blacksmoke said:
... one thing I havent learned was how to use an opponents strength against him? Is it possible and if so post some examples that are there for me to understand this.
Yes it's possible, there are some arts with focus on the idea. Aikido and Judo were brought up. Many wrestling arts use this idea, and as I understand they also train to make effective bursts of energy to take advantage of situations.
Think of it this way.. what if you're very tired or hurt.. how would you act in a situation? If you're very willing, and have a couple of excellent partners, really really wear yourself out one day (or over a few), then spar at 50% speed with one partner.
Try a little groundwork and notice how you simply do not have the strength to resist them directly. If you have the energy to resist, then do more pushups. =) If I push you, you would have to let my energy push you out of the way.. you don't have the energy to resist me and are too tired to flinch out of the way. When tired, sticking and being relaxed become very useful skills.
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All that is about learning to not resist strength directly. Get out of the way or let the other guy's strength move you out of the way.
Applying it in general is a bit difficult .. Big Rick Rock expressed some good ideas about balance.
If I grab and shove you, and you let me move you out of the way, you could push my opposite shoulder to maybe pivot me. My strength and commitment went in one direction, and you're helping my rotation.
If I kick straight at you, and you move away, all my strength and commitment went into that kick (or it would not be harmful). When I miss, my leg is locked up and I am stretched out. You could simply get out of the way of a straight and deep kick and then walk past me, over my leg. Heck, maybe you could kick my knee out.
If I grab your hand, and I pull it, let me pull it and walk with your hand. Your hand is safe and you have another free hand (and feet!) to work with me. If I tug you and you simply walk with the tug maybe you could push a shoulder or hip or walk into me and push me over. It sounds stupid, looks wierd and feels submissive, but such ideas can work.
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I'm no expert, and I hope your background doesn't make it hard for you to visualise the forces at work.. but I thought I'd give a few ideas.
Cheers,