So my wife officially left me yesterday

[BBR100]

Really sorry to hear this woody. Get yourself a lawyer quickly. You need his guidance to know how to proceed.

It's brutal when all of a sudden you're alone no matter how well you probably knew this was coming.

Keep busy and try not to get caught up in the "woe's me" feeling. You don't know this now but down the road, you'll proly realize that it's for the best.

Good luck!

 

[SpyWizard]

another thing that will be good for you mind is to reset his bedroom, get a bed he will like, set up his toys and be ready for him to come see his dad in his new room..

and or consider looking for a new place for sure, and have that room ready for him..will be good for you and for him..

 

[nydj66]

Do they really do that?

I don't have a lawyer yet and I have no idea what to expect.

I'm sincerely, truly sorry man.

You should go ahead and get a lawyer. Soon you will get a subpoena, if you have a lawyer it can go right to him. Getting served in front of coworkers sucks almost as bad as the empty house does.

Get through one day at a time...one hour at a time if you need to.

Mostly you just have to wait. That sucks but almost anything you do now will make it worse. Don't write her notes, email, texts or leave voicemail. It will be used against you, I promise. Do your best not to lose your temper, you'll be sorry if you do.

Life will be shitty for a while, but I promise it won't last forever.

 

[SpyWizard]

I'm going to give you a saying that was told to me while i went though this, i didn't appreciate it at the time, but some 2 yrs later i did and I'm living it ..

"The best revenge is to go out and make obscene amounts of money "

and it's so true..

 

[smurf2]

Woody, I'm sorry to hear this. Hopefully between the two of you, you will be able to see your son very soon.

 

[TheSVPdeal]

I would set up a schedule where you have him immediately...and I honestly can't imagine you not having court ordered counseling together as a judges terms of divorce proceeding given the circumstance

You are so right about this, Shirlene.

Trust me, Woody. Your next steps are crucial. You need to demonstrate NOW that you want 50% custody or you will lose it as a pattern of visitation is being established.

PM me for any advice. This is serious and I'd she intends on leaving you for good and you do not do what needs to be done now, you'll be sorry.

 

[Ffactor]

OMG my friend! Whatever choices you make next keep your cool and use your judgement. Don't let your wife make this difficult for your kids

 

[mrplunkey]

I'm really sorry to hear this.

 

[-SD-]

Congrats bro you ARE FREE!!!

STFU you fucking goddam waste of skin. The man had his child taken from him and his family is torn apart.

 

[lander2312]

I am sorry to hear this. I have lived through this about 8 years ago and there are a few things that you def have to do. Starting tomorrow always consider every conversation you have with your wife or any of her family to be recorded. NEver lose your temper on the phone or in person. Every thing you do can be brought up in court so stay strong remember you are fighting for you child now. I know you say she isnt like that to yourself but remember she said she wont let you see the kids until a lawyer decides a game plan. well thats bullshit. you have a right and like stated earlier if you dont show desire to be part of there life now it will look poorly on you later in court. Go buy a recorder and call her every day asking for the kids....that way you have proof that she has used the kids against you and also shows you have tried to be there for them eveyday. I know this sounds kinda crappy but the stakes are way too high here not to take every precaution you can.