Something awful happened - advice please.

[HighIntensity]

STOP CRYING YOU FUCKIN SLUT, YOU MADE YOU BED LITERALLY NOW LIE IN IT!

 

[TxArmyGuy]

Is your boyfriend in the national guard or something??Perhaps I'm missunderstanding what you are saying about him living in NM when he's not doing his army thing? back to the subject at hand

Personally I think your a lost little girl....Have patience your path with find you...It's not comming across as if you know anything about what your talking about(feelings, what you want, how your handling this). Or maybe I'm the only one who's getting that feeling by reading this.

No worries a year ago at 21 I was as lost as could be...Lucky for me I was forced into getting all my eggs lined up, and now a year later growing into myself is alot better. The sun will shine tomorrow, even if it's Raining over you 2day. Worry about school, cause your Ranger is probably not thinking about you the way your envisioning...I'd say right about now when he has time to think about you...Maybe 1 or 2 thoughts in a Day he's thinking about the sex

All and all what you did wasn't all that bad, but if you feel that it was then you have to figure out what your going to do to make things right. Nothing that is said on here is truly going to make you feel any better

 

[Mandinka2]

Well Well Well

VG, I was in a relationship for over two years with a lady from a different country , never cheated on her , it ended when she cheated on me , and she even had my name tattooed on her ass. But you need to look at yourself , do you deserve such a great person as you describe? Do you wish him to be happy , then don'T you think that he deserves someone who will make him happy since you obviously cannot fulfill that role. But all of these issues are secondary now , because he is waiting for you believing in your virtue when you do not have any. And there is nothing worse than decieving someone you say you love so you must tell him everything , ESPECIALLY the dry fucking part. Of course he will be hurt but at least he will know that you did not care about him enough not to do it. You speak of a high sex drive, I've got the highest of any of my male friends but I've never cheated.

BKM - I'm so dissappointed in you , define "cheating"? I thought by defining a "relationship" one would neccessarily exclude cheating from that.
Kali - will you marry me?

Every man makes his home between the legs of the woman he loves. It's ok to stop off in a hotel now and again but no one wants to live there.

 

[WODIN]

LMAO!!!

Beast thread ever!

 

[Bikini Mod]

I just got home and I read all but the last page so far, and i realize I need to clear a few things up. NO, I DID NOT FUCK ANOTHER GUY BEHIND MY BOYFRIEND'S BACK.

We had agreed upon an unexclusive relationship. I called him up and told him I wanted to get with this guy I worked with, because the guy had invited me over after work. My boyfriend said that was cool, as long as I made up my mind ahead of time what I was going to do. I told him I wasnt planning on having sex with the guy and not to worry about it. Well shit went its way and I couldn't resist and we fucked.

DOES THAT CHANGE YOUR CRITICAL TUNE, ANY, FRACKAL AND BMOM?

NO.

First off you are talking out of both ends of your mouth. You keep defining and REdefining the terms of your relationship and keep crossing the boundaries REGARDLESS.

I never called you slut/whore whatever. I wouldn't do that because that shit is uncalled for and way beyond immature.

All I said was that you were clearly too immature for a serious and longterm committed relationship. How did I come to this conclusion? BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU WROTE. (Refer to paragraph one)

You can go on and on about how much you love this guy and how lonely you are. Try living in the same house with a man that you pledged to spend the rest of your life loving, not even speaking...

THAT IS LONELY. You have no clue what lonely is.

And if you want to go there about long distance relationships with me, don't. Because unfortunately - BEEN THERE - DOING THAT.

Mandinka, you put up the quote about hotels and say that you are disappointed in me? That just proves what I was saying. That a man will lie to reel you in. Not because he necessarily loves you and wants ONLY YOU, but because he doesn't want you to sleep with another guy. I am sorry but that is GRADE A FUCKED UP.

I was faithfull to my ex for over 12 years... until one night that my head hit the ground. Was I faithfull because I made a promise? Yes, but that is only part of the equation. The stronger part was because I truly found no other man attractive. Why was that? BECAUSE I LOVED ONLY HIM.

