Study: Pacifiers May Stunt Boys’ Emotional Development

[hanselthecaretaker]

Pacifiers May Stunt Boys’ Emotional Development | Parenting - Yahoo! Shine


Although, I know a few equally if not more immature girls too. I wonder what the reasoning is there.

 

[smurf2]

Meh, i doubt this will stop parents from using pacifiers. When that baby is screaming, you get desperate for methods to soothe them.

I tried pacifiers with both of my kids, neither was interested.

 

[cindylou]

Abby had a pacifier and still sometimes asks for one at night (she's three!) and is emotionally behind. <-- in my opinion. I hope I didn't make a mistake letting her have it for so long. I don't know why there would be a difference between boys and girls.

 

[mistaballoonhands]

I give smurf the pacifier all the time

 

[dabuffguy]

Both my nephews quit taking a pacifier before they were 6 months old.

Don't force a binky on a kid or let them suck on their thumbs.

My sister-in-law's niece was allowed to drink from a bottle until she was 5 years old and she has serious issues and it's her mother's fault.

And it's not explicitly the drinking from the bottle itself, it's the lack of discipline and not teaching the kid how to be as opposed to letting her act like a baby when she is way to old to be doing things like drinking from a bottle.

 

[nangiggles]

mom hated pacifiers, didnt allow any of us to have one, was also concerned about it's effect on teeth since there were no orthodontic ones back in the day, we weren't emotionally immature but we were introverts cuz we were overprotected though

 

[smurf2]

mom hated pacifiers, didnt allow any of us to have one, was also concerned about it's effect on teeth since there were no orthodontic ones back in the day, we weren't emotionally immature but we were introverts cuz we were overprotected though

So she was all worried about a pacifier, and she fucked you all up anyway.

We're at a retreat right now with Chris' residency progam and one of the other residents has a baby a little older than Abby. She puts her baby in cloth diapers but at the same time lets her baby eat pop tarts

 

[digimon7068]

i took my son's away from him when he was like two weeks old...and when he cried for it, i punched him in the nose...now, at age six, his emotional development is spot-on...in a freddy krueger graduates from marine boot camp sorta way

 

[nangiggles]

So she was all worried about a pacifier, and she fucked you all up anyway.

We're at a retreat right now with Chris' residency progam and one of the other residents has a baby a little older than Abby. She puts her baby in cloth diapers but at the same time lets her baby eat pop tarts

When it comes to parenting you cant fully win you're too protective or not protective enough, you're too strict or you dont have enough boundaries, there are too many parenting styles to count and they can be widely different, at the end I guess your kids are the ones with the final word.

 

[mistaballoonhands]

Dd anyone actually read the study, or are we just taking "parenting" magazines word for it?

 

[uamaverick]

Don't let your boys suck on pacifiers or they'll end up sucking dicks later on in life.

 

[mistaballoonhands]

Don't let your boys suck on pacifiers or they'll end up sucking dicks later on in life.

Take it from this guy, he knows

 

[cindylou]

They are not just talking about being 'immature' but the boys that had pacifiers lacked empathy later on in life compared to boys that didn't have a pacifier. The girls that used pacifiers didn't show a difference in empathy.

It makes me think that it isn't the pacifier itself but how the pacifier was taken away being different from girls vs boys. Maybe when a parent takes a pacifier from a boy they do it earlier, maybe they are less compassionate about it, and expect them to suck it up more verses how a parent might treat a girl. I'm just guessing.

 

[digimon7068]

They are not just talking about being 'immature' but the boys that had pacifiers lacked empathy later on in life compared to boys that didn't have a pacifier. The girls that used pacifiers didn't show a difference in empathy.

It makes me think that it isn't the pacifier itself but how the pacifier was taken away being different from girls vs boys. Maybe when a parent takes a pacifier from a boy they do it earlier, maybe they are less compassionate about it, and expect them to suck it up more verses how a parent might treat a girl. I'm just guessing.

when my girls hurt themselves i baby them, when my boy hurts himself i tell him to suck it up...so, yes...i'm less compassionate with him...i think that's normal...my girls are tough, but my son is tougher...nobody likes a whiny-ass boy.

