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Torn between two women.

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FRC21

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1st women:
We met I fell crazy mad in love with the women. She never really treated me that great, but never that bad. She got pregnant about 2 months into the relationship, and for the life of us we could not get along. She ended up having an abortion, that really hurt me. I changed my number and moved on with women #2. A few months later #1 calls me and begs me back telling me I was the love of her life. I take her back, but after two attempts of trying to live together we can't make it work. We split ways for good.

Now the kicker is I think of #1 everyday of my life. I could spend the rest of my life with this women if we could work threw our problems, but she is a bad decision maker and I have a good career to think about.

2nd women:
Treats me like a fucking god. Women will do anything for me and has been living with me for 4 months now. I love this girl also, but nothing like the feelings I have for #1. #1 just got into contact with me and wants me to move out #2 and give her another shot. I'm torn between what to do.

Both girls are hot
Both girls great in the sack
#2 has a good job and is stable.
#1 has some problems and needs some therapy, but I love her and would be willing to help.

I have no fucking idea what to do????????? :worried:
 
Angel said:
Stay with number 2, it is well worth it..Just forget about number 1!
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Its easy to say that, but what about my feelings for #1. I'm not sure why I can't move on. In my single days I didn't care about shit, but for some reason this girl has a hold on me.
 
let them each have half then
 
Sassy69 said:
Dont you think it says a world of things if you can't get along w/ #`1 after trying twice?
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I do trust me. I just wonder why I lust after her? I almost feel quilty making love to #2 thinking about #1. Maybe I am just seeking her approval?
 
FRC21 said:
I just wonder why I lust after her?
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Because you can't have her as you have #2.
We always want what we can't have and not appreciate what we do have until we realize long down the road that we now have nothing.

Save yourself some grief and leave #1 behind...




















you will eventually anyway no need to torture 3 people when you can only 2.
 
I don't think its the fact that I can't have #1. I could go fuck her/be with her whenever I want. I'm just faithfull to #2.
 
Story of my life.

Girl 1 I fell in love with, she dumped me. Girl 2 *thought* I was in love with, girl 1 comes back, so I ditch 2. Girl 1 doesn't take me back... go back and forth with girl 2. I finally settle on girl 2, girl 2 doesn't believe me. Girl 1 then gives up the goods. After months of this whole "sex" thing. She gets pregnant. I try and make it work, it does for the most part. Girl 2 bounces around the perephery, being a friend. A few years back the line between friend and more gets blurred. I read the signals wrong (she just wants sex, I don't do "just sex") A drag out fight pretty much happens. Girl 2 no longer a friend because of Girl 1. I end up marrying girl 1.

And that's where I'm at now.
 
total combined train wreck rating of 98%. but if you mus tchoose then go with bitch #2
 
sardonicone said:
Story of my life.

Girl 1 I fell in love with, she dumped me. Girl 2 *thought* I was in love with, girl 1 comes back, so I ditch 2. Girl 1 doesn't take me back... go back and forth with girl 2. I finally settle on girl 2, girl 2 doesn't believe me. Girl 1 then gives up the goods. After months of this whole "sex" thing. She gets pregnant. I try and make it work, it does for the most part. Girl 2 bounces around the perephery, being a friend. A few years back the line between friend and more gets blurred. I read the signals wrong (she just wants sex, I don't do "just sex") A drag out fight pretty much happens. Girl 2 no longer a friend because of Girl 1. I end up marrying girl 1.

And that's where I'm at now.
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that's ROUGH bro.. She must ride a dick like no other
 
T-Matt said:
that's ROUGH bro.. She must ride a dick like no other
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No, she does not. AT least, she hasn't since our son was born.

And I don't know if the other does or not. We messed around but never had sex.
 
sardonicone said:
No, she does not. AT least, she hasn't since our son was born.

And I don't know if the other does or not. We messed around but never had sex.
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Damn. I want to at least give her the benefit of the doubt

Well, when/if you decide to file for divorce hit me up and we'll tear up South Beach..

Damn you never tagged girl #2?? Why not? ahh that's right you said you were faithful to #1.. #2 was probably in love with you bro since you were so faithful.. #2 will always be waiting for you to hit them skins....
 
