Should adult children who still live with their parents pay room and board?

[shirlene29]

I've actually had a few adult friends move in with us because they were up against some crappy circumstances including my ex-husbands brother

I never charged rent in those instances but, do your own laundry, supply your own food or contribute something to a family meal..help around the house and likely get stuck with babysitting and dog walking for me
no drugs, no drinking and a curfew that needn't be strictly held, just be considerazte and let me know if youre not comin in until an obscene hr so I can leave a light on and not freak in the middle of the night

charging rent really just kept people in my house longer
for one friend that was financially immature, at their agreement, we made an excel spread sheet of their bills and savings goals and they handed over their entire paycheck to me and got a daily allowance from me. I was like an escrow account.
I had every one of his overdue bills paid in a month and he learned to live on a budget
that was extreme but he got his shit together quick that way

for your own kid thats in school even just part time??? no rent but similar to above..I would probably even go the escrow account route with tem if they were earning a salary..but my 14 yr old has her own checking account through a teen account program at my bank..the whopping 60 bucks a week I get for her child support goes into her savings account, not that she knows that


the ex wife is a douche in your sitch MM

 

[cindylou]

I've kicked around the idea of when my son is older and has a job in HS about charging him rent. I'd only do that not to be a dick and take his money but to keep him from wasting it on stupid shit (see glad thread). I'd put it in an account for him and save it and give it back to him when he's ready to purchase a house.

idk...johnny's mom did that for him and he had a ton of money when he finished school but at the same time never learned discipline on how to manage the money he had.

For example, his mother took half of his checks but he was able to blow the rest. When he got out in the real world I thought he was responsible..when it was really his mother who set up him to succeed..when we got married he expected me to be the one that had the discipline to do the saving and he wanted me to give him an "allowance" so he could blow whatever he had and not have to worry about it or paying bills.

 

[-SD-]

idk...johnny's mom did that for him and he had a ton of money when he finished school but at the same time never learned discipline on how to manage the money he had.

For example, his mother took half of his checks but he was able to blow the rest. When he got out in the real world I thought he was responsible..when it was really his mother who set up him to succeed..when we got married he expected me to be the one that had the discipline to do the saving and he wanted me to give him an "allowance" so he could blow whatever he had and not have to worry about it or paying bills.

looks like his mom actually prepared him for how most marriages operate lol

 

[cindylou]

looks like his mom actually prepared him for how most marriages operate lol

ewwww. I don't want to be someone's Mommy.

 

[shirlene29]

looks like his mom actually prepared him for how most marriages operate lol

lolol...yeah...this is how it rolls in our house
Greg will twenty dollar to death an account and have no idea what he spent the money on

 

[miplank]

idk...johnny's mom did that for him and he had a ton of money when he finished school but at the same time never learned discipline on how to manage the money he had.

For example, his mother took half of his checks but he was able to blow the rest. When he got out in the real world I thought he was responsible..when it was really his mother who set up him to succeed..when we got married he expected me to be the one that had the discipline to do the saving and he wanted me to give him an "allowance" so he could blow whatever he had and not have to worry about it or paying bills.

Well, I can understand not quite figuring out how to manage your money as a teenager but by the time you're old enough to be on your own you should've damn well figured out that how much you can spend and should save.

 

[miplank]

Hell, even my 4 year old has that shit figured out.


Just the other day I helped him count his piggy bank and then told him how much he had. I asked him what he was going to do with it and he told me he was going to save it to buy more toys. He doesn't quite have the concept of $100 vs. $10 figured out but he knows that he has to save his money to get the things he wants and that to get that money he has to help out around the house. Right now it's minor shit like picking up his toys, or throwing some trash away for me when i'm too lazy to get off the couch. lol

 

[cindylou]

Thats good mitch. I remember when I would earn a dollar and I could wait to spend it. My Dad kept telling me if I just WAITED and saved I could buy something better but there was no way I could wait. lol

I didn't learn how to delay gratification until I was older. lol

 

[miplank]

lol,

He's pretty good at it. I let him save up for the toy he wants and then buy it with my money and then take the money from his piggy bank and put it in his savings account.

 

[billfred]

looks like his mom actually prepared him for how most marriages operate lol

That is the way it works in my house. I get $100 / week allowance and I better not ever hear mention of a bill. Stresses me out.

We go to nice hotels and I have to go to the car when the bill is paid. Just ruins the trip if I see it.

Wait..I think I got a raise to $120/week this year.