesty In Relationships?

[slick635235]

Women want honest men, but when she wants to know every detail she gets mad. For example, I told my ex that I fucked a stripper and she was upset with me for a very long time. I try to lie about the circumstance, but she always knows when I lie and makes her more upset. Listen, I try to tell white lies, but she always finds out, somehow. Some things just need to be left unsaid to avoid hurting your partner's feelings..................SO HOW COULD YOU BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING? EVERYONE LIES IN ONE FORM OR ANOTHER................WOMEN, WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THIS SINCE YOU GALS ARE THE ONES WHO ALWAYS SEEM TO WANT HONEST MEN WHO NEVER LIE.

 

[deco]

I just lie and lie and lie and when she finds out I lie some more

 

[galaxy]

what they dont know cant hurt them.

 

[katdav]

Ignorance is bliss...til we find out, then we are hurt. And we always find out.

 

[slick635235]

I AGREE, BUT IT IS TOUGH WHEN YOU ARE A BAD LIER AND THEN GET CAUGHT IN LIE BECAUSE YOU FORGOT WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEFORE.........THE BOTTOM LINE IS THAT WOMEN ARE FUCKED UP......ONE GIRL WANTS THIS AND THE NEXT GIRL WANTS THE OPPOSITE.....

what they dont know cant hurt them.

 

[OMEGA]

be as noble as you can be
with everyone

 

[Smurfy]

I think people in general want others who do not lie. That doesnt mean that every intimate detail on your past has to be discussed in open with the SO, especially if it just doesnt matter to the current relationship, and will cause more harm than good. I didnt ask my husband much at all about previous relationships, but over time, and since we talk alot and are open with each other, certain things come out - none of which are harmful to me. i guess its a matter of knowing what would be ok to discuss and what wouldnt and that depends on how well you know your SO, and how the relationship is.

 

[deco]

I AGREE, BUT IT IS TOUGH WHEN YOU ARE A BAD LIER AND THEN GET CAUGHT IN LIE BECAUSE YOU FORGOT WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEFORE.........THE BOTTOM LINE IS THAT WOMEN ARE FUCKED UP......ONE GIRL WANTS THIS AND THE NEXT GIRL WANTS THE OPPOSITE.....

Make up enaugh lies where she gets lost in them

 

[galaxy]

I AGREE, BUT IT IS TOUGH WHEN YOU ARE A BAD LIER AND THEN GET CAUGHT IN LIE BECAUSE YOU FORGOT WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEFORE.........THE BOTTOM LINE IS THAT WOMEN ARE FUCKED UP......ONE GIRL WANTS THIS AND THE NEXT GIRL WANTS THE OPPOSITE.....

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Oh i know, you cant trust either one. Im talking the big game but i for one cant lie, i mean i can, but im horrible at it and you could see right threw me...........I dont think something that happend in a past relationship needs to be mentioned tho. I know guys who feel the need to tell the new girl everything about the ex and then they worry what shes gonna think. I mean i cant imagine theyd be too impressed to find out they had cheated before and why he feels the need to say that i have no idea.

Length of relationship and trust levels play a role also. I mean i could tell a certain "dude" something now that may turn her off , but in two years from now she may find it deeply moving and sexy.

 

[rocky_road]

Why did you fuck a stripper? Were you high or drunk, or had you been fantasizing about other women for a while? If you were in a completely honest relationship, wouldn't you have told her prior to the act that you were having feelings about other women (or never at all, in the case that you were not dating each other exclusively.)

See what I mean?

About lying, I don't see how any lying about cheating can be considered a white lie, which by definition would not hurt her in the least. Lying destroys truth. IMO she'd be better off hearing straight up that you don't want to be with her and only her, and that way she could go fuck other guys or something, or to start getting over you.

Think about it from her point of view. How would you feel if she fucked other guys while you, being faithful, were completely oblivious? You'd want to have the right to see other people, too.