T-Matt said:
Damn. I want to at least give her the benefit of the doubt

Well, when/if you decide to file for divorce hit me up and we'll tear up South Beach..

Damn you never tagged girl #2?? Why not? ahh that's right you said you were faithful to #1.. #2 was probably in love with you bro since you were so faithful.. #2 will always be waiting for you to hit them skins....
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NO, 2 tried to get me to "hit them skins" when me and 1 were having some major problems a few years ago.

1 at the time was pregnant with our *second* kid as well. It was a bad, bad time.

I DO however still care about 2. Go figure. She's back with her bf, who, ironically enough, used to be a best friend of mine. 2 and I started dating because he wanted me to talk to her about him. I didn't even like her at the time... go figure.

1 I'm sure is completely in love with me now. I love her, I just don't know if it's enough. It was wierd having these two fight back and forth over me for such a long time.

I think if 1 had more confidence in herself and got back into shape the sex wouldn't be so bad.
 
sardonicone said:
NO, 2 tried to get me to "hit them skins" when me and 1 were having some major problems a few years ago.

1 at the time was pregnant with our *second* kid as well. It was a bad, bad time.

I DO however still care about 2. Go figure. She's back with her bf, who, ironically enough, used to be a best friend of mine. 2 and I started dating because he wanted me to talk to her about him. I didn't even like her at the time... go figure.

1 I'm sure is completely in love with me now. I love her, I just don't know if it's enough. It was wierd having these two fight back and forth over me for such a long time.

I think if 1 had more confidence in herself and got back into shape the sex wouldn't be so bad.
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upon further review forget the both of themn.
 
FRC21 said:
1st women:
We met I fell crazy mad in love with the women. She never really treated me that great, but never that bad. She got pregnant about 2 months into the relationship, and for the life of us we could not get along. She ended up having an abortion, that really hurt me. I changed my number and moved on with women #2. A few months later #1 calls me and begs me back telling me I was the love of her life. I take her back, but after two attempts of trying to live together we can't make it work. We split ways for good.

Now the kicker is I think of #1 everyday of my life. I could spend the rest of my life with this women if we could work threw our problems, but she is a bad decision maker and I have a good career to think about.

2nd women:
Treats me like a fucking god. Women will do anything for me and has been living with me for 4 months now. I love this girl also, but nothing like the feelings I have for #1. #1 just got into contact with me and wants me to move out #2 and give her another shot. I'm torn between what to do.

Both girls are hot
Both girls great in the sack
#2 has a good job and is stable.
#1 has some problems and needs some therapy, but I love her and would be willing to help.

I have no fucking idea what to do????????? :worried:
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You have a bit of commitmentphobia, is all. Girl one just seems so damn appealing because you never totally have her. Girl two seems like no challenge to you so you feel like you have the luxury of deciding whether YOU are going to keep HER. Get it?
 
FRC21 said:
I do trust me. I just wonder why I lust after her? I almost feel quilty making love to #2 thinking about #1. Maybe I am just seeking her approval?
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Key word 'lust'. Lust is not love bro; she is not right for you. The mind envies and lusts after what it does not have. You've tried with her and it didn't work. Learn your lesson and don't go back or you'll fuck it up with #2 who you'll be lusting after once she's gone.
 
krishna said:
Key word 'lust'. Lust is not love bro; she is not right for you. The mind envies and lusts after what it does not have. You've tried with her and it didn't work. Learn your lesson and don't go back or you'll fuck it up with #2 who you'll be lusting after once she's gone.
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exactly

mind plays funny tricks on us at times.
 
sardonicone said:
Summary - Love fucking sucks balls, and women are evil.

~FIN

I'm off to bed now. Everyone, try not to miss me.
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ha...you heart breaker you.
 
sardonicone said:
Summary - Love fucking sucks balls, and women are evil.

~FIN

I'm off to bed now. Everyone, try not to miss me.
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you pretty much covered life in a nutshell there..

g'nite!
 