 

[smurf2]

when my girls hurt themselves i baby them, when my boy hurts himself i tell him to suck it up...so, yes...i'm less compassionate with him...i think that's normal...my girls are tough, but my son is tougher...nobody likes a whiny-ass boy.

Moms and Dads don't tend to treat their kids the same. Moms baby them more

 

[digimon7068]

Moms and Dads don't tend to treat their kids the same. Moms baby them more

when the girls whine about something, i/we remind them what the rules are and what's expected of them and if they persist, they start losing their stuff...when my son whines, he does pushups, then he's reminded of the rules and what's expected of him and if he persists, he starts losing his stuff...and he does more pushups.

and, honestly? i think my wife is more of a hardliner than me

 

[tryin2tone]

Moms and Dads don't tend to treat their kids the same. Moms baby them more

I've always told my son to suck it up, if it ain't broke or he ain't bleedin, he don't need to be crying.

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[digimon7068]

I've always told my son to suck it up, if it ain't broke or he ain't bleedin, he don't need to be crying.

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broken = ok to cry

bleeding = suck it up

he started wrestling last year in kindergarten...one night at practice, he took a shot in the mouth and started bleeding...he runs over to me and says "my mouth is bleeding" and i told him to "wipe it off and keep practicing, your partner is standing there waiting for you"...he's standing there looking at me and i say "come with me"...the high school boys were practicing right before us, so i walk him over to the garbage can in the corner of the room and i say "look in the garbage can and tell me what you see" and he looks in and says "a bunch of bloody paper towels", then he looked at me and i said "you're not so special, now clean up your face and go wrestle".

 

[tryin2tone]

broken = ok to cry

bleeding = suck it up

he started wrestling last year in kindergarten...one night at practice, he took a shot in the mouth and started bleeding...he runs over to me and says "my mouth is bleeding" and i told him to "wipe it off and keep practicing, your partner is standing there waiting for you"...he's standing there looking at me and i say "come with me"...the high school boys were practicing right before us, so i walk him over to the garbage can in the corner of the room and i say "look in the garbage can and tell me what you see" and he looks in and says "a bunch of bloody paper towels", then he looked at me and i said "you're not so special, now clean up your face and go wrestle".

Yep, that's the kind of mom I am. Other moms looked down their nose at me cause they thought I should've cared more. I always told them, if it was serious I would.

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[cindylou]

when my girls hurt themselves i baby them, when my boy hurts himself i tell him to suck it up...so, yes...i'm less compassionate with him...i think that's normal...my girls are tough, but my son is tougher...nobody likes a whiny-ass boy.

Lol I hear you. I'm not talking about when babbies/toddlers hurt themselves physically. I'm talking about how parents deal with transitional objects in boys vs girls, dealing with difficult emotions in boys vs girls, self soothing etc being different with boys vs girls.

FWIW I baby Abby when she hurts herself if only so she knows that I care. It's not really about the actual 'boo boo'.

 

[digimon7068]

Yep, that's the kind of mom I am. Other moms looked down their nose at me cause they thought I should've cared more. I always told them, if it was serious I would.

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it's hard to look at him sometimes and tell him to suck it up...but, eventually, i would like him to be a man...and that's part of being a man imho...suck it up...man up...cowboy up...however you say it, where ever you live...that's my expectation for him.

 

[cindylou]

Yep, that's the kind of mom I am. Other moms looked down their nose at me cause they thought I should've cared more. I always told them, if it was serious I would.

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I think it's good to follow your intuition. If that is what your gut was telling you to do, then screw the other moms.

I threw away my parenting books <3

 

[ceo]

screw the other moms.

Oh I definitely agree with this!!

 

[mistaballoonhands]

I've always told my son to suck it up, if it ain't broke or he ain't bleedin, he don't need to be crying.

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That's just the butch tits in ya

 

[tryin2tone]

That's just the butch tits in ya

That's just the ain't no son of mine going to be a pussy.
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