So my wife officially left me yesterday

[TheSVPdeal]

I came home from work to find all her stuff, and most of the kids clothes gone.

The same thing happened to me a year ago, Man. I'm sorry Bro.

This has been a very challenging time for me but I have decided to take the opportunity to become a better man. I don't know what your wishes are but mine are to have my family back together. In the mean time, I am working on becoming a well rounded person that deserves it.

I'm sure that everyone will offer to talk to you about this, they do with me and I will for you too.

Do your best, Dude.

 

[digimon7068]

jeezuz woodpile...that sux...was this something that was in the works for a while or a total surprise? she never really completely "recovered" (not that anyone really does) from the death of your child did she?

 

[WoodyO]

She first told me she was unhappy last October. She wanted some time away from me, but I didn't want to let her take the kids. Instead I took the sofa and she kept the bed. Things slowly got better, and we started doing more things together 2012.

We had another falling out around Easter, and she left briefly, when she returned I lost my temper and told her to leave again, but I wouldn't let her take the kids. Every since Easter we've been arguing a lot over stupid shit, and just airing our issues with each other from the last 9 years. Our oldest (my stepdaughter) heard us fighting a lot and questioned her mother. I think this was enough to push her over the edge.

When I left on Monday morning she told me she was calling a lawyer, and I kind of guessed that I'd come home to find her gone. I wasn't expecting boxes everywhere and all their belongings gone.

It's rough seeing the 4 years old's closet empty and all his monster trucks scattered around the house. It's like someone snatched him away from me.

 

[sterolizer]

jeezuz woodpile...that sux...was this something that was in the works for a while or a total surprise? she never really completely "recovered" (not that anyone really does) from the death of your child did she?

I hope thats not the reason she left you, that's a really selfish act on her if that's true. You are just as much effected from the loss as her. And especially to split up your kids from you, in still a mourning period is simply insane.

 

[WoodyO]

jeezuz woodpile...that sux...was this something that was in the works for a while or a total surprise? she never really completely "recovered" (not that anyone really does) from the death of your child did she?

No she didn't. The first time she told me she wanted away from me was at the 1 year anniversary of his death. Things have steadily gotten worse since then.

 

[shirlene29]

I would set up a schedule where you have him immediately...and I honestly can't imagine you not having court ordered counseling together as a judges terms of divorce proceeding given the circumstance

 

[shirlene29]

Im really sorry this is how things are playing out for you

 

[WoodyO]

did she leave a note or something?

I texted her last night asking if she was going to keep the kids away from me. she responded that she would never do that, but I couldn't see them until her lawyer came up with a game plan.

She took some of my recent financial information, so I'm guessing the lawyer wants to take everything. I don't think she's vindictive enough to do that though.

My stepdaughter texted me a few times this morning asking if she could come over and get their Disneyland passes. They're out having fun while I'm miserable.

 

[WoodyO]

I would set up a schedule where you have him immediately...and I honestly can't imagine you not having court ordered counseling together as a judges terms of divorce proceeding given the circumstance

Do they really do that?

I don't have a lawyer yet and I have no idea what to expect.

 

[sterolizer]

I would be sure to get yourself a lawyer right away too.