Man, oh, man.
I have been there.
I married #2. Thank gawd! Man #1 still calls. Sends me pictures of him. Says he's mad at me because I got married. Always promised to change. He would change just long enough to get me back but go back to the same b.s. once he knew we were back together.
Think about what you want for your future. Think about 5, 10, 15 years from now. Who do you think will make you happy? Maybe #1 loves you to the best of her ability but do you deserve more? If not, pick #1. If you really want a good relationship, pick #2. Love shouldn't be so much work.
 
myway said:
Man, oh, man.
I have been there.
I married #2. Thank gawd! Man #1 still calls. Sends me pictures of him. Says he's mad at me because I got married. Always promised to change. He would change just long enough to get me back but go back to the same b.s. once he knew we were back together.
Think about what you want for your future. Think about 5, 10, 15 years from now. Who do you think will make you happy? Maybe #1 loves you to the best of her ability but do you deserve more? If not, pick #1. If you really want a good relationship, pick #2. Love shouldn't be so much work.
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I was and still am guy #2 to a woman..

You'll only hear a woman say "Well, I am the best thing that has ever happened to him.. but.. but what about me? What is he to me?"

for those people who know #2 is a better choice but can't get out of that comfort zone I'd suggest that you go read "Who Moved My Cheese?" It's about change..

"love shouldn't be so much work" --exactly.. I see why you are happily married now.. :)
 
You magically think you can change #1 into what you have with #2 ... its more of a challenge for you.

it didn't work twice... and three times isn't always a charm. In the end you'll 'prolly' end up alone wishing you would have stuck with #2.
 
Frisky said:
You magically think you can change #1 into what you have with #2 ... its more of a challenge for you.

it didn't work twice... and three times isn't always a charm. In the end you'll 'prolly' end up alone wishing you would have stuck with #2.
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Very correct, because the two times I tried to make it work with #1 I always wished she would treat me as well as #2.
 
Man relationships are such a pain in the ass.

frc21 I think you should stay away from 1, what do you think will be different the 3rd time..............
 
seaking420 said:
Man relationships are such a pain in the ass.

frc21 I think you should stay away from 1, what do you think will be different the 3rd time..............
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She wants to get help, and I believe her. She also "claims" to love me more than anything. I think she wants it to work this time.
 
FRC21 said:
She wants to get help, and I believe her. She also "claims" to love me more than anything. I think she wants it to work this time.
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she wants you because 'she can't have you'
 
In reply to the original post:

You must break off all contact with #1, and you must tell her to never contact you again.

No phone
no email
destroy all pictures
she is dead to you.

And then just give it time...
 
FRC21 said:
1st women:
We met I fell crazy mad in love with the women. She never really treated me that great, but never that bad. She got pregnant about 2 months into the relationship, and for the life of us we could not get along. She ended up having an abortion, that really hurt me. I changed my number and moved on with women #2. A few months later #1 calls me and begs me back telling me I was the love of her life. I take her back, but after two attempts of trying to live together we can't make it work. We split ways for good.

Now the kicker is I think of #1 everyday of my life. I could spend the rest of my life with this women if we could work threw our problems, but she is a bad decision maker and I have a good career to think about.

2nd women:
Treats me like a fucking god. Women will do anything for me and has been living with me for 4 months now. I love this girl also, but nothing like the feelings I have for #1. #1 just got into contact with me and wants me to move out #2 and give her another shot. I'm torn between what to do.

Both girls are hot
Both girls great in the sack
#2 has a good job and is stable.
#1 has some problems and needs some therapy, but I love her and would be willing to help.

I have no fucking idea what to do????????? :worried:
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I honestly dont see the problem.

What is there to "love" about the girl behind door #1?
 
After having read the rest of this thread I have come to the conclusion that the peeps in these situations do not know the difference between lust and love.

Once you get that, it is all about finding someone you LIKE.
 
Frisky said:
You magically think you can change #1 into what you have with #2 ... its more of a challenge for you.
it didn't work twice... and three times isn't always a charm. In the end you'll 'prolly' end up alone wishing you would have stuck with #2.
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I was going to post that same thing - great minds think a like. It's an ego boost for you if you can pull it off.
 
BIKINIMOM said:
After having read the rest of this thread I have come to the conclusion that the peeps in these situations do not know the difference between lust and love.

