Should adult children who still live with their parents pay room and board?

[DJLegacy2k5]

Anyone saying this kid should pay rent is WAY off base. Seriously? The kid is going to school, barely making enough to cover his own bills and expenses it would seem and he doesn't seem to be causing any problems at home. This sounds to me like the mom is just a BITCH that wants extra money for herself. Taking the little money the kid is making just screws him! How is he supposed to afford to be able to move out on his own if he is busy paying for his MOM'S bills. This lady sounds like SHE is the one that needs to get HER life together, not the other way around!

-Legacy

 

[IrightI]

lolol...yeah...this is how it rolls in our house
Greg will twenty dollar to death an account and have no idea what he spent the money on

not at MY house. My money is MY money, and MY money is HER money. But HER money is her money. I spend MOST of my money on her. She doesn't ask/want/need for shit! Must be nice...... lol

 

[musclemom]

In all honesty I'm glad for the input in this thread. It's given me a lot of food for thought, both in terms of arming your children with practical tools for use in the outside world, and what rights parents have. I also don't think enough people teach their children how to create, balance and stick to a budget, the necessity of savings or the proper use of credit. Most people are more worried that their kid gets their driver's license than helping them figure out how they will have the monthly money to pay for the insurance, gas and repairs.

I think the realistic solution is that you shouldn't allow your adult children to take advantage of your good nature, doing so is tantamount to allowing a little child all the candy they want, whenever they want it. But I think turning your kid into an additional revenue stream, taking advantage of your own child because the kid is in a financially vulnerable position and has to rely on you, is flat out evil. Particularly if you're leaving the kid so strapped that they can't put money away and you aren't putting any away for them, but using their "rent" money to pay for your trip to Hawaii or a custom seat for your motorcycle.

 

[-SD-]

Financial education in high school in america is severely lacking.

 

[DJLegacy2k5]

in all honesty i'm glad for the input in this thread. It's given me a lot of food for thought, both in terms of arming your children with practical tools for use in the outside world, and what rights parents have. I also don't think enough people teach their children how to create, balance and stick to a budget, the necessity of savings or the proper use of credit. Most people are more worried that their kid gets their driver's license than helping them figure out how they will have the monthly money to pay for the insurance, gas and repairs.

I think the realistic solution is that you shouldn't allow your adult children to take advantage of your good nature, doing so is tantamount to allowing a little child all the candy they want, whenever they want it. But i think turning your kid into an additional revenue stream, taking advantage of your own child because the kid is in a financially vulnerable position and has to rely on you, is flat out evil. Particularly if you're leaving the kid so strapped that they can't put money away and you aren't putting any away for them, but using their "rent" money to pay for your trip to hawaii or a custom seat for your motorcycle.

exactly!

 

[SpyWizard]

i think you have it.. the mom is either motivating him to make a commitment to going full time, or she is looking at him as a meal ticket to supplement her income, much as he has been to her his whole life..

good luck..

 

[redshirt27se]

Making the kid pay rent is bogus. He's 20 years old, I highly doubt he wants to live at home with is mom. Seems likely that it's because he can't afford a place of his own. If he had graduated and was just bumming around, that'd be one thing, but it seems like he's trying to better himself. In this situation taking money out of your own child's pocket just seems wrong to me.

 

[shirlene29]

not at MY house. My money is MY money, and MY money is HER money. But HER money is her money. I spend MOST of my money on her. She doesn't ask/want/need for shit! Must be nice...... lol

and we tried this experiment once.....its not that he can't spend his money, he can't have every day access to it or he just nickel and dimes it to death...

its kinda how bill mentioned earlier in the thread..

but more like
"do we have the money to go buy a new snowblower?"
"yeah sure, how much you wanna spend"
"uhhh like 3 grand?"
"uhm, really? try again"
"ok, 1500"
"yeah, take it out of account xyz..and buy a cover for it too while your at it"

and I make sure all the bills are paid...his allowance is a lil bigger than bills tho...hmmm
he is incapable of keeping track of everything and not fucking up

 

[bakemeacookie]

Enough people on this board are in the under 20 age range that they have experience with it or know someone who has: Let's say the kid in question is 20, goes to college part time and is steadily employed part time with variable hours, say minimum of 20 hrs. but never more than 35, at $9.20/hr. Kid is still living at home and has a room, food, use of all utilities, but pays for all personal stuff (i.e., clothes, all car related expenses including insurance, all college expenses, etc.).

What, if any, is a reasonable monthly charge?

Follow up question, does the parent have any responsibility, assuming they are financially able, to be putting a portion of the "rent" aside with the intent of giving it back to the kid when they finally do move out?

family is more important the money. I feel bad for you if you feel money is the most important thing.

One pays if they want to support the family - if they can't afford it, they can't afford it.

c

 

[javaguru]

I stopped sponging off the parents when I was eighteen..They're an adult and should have the same responsibilities of other adults; Like college is an excuse for being a slacker/parasite....That government welfare check (student loan) is supposed to cover living expenses...not living plus partying and spring break expenses.