If you treat a grown mature woman with kindness, decency, respect and love than you will not have to embellish bullshit lies by going on and on about how you want to spend the rest of your life with her while treating her like an afterthought. She will remain faithfull regardless.

 

[Manu]

I think you have NO idea what love really is. Because what you call love..we call being a horny little easy tramp who fools around with every guy she invites home.

funny, women like you are always the first to come whining that their "guy" is cheating on them. And then we're all supposed to hold hands and feel "sorry" for you. Nyuh huh, B.I.T.C.H.S. don't play that game!

-= nav =-

You put it very clear.

 

[Mandinka2]

Mandinka, you put up the quote about hotels and say that you are disappointed in me? That just proves what I was saying. That a man will lie to reel you in. Not because he necessarily loves you and wants ONLY YOU, but because he doesn't want you to sleep with another guy. I am sorry but that is GRADE A FUCKED UP.

I was faithfull to my ex for over 12 years... until one night that my head hit the ground. Was I faithfull because I made a promise? Yes, but that is only part of the equation. The stronger part was because I truly found no other man attractive. Why was that? BECAUSE I LOVED ONLY HIM.

If you treat a grown mature woman with kindness, decency, respect and love than you will not have to embellish bullshit lies by going on and on about how you want to spend the rest of your life with her while treating her like an afterthought. She will remain faithfull regardless.

Actually BKM , it's not a quote or at least I've never heard it , it was something I just came to realize after I was truly in love with someone. I spent 3 months with this person in a tiny room in a country where I couldn'T speak the language with no t.v. and it was absolutely tremendous.
You are also EXTREMELY wrong and I want you now to poust your logic behind the statement that "a man will lie to reel you in". IN both cases where I was in love , the woman told me that they loved me before I did and in both instances they cheated. Just in case you're wondering no one else has ever cheated on me. I posted on this before and asked whether you though that this was a coincidence and you said no. I do not expect that a woman does not find others attractive - that is not to be human but that she would not wish to act on her impulse becasue she feels that she has something better and respects me (which is a part of love).

 

[Bikini Mod]

I am sorry that those women treated you that way, just as I am sorry that the men that I have been encountering have treated me a certain way.

It is plain old fucked up when ANYONE takes advantage of ANYONE ELSE. The gender doesn't matter.

I am still trying to understand why a man would come on so strong while the woman is saying, "No, no ... this is too much too soon." Then as soon as she lets her guard down and lets him into her world (NONE of which she hid from him, the # of kids, her struggles AND THE CRAZY EX that won't go away until one of us is dead) and then he is like, "Woh! This is more than I bargained for...."

I just don't understand why GROWN MEN with vast life experience would do this to a decent woman who is exactly what she portrays herself to be.

Not whining about it, just don't understand it.

The girl who originated these threads is confused and young. Comes here to "unload" her guilty consciense, threatens suicide, then gets her panties in a bind when no one is going for it.

You know the difference between accepting responsibility for your own behavior and blaming others for your mistakes is Darlin'? MATURITY.

I have made more mistakes then I care to remember. But the bottom line is that regardless of the situation I accept responsibility for my role.

You are waaaaaay too immature to even scratch the surface of what love is as your actions and your words clearly indicate.

I am sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is the truth.

What is done is done. Learn from it and move on. That is all I am trying to say. No need for drama and handwringing, tearing your clothing and shouting to the heavens for forgiveness.

 

[FreakMonster]

DAMN!! Talk about a slut with ISSUES!!!!

 

[PolishHammer1977]

I DIDN'T FUCK HIM. It was just carressing and cuddling and brushing our lips over eachother without kissing. At one point we did dry fuck though. That's why i'm saying its no more than what could happen at a club.

V,
Suicide is never a solution, it is a means to an end. A "cop-out". It leaves a slew of unanswered questions and hurt behind along with it.
You cheated on your boyfriend. "Dry-fuck" or not. A guy was on top of you simulating a sexual act.
Be honest with your BF. I would write to him and tell him to get it off your chest. It may motivate him more.
You can inspire so many people with YOUR life. Use it wisely bc you only have one. There's no second chances.

Hammer