Once you get that, it is all about finding someone you LIKE.
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There wasn't any lust on MY part in the debacle that ensued between to rival girlfriends.

I don't do lust. At least, not like the conventional person does.
 
sardonicone said:
There wasn't any lust on MY part in the debacle that ensued between to rival girlfriends.

I don't do lust. At least, not like the conventional person does.
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Darlin - WE ALL DO LUST. LOL There is no sin in it. The mess-up is when we think that pitter-patter is love.

Find someone you LIKE and RESPECT who also happens to do it for you in the sack and trust me, you will be good to go. ;)
 
BIKINIMOM said:
Darlin - WE ALL DO LUST. LOL There is no sin in it. The mess-up is when we think that pitter-patter is love.

Find someone you LIKE and RESPECT who also happens to do it for you in the sack and trust me, you will be good to go. ;)
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Silly girl, 'twas not lust. Again, I don't do that.

I'd know, since I've only had 1 sexual partner and all.

I never said I don't lust. That would be denying billions of years of evolution, designed to better increase the chances of me sharing my genetic material.

I however, don't act upon lust. There have been 2 girls that I have "loved". One I slept with, had a child with, and am now married to. The other, well, the other TRIED to get me to sleep with her, and I *almost* did.

It's a bit more complicated than that of course, but that's the jist of it.
 
sardonicone said:
Silly girl, 'twas not lust. Again, I don't do that.

I'd know, since I've only had 1 sexual partner and all.

I never said I don't lust. That would be denying billions of years of evolution, designed to better increase the chances of me sharing my genetic material.

I however, don't act upon lust. There have been 2 girls that I have "loved". One I slept with, had a child with, and am now married to. The other, well, the other TRIED to get me to sleep with her, and I *almost* did.

It's a bit more complicated than that of course, but that's the jist of it.
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I understand you completely. Very honorable of you to try to "do the right thing." Not many men like you left.

Once you get grinded down though, you will understand what I mean by LIKING a girl above lust OR love.
 
BIKINIMOM said:
I understand you completely. Very honorable of you to try to "do the right thing." Not many men like you left.

Once you get grinded down though, you will understand what I mean by LIKING a girl above lust OR love.
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I wouldn't say I'm blameless, but thank you for the compliment.

I'm sorry, what do you mean by "grinded down"?
 
sardonicone said:
I wouldn't say I'm blameless, but thank you for the compliment.

I'm sorry, what do you mean by "grinded down"?
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We all choose our roles.

By the time you get to your mid 30's - mid 40's life will have handed you some wisdom that puts love and lust in a whole nuther perspective.

LIKE AND RESPECT will move to the top of the list. Lust will be third and love is what you will find along the way during that commitment. :)
 
BIKINIMOM said:
We all choose our roles.

By the time you get to your mid 30's - mid 40's life will have handed you some wisdom that puts love and lust in a whole nuther perspective.
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Now it's this kind of tripe that I find utterly repulsive.

Age has very little to do with wisdom. It's the "living" part of live that actually dictates what you have learned.

Maybe had I grown up more "sheltered" I'd have the same naive notions about love as most people my age (though at almost 28, married, and with an 8 year old son, I'm not exactly enjoying the exuberance of youth).

However I grew up with an alcoholic abusive drug dealer of a Father, and a trollop, vindictive, lush of a Mother.

I harbor no illusions about the grandeur of the flesh and how it necessitates love.


Sorry for the mini-rant, it's just I've never been big on agism, or missplaced elitism.
 
I have been doing alot of thinking today, and I want to stay with #2. She treats me great and is very understanding. Girl #1 is more of a cancer that I cannot rid myself of, but I am a strong person. She will be forgotton.
 
She may never be forgotton, but you can get over her if you break all contact and treat her like she is an unwanted stalker.
 
sardonicone said:
Now it's this kind of tripe that I find utterly repulsive.

Age has very little to do with wisdom. It's the "living" part of live that actually dictates what you have learned.

Maybe had I grown up more "sheltered" I'd have the same naive notions about love as most people my age (though at almost 28, married, and with an 8 year old son, I'm not exactly enjoying the exuberance of youth).

