This is drivin me crazy...I don't know if I can take it anymore

[curl45]

Sorry if this is off topic or whatever, but I have no where else to turn. I feel like f**king shit right now. Heres the story: (summed up)

Okay, my girl calls me today when she gets home from school and says she is gonna go out with her sister tonight. Thats fine, no big deal. Well, she didn' t stop by my house, like she ALWAYS does (its even on the way) to start out with. So, I call her, we talk, and I ask here why she didn't stop by...she just wanted to get to her sisters house. So I ask her what shes gonna go do, and she gives me the answer,"well we are just gonna figure it out when I get there." So, to make a long story short, I go out with my buds for a while and get back around 10 or so. She said originally she was gonna call me "later." Well, I wait till like 1130 and just call her. I ask her what she is doing and this is her answer--"I"m at Tyrone's house with a bunch of guys I don't know." I ask her the normal guy question--"who is Tyrone and why are you at his house with a buch of guys??" (who by the way are all smokin weed) I then asked her why she isn't with her sister and what they did together that was SOO important that she couldn't be with me tonight. She used the excuse that I NEVER get to see my sister and I'm ALWAYS with you. But anyway, she said her and her sister spent there QUALITY "together" time fucking driving around for a while. No, I have no clue how she ended up at the guy's house. But this is driving me fucking insane that she is over there w/o me with a bunch of strange m/fking guys!! Have in mind, me and this girl do almost everything together. This is the first day we haven't seen each other since we've been together. about 5 or so months. I am truely in love with this girl and don't want to lose her. I just don't know what the fuck to do. Her cell phone went dead when I called her, and I guess that mother fucker Tyrone don't have a phone for here to use. I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUCK TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sittin here trying to drink myself to sleep. HELP ME!!!!!

OH YA, SORRY TO WINE LIKE A BABY, BUT THIS GIRL IS FUCKING AWSOME AND I DON'T WANNA LOSE HER

 

[Jeff_rys]

hate to tell you, but you already lost her

When she does to you what she is doing right now, well you will never be able to keep her.

Maybe she is the right girl for you, but it is not the other way around.

Sorry man, that's how i see it.

 

[anabolic24/7]

bitch slap her and walk away...for good.

 

[MikeyLikesJuice]

As much as you like this girl, you have to give her a break. Right now she fees like she is seeing you way too much, so as hard as this sounds, you should back off a little. Alot of girls go thought that stuff, but what I learned from experience is if you don't back off calling and where you at, and this and that, you will get her pissed off more at you, and this could turned out to be you out the door. If I where you I would wait for her to call you, as hard as it is, then when she calls act like nothing happened and just go on seeing her. I hope it works out for the best of you, especially if she's that awesome later

 

[The Ghost]

Mikey is right. If you keep calling her and asking her what she's doing and where she's at...etc, she will get tired of that. Act like you don't give a shit. I know it's hard as hell to do, but trust me my friend, it works. The more you act like you don't care, the harder she will try to gain your attention and affection. In addition, go out with your friends one night and don't call her at all. Tell her that you might call her later, but don't do it. Let her be in your shoes for once. She will re-evaluate how she goes about things in the future (if she really cares about you.)

Seriously though, the biggest mistake guys make is to turn into pansies when it comes to their girls. Yes, girls like guys with feelings, but they don't like dribbling little whiners who try to exert control over them. Believe me. You can approach the hottest girl in the world, act like she isn't shit to you, treat her like you would one of your friends, and she will fall in love with you. On the other hand, you could send her flowers, beg her for just one date, tell her how wonderful she it, and she won't think you're shit. I can't stress enough how much this actually works. It's very hard to do, but trust me, you will be happy with the results.

-TG

 

[MikeyLikesJuice]

the ghost you took the words right out of my mouth, AMEN!

 

[G-Man]

DEFIANTLY BACK OFF!!!! WHAT YOU DO IS PLAY IT VERY COOL. AND GET YOURSELF BUSY TO GET YOUR MIND OFF OF HER. THIS MIGHT SOUND SHITTY BUT IT IS OH SO TRUE. YOU CANNOT TREAT A GIRL LIKE A QUEEN ALL THE TIME. YOU HAVE TO MIX IT UP, GIRLS DO NOT LIKE INSECURITY IN A MAN. IT IS VERY UNATTRACTIVE TO THEM. BE CONFIDENT AND SHE WILL BE RUNNING BACK TO YOU. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO TREAT THEM LIKE SHIT, IT SOUNDS BAD BUT IT IS TRUE. HOPE THIS HELPS.

G-Man

 

[b007]

Absolutely, give her the space she needs without the 3rd degree. What she'll glean from that is that you care for her, respect her, and more importantly trust her. Don't get caught up in the who's, what's, why's, and where's. She *should* appreciate that.

Now don't get me wrong - an occassional night out by herself is healthy, but, if you see a pattern of them, something is wrong. So the long story short, let her have some time to herself when she needs it, but when it feel like she needs it more than time spent with you, cut her loose. You have to keep an eye out for numero uno...
b007

 

[Iron Slinger]

Don't over think things. Its my opinion that two people either click or they don't. There is no working it out, or giving space, or taking time apart. If you are suddenly uncomfortable with a persons actions move the fuck on. We have all wasted precious time and thought on relationship bull shit. People will not change for another. It works or it doesn't, PEROID!! No in between. How many wonderfull people do you really know? It doesn't happen often does it? The chances of it happening in a relationship are slim. When it happens you will probably marry that person. That might happen once in a persons lifetime. I am all for a healthy relationship. We all must dig through the mud to find gold. Don't spend days or weeks or years in the mud. I speak from experience. I wasted time being the understanding "lets work it out" type. It is pointless. I will be married in another month and I am happier than I have ever been. When you meet the right person you will be amazed at how easy a relationship can be. Don't mentally beat yourself up, she isn't. Slinger

 

[dcane1]

wrong girl for you

She obviously isn't where you are in the relationship.Break up ,if you don't and stay with her after this that is your decision.And if this shit happens again you deserve it dude.See the truth now even though it sucks.Iv'e been there dude.Make the right decision.Good luck.