Well I'm not reading all 4 pages of this particular thread, but a certain EF member had kak's original thread saved, andbrought it to my attention cause I mentioned to them months ago about the little wierdness between Raina and myself...
I just want to add in...
"Hi everyone..My name's Burning Inside...And I also had a "Raina" encounter."
From july-Sept of last year... Talked online via AIM a lot, emails daily, some phone calls. Lot of deep talks, she really seems genuinely honestly into you 110%, makes you feel like she is your soulmate. Just like other people have said, she seems like a truly nice person. She was supposedly making plans to come see me and such, she was looking up flight prices to my closest airport, etc. I got the whole story of her husband not appreciating her, and etc etc...
Anyway, I had zero hopes of ever meeting this person. I've been around the internet block so to speak more times than i can count, and i took it or what it's worth, like I do everything in life; I don't believe it until it's in front of my face. I taked to Raina as a friend, left the door open for some feelings of course, but that's about it, never went head over heels, and never will for anyone, especially on the internet, even though 99.9984739% of my dealings with females from the internet have indeed been good ones. I'm a cautious person none the less.
What i do not agree with though are people on here like nathan and Digger stating "haha told u so u deserve it (paraphrasing of course, but that's the general gist they are putting across).
That's very very ass backwards thinking coming from people who , in one's case, has met guys as friends from of EF, and in another's case helps to admin a site that is community based to begin with. The whole "told you so it's the internet" bullshit is indeed just pure bullshit as a means to back someone up. Plenty of people from this site have met other fellow EF'ers with great sucess, not just for relationships , but just for plain friends, it's a fact. You can't stand behind Raina and take her defense and say she's right and every other dude she played is wrong just because she did it by means of the bid bad internet. What anyone who takes this stance is saying really, is " well its to be expected all internet girls are psycho, and they will do this. so you have to blame the guy for being dumb"
That's a huge slap in the face to all female EF board members I'm sure, and even though I'm not a female obviously, I find it sick that people would toss out generalizations like that to the female populatoin making up this site, most of which im sure are very genuine and nice people..
Wake up folks.
Anyways, once Raina stopped emailing daily, with the esxcuses of husband issues and being stressed overall and needing time to herself, I kind of got the gist that things were going bye bye for us, and I frankly am so used to disappointment and loss in life that it was to be expected and it didn't bother me in the least. However I found out though the grapevine she moved on of course, many times apparently, like the locust she seems to be.
In my ever so humble opinion, anyone backing up Raina through this, when theres undoubtedly many many sources that can explain her misdoings, if you will, are fools. Just because it didn't happen to you, and you feel you are above and beyond welcoming female drama, makes no difference as to the situation being inherently right or wrong, wether it was done through the internet or wether it all started out from meeting a girl ina club, or supermarket, etc. Makes no difference.
Anyway Kak, my regards, and to anyone else who got played, despite how hard or easy you took it when things went sour, my condolences to you as well.