Thoughts on relationship(help)

[Megalomaniac]

Talk to the Grump, he lived this life for like 20 something years.

I am still trying to figure why he traded "all that" for me.

Honestly? If that is REALLY how you want to live your life then just lay your cards on the table from the get go. If the women are down for that, then I say, "Why not?"

... sorta like I told my old grump from the first conversation, "Sorry I don't share. If you want to be with me then you will have to accept that I don't care how long you have lived your life *that* way. That just won't work for me." ... realizing full well that if he was not down with what worked for me then the relationship would not progress.

I let him decide for himself. There was no deception on either of our parts and is working out just fine for both of us.

Well what did "be with you" mean? I'm not looking to be with her, just be her companion. She is really smart, witty, beautiful ect. I just don't want to be responsible for both of us. For instance I live my job with the thought that if I don't like the way something goes I can say fuck it. The consequences will only be on me. However with her I would have to consider her and loose my advantage there. Much of my life has been shaped around this philosophy and adding someone in the mix forces me to adapt so much of my life.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Well what did "be with you" mean? I'm not looking to be with her, just be her companion. She is really smart, witty, beautiful ect. I just don't want to be responsible for both of us. For instance I live my job with the thought that if I don't like the way something goes I can say fuck it. The consequences will only be on me. However with her I would have to consider her and loose my advantage there. Much of my life has been shaped around this philosophy and adding someone in the mix forces me to adapt so much of my life.

He decided that he would drop his previous requirement of swinging because I told him pointblank, "Been there/done that just don't do it for me anymore so if that is a requirement FOR YOU in order to be WITH ME, then we need not be together."

So since you really don't want to be with this girl longterm then you really aren't risking much by being straight up with her. You owe that much to yourself as well. Why lie? Be straight up about what you want and need. That is only fair to her as well. If she stays then you both win. If she decides that this is not for her then you still BOTH WIN because then you are both free to move onto finding a situation that makes you both happy, it just won't be with one another.

Honesty, in these situations is ALWAYS the best policy.

 

[Megalomaniac]

He decided that he would drop his previous requirement of swinging because I told him pointblank, "Been there/done that just don't do it for me anymore so if that is a requirement FOR YOU in order to be WITH ME, then we need not be together."

So since you really don't want to be with this girl longterm then you really aren't risking much by being straight up with her. You owe that much to yourself as well. Why lie? Be straight up about what you want and need. That is only fair to her as well. If she stays then you both win. If she decides that this is not for her then you still BOTH WIN because then you are both free to move onto finding a situation that makes you both happy, it just won't be with one another.

Honesty, in these situations is ALWAYS the best policy.

I'm misrepresenting myself here I think. Actually I would like to be with her long term, just not now. I mean if she wants to hang out now that is great but I have so many other goals I am trying to achieve that I don't want the weight of a full relationship. That is why I was talking about leaving the sex out, to keep it simple. Sex usually translates to love and I'm not looking for that now, I want friendship, companionship, support both ways, and advice(not responsibility and reliability).

 

[blueta2]

I'm misrepresenting myself here I think. Actually I would like to be with her long term, just not now. I mean if she wants to hang out now that is great but I have so many other goals I am trying to achieve that I don't want the weight of a full relationship. That is why I was talking about leaving the sex out, to keep it simple. Sex usually translates to love and I'm not looking for that now, I want friendship, companionship, support both ways, and advice(not responsibility and reliability).

ahhh, then you need a cougar who has been there, done that and just wants the same thing.

Younger woman will want a commitment

 

[Megalomaniac]

It works that way if you're a rich shiek with 4 wives. Maybe you need to move to Dubai

I'm better at pulling the trigger over there, I'm not sure living in that desert would be a good location for me full time.

 

[all the whey]

Life long friend and great companion, she just wants more. I probably will in 20 years but right now I'd rather have the great sex life.

My question is there a way for me to have it all. Convince her our relationship is great and I love everything about it but yet still hook up with the other girls. Do this without damage, I could alway lie and cheat but I don't believe in that.

Don't be in a relationship.

Bang anyone you want.

 

[Smurfy]

Don't be in a relationship.

Bang anyone you want.

best post yet. (didnt even need to read the rest)

 

[chris302001]

Older wimminz are way better in bed....

 

[chris302001]

Don't be in a relationship.

Bang anyone you want.

relationships are okay.....just dont get legally attached.....

 

[javaguru]

relationships are okay.....just dont get legally attached.....

As long as they're open relationships....