However I grew up with an alcoholic abusive drug dealer of a Father, and a trollop, vindictive, lush of a Mother.

I harbor no illusions about the grandeur of the flesh and how it necessitates love.


Sorry for the mini-rant, it's just I've never been big on agism, or missplaced elitism.
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Oh darlin - you misunderstand my words. The passage of time wears you down more than experiences necessarily.

I dont know more than you do. :) Not about that at all and I am sorry that you felt that come through in my post.

This isnt about harboring illusions of the grandeur of flesh (very eloquently put, by the way). But about understanding ourselves better. It is more of - "The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know." ergo, the longer you have been alive, the more you realize how much there is still to encounter/the more points of view that you never realized existed is all I am sayin.

Remember what I told you.

You dont need to sleep with hundreds of women to understand what I am trying to say.

When we wear younger skin we are more pliable in certain regards. We are more concerned with pleasing others than we are about finding out what makes US happy because we think that this is selfish. Once we get past that stage, we re-examine ourselves and see that "this just isnt working anymore" so we embark on sort of a quest to find out what it is that works better. Along the way we discard some things, take on some new things (hopefully) and come to cherish some of the things that we discounted in our youth. And as we get older still we just dont give a fat rat's ass about what other people have decided about how we should live our lives. <---- it is at this point when we care MOST about "LIKE". :)
 
Turd Ferguson said:
This thread is useless without pics. Post up the pics of the two and let us do the pepsi challange. We can pick for you
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Isn't the pepsi challenge supposed to be a blind taste test?

I'm sorry, but I'm not down for that type of buffet.
 
sardonicone said:
Isn't the pepsi challenge supposed to be a blind taste test?

I'm sorry, but I'm not down for that type of buffet.
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Bro, how about I just come over and drug you up and take you to south beach miami and get you laid 10 times over so you forget about both these chicks?!? I'm talking by broads who barely speak a lick of english and who could suck a gallon of 10-W-40 through a stirring straw in less than 5 minutes.. sound good? k,good,talk to you later,bye :)
 
jnevin said:
I didn't read the thread, but kill them both and skip the country.
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but find this dude a job first. he'll suck cock for $$$.

anyway, frc21, you should ditch 2 and get back with 1. but you'll need to do something vastly different this time.

what i suggest is this: find a guatemalan witch doctor to put a spell on both of you (she must be present with you in front of the dude while the rites are performed). the nature of this spell is that of binding. once done, it cannot be undone, except through a complicated series of arcane rituals that involve the use of himalayan yak piss. but anyway, once cast, this incantation ensures that you both stay together not only in this life, but the next 3 lives as well. if you break up, you both will die horrible deaths. mysterious, uncontrollable, writhing agony that will leave you in apoplectic convulsions until your souls eventually scream for release and fly away into the starry sky above (you will suffer and not die until night falls, wherever you are).

that's really the best option i see for you. good luck.
 
jackangel said:
but find this dude a job first. he'll suck cock for $$$.

anyway, frc21, you should ditch 2 and get back with 1. but you'll need to do something vastly different this time.

what i suggest is this: find a guatemalan witch doctor to put a spell on both of you (she must be present with you in front of the dude while the rites are performed). the nature of this spell is that of binding. once done, it cannot be undone, except through a complicated series of arcane rituals that involve the use of himalayan yak piss. but anyway, once cast, this incantation ensures that you both stay together not only in this life, but the next 3 lives as well. if you break up, you both will die horrible deaths. mysterious, uncontrollable, writhing agony that will leave you in apoplectic convulsions until your souls eventually scream for release and fly away into the starry sky above (you will suffer and not die until night falls, wherever you are).

that's really the best option i see for you. good luck.
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LOL!!
 
T-Matt said:
Bro, how about I just come over and drug you up and take you to south beach miami and get you laid 10 times over so you forget about both these chicks?!? I'm talking by broads who barely speak a lick of english and who could suck a gallon of 10-W-40 through a stirring straw in less than 5 minutes.. sound good? k,good,talk to you later,bye :)
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I think you mean the topic starter....

Not me.

I'm fine, thank you very much.
 
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